Open Letter to Kate from a Parenting Mentor

The letter was a result of Kate speaking in Detroit. Enjoy.

76 comments:

Liesl said...

Ooooh....burn....

GRY said...

Now this is a public slap in the face from an organization which actually dealt with her and discovered her true nature. So it's not all rumors and innuendo.

Of course Kate will never see this letter if her handlers and yes people have anything to say about it and they'll insulate her from the painful truth.

As has been mentioned countless times here I do think there is something psychologically wrong with her. There are deep, deep issues at work in her personality which keeps her from understanding and empathizing with anyone else.

As for her sham of a marriage I think the jig is up and even though popular opinion is that Jon will go along with next season I think he's going to get to he point where he can't take it anymore and money or no money will pull the plug. Not the least of which is to save the children from their stage mother.

Kate wants fame fortune and everything else under the sun and she acts like any South American dictator would and demands it while severely punishing anyone around her who fails to comply with her expectations, she has absolutely no respect for anyone else nor can she comprehend why anyone would dislike her(sociopathy anyone?).

That she's been taken to task by a parenting magazine's president/publisher in an open letter is tantamount to pointing out the big pink elephant standing in the middle of the room. Other such organizations are bound to sit up and take notice and they might even listen and not participate in the charade any longer.

I take this as one of the signs that the negative publicly is beginning to infiltrate her core audience(mothers who think Kate is a role model) and it won't leave them untouched.

Niki said...

That is probably one of the best articles I have EVER read about Kate.

KatesNoMom said...

The only thing that is missing in this "letter" is the fact that any of these "perks" that Kate has received are ONLY because she has paraded her eight children across America's TV screens ad nauseum. She has done NOTHING on her own to earn any of these perks. I am so very disgusted by this haughty, shallow, so-called "loving mother".

just wondering said...

I emailed this article to Zondervan and Figure 8 earlier today.

I want these people to know what the world really thinks of Kate and that there is not enough damage control in the world to save Kate. There are more of us than there are of them.

Chomp, chomp, chomp.. One little bite at a time..

ratherbkayaking said...

What an exceptionally well written letter. BRAVO!!!!

renee said...

i know i'm crazy here. but i'm hoping that she will actually read this and take it to heart. now maybe she will realize that these feelings are not just the rantings of a bunch of bored housewives on a blog or message board. now they are the published feelings of a respected parent and entrepenuer. she really needs to take a look at that family she says is so important to her and actually focus on salvaging it. she's already lost her husband. whats next. what else will she sacrifice to be rich and famous....

lori said...

ZING!!!!!! That was great!

M said...

All I can is "Touche"

Very well written by this author.

AnneMarie said...

I disagree heartily with this one statement. "Kate, you are entitled to have it all."

She's done nothing to deserve it ALL, nothing at ALL.

Charlaine said...

The author was very gracious in how she thoroughly set Katie Irene straight. I thought the "open letter" was very concise, very well written and very informative. I would have been utterly embarrassed to have someone diss me so gracefully in public. Then again, I never would have behaved like Katie Irene in the first place.

SuzyQ said...

What an apropos and eloquently written letter! I'm glad that there are professionals that are seeing through this fraud.

Serena said...

But that doesn't mean that you need to be haughty or carry an air of self-privilege at the expense of others. Otherwise, you risk being seen as an opportunistic "Octo-mom" looking for fame and glory.

Oops... too late. In fact it was Kate who set the example and paved the way for Nadya.

GRY said...

From the article:

"I think, however, you forgot one very important lesson that is also a crucial skill for parents, Kate. Graciousness is a critical skill and attribute for all parents. You failed to show any graciousness in your appearance last week. I did not find you to be a particularly kind, warm or nice person. You were unfriendly and actually quite aloof and rude to your hosts and sponsors. There were many people in the audience who perceived a sense of snootiness as well. I know because they came up to me afterward and mentioned it."
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Anyone who is stupid enough to bite the hand that feeds them deserves everything they get.
People say she's being a good and smart businesswoman, well in my book customer service with a smile comes first and she can't even manage that much with an army of helper, PR agents and bodyguards.

I call Kate Gosselin the "Anti-mom", the opposite of everything a mother should be and a role model of what to avoid in parenting.
My bet is she dumps the "horde" of kids when they reach their teenage years as they will not longer be of any use to her. I can definitely see it in her.

Maelstrom said...

Bravo Ms. Alyssa Martina!!!

{applause, applause, applause}

Miss Brown Betti said...

When I read this post I had a grin on my face from ear to ear. Like Liesl said "Oooooh burn" If I could I would send a dozen red roses to the author. She sure got her point across with some jabs but done is a graceful way. Waaaay to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and....Kate will read it mark my word!

Boo Kate said...

After I read this post I stood up and clapped at the computer screen until my sons came in and asked me what I was doing? They dont like Kate either. All 4 of them!

Taylor Taylor said...

http://www.usmagazine.com/news/jon-kate-and-i-going-through-a-lot-2009215?page=1&utm_source=newsletter&amp%3Butm_medium=email&amp%3Butm_campaign=daily

Us Weekly also reports that Jon saw his sextuplets as his "meal ticket" and Kate's former baby nurse confirms Kate talked to the McCaughey sextuplet family for advice on getting freebies.

DeeB said...

Well put. Even if Kate read this open letter I wonder if she is emotionally or psychologically capable of understanding it. That's the rub.

BMWoP said...

GRY said...

My bet is she dumps the "horde" of kids when they reach their teenage years as they will not longer be of any use to her. I can definitely see it in her.

5/21/2009 4:36 PM


Yep! Just like she has dumped her entire family and Beth and Bob, and God only knows who else. When she has no use for you anymore, you are kicked to the curb ( you, too, Babymama ). This is exactly why her marriage is doomed. She has no use for Jon anymore. She had her kids and now a butt-load of money and no longer needs anything from him.

I think it's time these people kick HER to the curb for a change.

I don't think this woman has forgiven or apologized or has ever repaired a relationship in her entire life. She doesn't have that forgiveness characteristic in her. She must've been at the spa the day God was passing that out.

I can totally see her witholding visitation with the kids from him, just to be mean and ugly. I hope he fights hard for those kids and saves them from this momster.

Philly Hockey Mom said...

Excellent! It is about time someone told it like it is. You know that the churches that had her wouldn't think it was christian like to say anything bad about her. Hopefully, this will give other organizations/churches a cause to pause and not book her!

gameover said...

I was at a sheepie site and I can't believe what they are saying about this article.
They claim the author, Alyssa Martina has "no class" because she is a representative of an organization that hired Kate for the event and that she is just upset because Kate was not warm and cozy.
Also, they knock her title of "parenting coach" and this is the kicker:
"Don't you just love the way she claims how happy they were to have Kate come, but then gets a dig in about Kate being away from her family?"

I guess it just blows my mind how blind these people are!!! Wow...just wow!!!!

jill said...

I disagree heartily with this one statement. "Kate, you are entitled to have it all."

She's done nothing to deserve it ALL, nothing at ALL.

I agree! All the families at St. Jude's hospital deserve it all. The woman that goes to bed at night praying her husband does not get killed in Iraq deserves it all. So many people deserve it all.

Kate Gosselin, you are like a child that needs to be spanked and put to bed without freebies!

anne said...

Consider this letter fair warning to anyone else looking to book Kate Gosselin.

My between the lines take -- she sucks!

Crock said...

another reason I'm proud to be from Michigan :)

motorcitymom said...

I also took offense to the author's use of the word "entitlement." But I also think that this may be a bit of reverse psychology here.

What I think it probably so interesting in this is that this woman (and I don't know her background but she sounds like she's had some educmacation in psychology) could probably see right through this.

I live in the Detroit area, but I wouldn't pee on Kate Gosselin if her hair was on fire (but I would if it wasn't). I really thought it was offensive that she was coming into this town, and she and her flack are charging $150 to have tea with the queen. If she had any kind of heart or appreciation for where she came from in life, she'd do like Jay Leno and have an open, free appearance at target or something and handed out diapers or fruit roll ups. Use her D-list celebrity status for good, not to line her own pockets. (I'm referring to Jay Leno coming to Detroit to perform for free for 2 nights to give the town a boost)

Anyway, I've talked to death on here about how offended i am at her coming to Detroit. Of all the places to put her hand out. I'm almost glad she was haughty to people here, though, because there's one thing Detroiters see right through, and that's a giant pile of BS, and Angela Martinez totally called her out on it!

ntvnat.com said...

Keight says she's considering leaving the country to escape the paparazzi.

Funny she considers leaving the COUNTRY before she considers leaving TLC!!!

God, can you imagine it: "Kate & Eight's French Chateau"

She can also escape the IRS from collecting a percentage of the millions she and Jon earn. Knowing this monster, she'd flee to France, live in a big castle (rented by Discovery Communications) and _still_ have the nerve to ask for child support from Jon). Jon would get a normal job (*gasp!*) for the first time since getting fired from his IT job for solliciting freebies on company time and live i a Utah ski lodge w/ his girlfriend (or maybe not; just date random women) and have to pay for 8 children, even though Keight would continue her "career'.

Yep. That's up her alley.

3angelsmom said...

Ouch - that's gotta hurt....

FormerFanofJonandKate said...

Wow! What a great letter! I also would be ashamed to be "dissed" so graciously.

I just wanted to say that I met Kate on Mother's Day last year (she spoke at a local church). This was BEFORE she had the mansion, BEFORE the tabloids, BEFORE everyone really knew who she was. I stood in line, paid $20.00 and go an autographed picture. KATE WAS NOT FRIENDLY AT ALL. She basically said "name?" I told her, she signed it, and then basically looked at the person behind me and said "name?".

Mr. Gosselin wouldn't even look up at us. Kate had been yelling at him to get more stacks of pictures so maybe he was distracted doing that. When the person in front of me asked for a picture, Kate said "no".

My point is, as wonderful as this letter is, it kind of insinuates that Kate wasn't very friendly in Detroit and the author wonders if it is because "Kate is going through a lot".

It isn't that Kate is "going through a lot"....it is that she is plain and simple NOT A NICE PERSON.

BRAVO said...

Alyssa Martina did a fantastic job of getting a point across with such grace and poise. Yet we the people know EXCATLY what she meant. Kate may be greedy,selfish,and a horrible wife and mother but she is bright enough(ohh I hated saying that) that she will read in between the lines.
BRAVO to Alyssa Martina the woman with REAL CLASS!

ngt said...

ouch...someone just got schooled!

Glenda said...

That is AWESOME!!!!! But I am like the rest of you I don't think it would sink in if Kate read this. I think she really things she is 'somebody' now that the paparazzi are following her and she is on the front of magazines. I mean she is acting like she is a major movie star. Her world is crumbling down around her and she doesn't even realize it. Sad so sad.

lindahoyt said...

I found it quite difficult to wade through the list of compliments, to get to the meat of the letter. But, my word, she certainly does offer Kate the same kind of bluntness that Kate so often feels entitled to give to others around her.

I am so happy that she told Kate she needed "Graciousness"...because that is exactly what Kate lacks. Kate stubbornly refuses to graciously accept what is given her; or to allow anyone an ounce of grace to fail or make a mistake--or even to do things their own way!

Jana said...

That open letter was a thing of beauty. It reminded me of the way women from the South could kill you with kindness -- you wouldn't even feel the sting of the slap until you were back home and suddenly went ---- Wait a minute, did she just call me a ________?

I doubt Kate will read this, or if she does, that she can comprehend what this woman is telling her. She simply tunes it right out. But you can bet TLC will see this and it's another stick on the growing pile on the camel's back. Sooner or later, it will be one stick too many.

Katie Irene - do you know that no one likes you, except strangers who are too ignorant to see through your baloney? How does it feel to have no friends? To have no adult in your life who love you for you? Do you even know that what you feel inside is loneliness? Do you realize that the reason you are never satisfied with all that you get, is because you have a never ending emptiness inside you where a soul should be?

We must all answer in the end to a higher power, for what we did in our time on this earth. If I were in your shoes, I'd be repenting and making amends 24/7 ... and still it might not be enough!

lindahoyt said...

No, Kate won't take anything to heart. She said it in her talk...she REFUSES to feel guilty over anything...she REFUSES to admit she is wrong, or to learn new behaviors, because her old behaviors are just fine with her!

I hate to tell Kate and the woman writing the article, that guilt serves a purpose. It is your conscience telling you that you are doing something wrong! If you ignore your conscience, the Bible says you "sear" your conscience..so that you never know right from wrong....

But, I guess the tabloids took Kate's advice, and decided that they will not feel guilty over anything they do for money. No matter who doesn't like it, or who gets hurt----just like Kate!

Anonymous said...

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/05/21/earlyshow/leisure/celebspot/main5030460.shtml

Allred on Gosselins


vanessa

Anonymous said...

I am in the Metro Detroit area and I read Metro Parent quite often - it is a great resource for anyone with kids. I applaud Ms. Martina for a gracious, intelligent, well written letter that put Kate in her place like I have never seen before - to the public anyway. I hope she reads it somehow. I don't think she will change, but she has to at least die a bit from embarrassment. I hope national news reprints it also.
Wow.

Carol

lindahoyt said...

Renee, she will not listen or heed the critisism. I wrote her a kind, gentle letter outlining the concerns I had for her children; Paul Peterson, former child actor and head of an organisation which advocates against the dangers of childhood fame, has spoken to the gosselins as well as the public about his concerns...

Kate, she just "deletes".

RealMom said...

Wow. I wonder what she did to get that response. I wish someone else who attended would write in with specifics. I can't believe she was rude to the hosts.I just hope she doesn't get bombarded with nasty emails like the Philly mag writer did.

overwithKON said...

Perfect! Kind and gracious to her, telling her that she is not! Ha!

Gr8ful mommy said...

I wrote Ms. Martina an email today in response to her article/letter to Kate. I told her that I agreed with her impressions of Kate and how important it is to be gracious and show kindness to others. She wrote me back a lovely email this evening! She said she received dozens of letters today in response to the article and most were in support of her open letter from people who felt the same way. I'm really impressed that she took the time to answer emails!

Penny said...

GRY said...

My bet is she dumps the "horde" of kids when they reach their teenage years as they will not longer be of any use to her. I can definitely see it in her.
.....right after she gets them all to sign a confidentialty agreement.

Wendy said...

Lots of Gosselin drama being talked about on The Insider. They are talking with the Masche's...the WE channel couple with sextuplets...and they said they would not let their show go that far if things started to get ugly. Then they showed a scene from their upcoming show, and already they are semi-arguing. Brian is kind of whining about having to watch the kids all weekend, and Jenny shoots back ( with attitude as if she's channeling Kate somehow ) that it's because SHE will be working all weekend.

This smells like another, "Let's quit our real jobs and let the show be our job" brewing.

Good gravy.

I don't get it. I just don't get it. There needs to be a new law enacted that if you accept fertility treatments, you are forbidden to ever have a reality show if you end up with multiples. Nobody wants to see you whine and complain about how hard it is. I'm so over that. If you can't do it, them give them over to someone who can and won't complain. Problem solved.

Wendy said...

One more thing...
The Insider just gave a teaser for tomorrow night, and said, "Jon and Kate. Is one of them about to try to stop the season premiere on Monday?

Robin said...

You know what's sad though? No, Kate won't read it but her PR firm will.

And how much you want to bet they'll incorporate every deeper meaning Ms. Martina brought forth of the "Four G's" into Kate's speaking engagements ?

Yeah, Kate won't get it and may be shocked... "Oh! That's what you mean by being rewarded for 'giving'? Getting a check from TLC every month ten times bigger than the amount I donated to Ronald McDonald House last year isn't really what it's all about??? Huh?"...but I'm sure Julie Carson May can make her some crib notes and she'll eventually follow the script.

texgal said...

This lady is spot on! I loved that she addressed Kate's graciousness, or lack there of. After the renewal ceremony, I started wondering if there was anyone else out there who felt the same way I did about Kate's cold attitude and sense of entitlement that she expressed towards those that were helping her plan her ceremony. I got on the web and low and behold I found this blog spot. If I had been given all of these wonderful trips I would be falling all over these people with thankfulness. I have never gotten the feeling that Jon nor Kate feel that they should be thanking anyone for anything. It's as if they feel that everyone should be thanking them for gracing us with their presence.

maria said...

She is charging $150 to have tea with her somewhere? Are you kidding? I am a big, enormous, huge KISS fan and have never seen them play in makeup, and I wouldn't even see $150 to see that band play live. Why? Because it's too damn much. Why should someone pay $150 to have tea with this horrible woman? The only way I will ever pay $150 to meet someone is if Freddie Mercury rises from the dead, and that isn't going to happen!

GRY said...

Lack of Graciousness is High Society speak for No Class...get it Kate?

TT said...

Kate said it again in People magazine....I found a "Lovely Girl" to help me take care of the kids. She also refered to the beautiful Hawiian ladies as girls. WTF? The ladies are ladies and not girls....Who does she think she is?

Heidi said...

You think that article was lovely. You should read THIS one from Vancouver sun.
http://www.vancouversun.com/entertainment/Kate+Plus+burning+question+Kate+Gosselin+better+than+Octomom/1616980/story.html

Boo-Ya!

Ms.Peach said...

Wendy said...
One more thing...
The Insider just gave a teaser for tomorrow night, and said, "Jon and Kate. Is one of them about to try to stop the season premiere on Monday?

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A typical teaser. However, since TLC is just promoting their summer schedule, there's hope that they won't be back in the fall.

Ms.Peach said...

I hope that those folks who attended the event and didn't like the way Kate behaved are no longer fans. Her fan base is shrinking although I'm sure people who don't know anything about her will tune in Monday just to see what all the fuss is about. Her true self comes out because she cannot conceal it.

Joanne said...

I thought she was too nice about it all. She needed to really lay into her because KATE has a realy thick skull.

VillageMom said...

Ho-ly cow! The short version of that letter is:

Dear Kate,
You're a bitch.
Signed, Alyssa.

Can you imagine how horrendously horrendous Kate must have been for a promoter to publicly call her out like that??

Erin said...

What a great letter.

I would put money on the fact that TLC staff that is working on the show are WELL AWARE of this uncouth wench and her lack of graciousness.

She will die a lonely old woman that will blame others for her mistakes.

Rosco said...

As my dear old Irish grandmother said, "You can't shine sh!t"

aimee said...

Finally.

Finally.

Someone who has actually dealt with Kate is calling it as we've seen it for a very long time.

I would like to hope this letter will have some impact on the devotion the Sheeple have for Kate...but I think if I believed that were true I'd be living in a dream world.

Kind of like Kate.

St. James said...

What a good letter. It would certainly be a wonderful thing if Kate actually sees it and reads it.

But there may be other mothers who will read it and might see Kate more clearly than they have before.

If there were 800 parents in that crowd, no doubt a lot of them will read the letter and that is a good thing!

Bri said...

In fairness, when the author said Kate was entitled to "have it all" I took it to mean the career, not the material goods. Like, it's any parent's right to want to have a loving/loved family and a fulfilling life outside of the house.

wramblinwreck said...

I hope this eloquent letter will lead the way to getting rid of the hype that Kate is the perfect supermom. For almost a year, Kate's PR team has busily promoted her as "America's Favorite Mom." Now that it's clear they've been promoting an empty shell, with no skills or talent other than exploiting her 8 kids for a TV show, I hope the companies who used Kate to promote their products will reconsider.

Treece said...

Gameover said...

Also, they knock her title of "parenting coach" and this is the kicker:
"Don't you just love the way she claims how happy they were to have Kate come, but then gets a dig in about Kate being away from her family?"

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There's being away once in awhile. Then there's I'm Away For Months At A Time Repeating Myself, leaving Kids At Home With A Man Who Likes To Party.

Sure, I would love to see Kate come to Ohio (We are right next to PA for godsakes!), but, there is a time for everything. And back-to-back is not the right time.

Yes, anyone is obligated to protect Kate, but how dare (whoever the site was), call this woman "no-class" and "Jealous"? For someone who had negativity to state, she ALSO added the positive on Kate. She did not outright list all negatives on Kate, which in my opinion could have been classless. I think more than anything the hoard of people that sit there and attack the people who share their opinions are more terrible than Kate herself.

Like the author said, when you step into the limelight, you GIVE UP your privacy, and that's that. Kate needs to suck it up and get over it. Other celebrities don't waste their breath on the tabloids. If she feels no guilt, she wouldn't say anything. Only people she has to explain to is to her children. And Jon. Forgot about him. :D TLC probably just wanted them to talk for A) a show, and B) To get the tabloids to shut up. But sorry, the Media doesn't stop for anyone...As TLC clearly shows. :D

lifeoriley said...

I loved this article--i thought the writer was very tactful and diplomatic in stating her opinions.
However, I do have to agree with the commenter above who objected to the word "entitled." While everyone has the right to pursue their dreams, no one on the earth is "entitled" to have it all. Life owes you nothing.
One of Kate's problems is that she feels "entitled" --that the world, society, even God --owes her everything that she has recieved and more.

ThreeFarmers said...

I certainly hope that you good people do not watch this show Monday night. While I know it has no real effect on the ratings, it will however create chatter. Chatter, positive or negative, creates publicity.

There are two sides to child exploitation in the media: those who produce it, and those who view it.

I've distanced myself from all things Gosselin in recent months. While I was initially drawn to their train wreck, now I can't bear to watch so much as a promo, let alone an interview with these awful people.

Please, for your own sanity, do not watch this program. We might not be able to help the Gosselin children directly, but each one of us can certainly make sure that at least one pair of eyes gives these kids a break and watches something else.

TurnOffTheLights said...

What a concise, expertly-written letter, just nailing Kate to the wall. If only, if only, if only. If only Kate would read something like that and benefit from the constructive criticism. My experience with arrogant people like her, however, is that she will remain on her self-created pedestal, putting herself above anyone and anything that has the slightest hint of truth. She'll never listen to anybody. She'll just keep doing and saying whatever she wants because she thinks she's right and it's everybody else who is wrong. She lives in the World According to Kate.

Do not expect change from her. The change has to come from everybody else. You have to take away the fuel that runs her engine: don't watch her TV show, don't buy her books, don't pay to hear her speak, don't buy the magazines that talk about her, etc. Show your lack of interest.

Just turn off the lights and leave the room.

Midwest Teacher said...

Bravo! What a well written and honest piece of writing.

8ovus said...

Ooooooohh...... snap! Kate needs to bury her head, and while her hiney is in the air someone needs to give it a good kick! Doubt it would work though, she is to money grubbing.

Jan from PA said...

Kate is a user. When she is done with her victim, she does indeed throw them to the curb, and that includes Jon. She wanted to get married, so she set her eyes on Jon. He had a rich father who bought them a house, gave her free braces and helped them out financially. Now she doesn't need Jon anymore, so like the girlfriend he had when Kate first met him, he's history. I really believe she is the one who notified the press to be looking for him at that bar. Jon is not smart enough or suspicious enough to keep things quiet.

I honestly believe Kate was cheating first with Mr Bodyguard, which is why she unilaterally decided the marriage was over, scant months after their bogus "vow renewals" I am sure that is why they moved to their "Fantasyland Estate".

God bless Kevin and Jodi for coming forward now and telling it like it is. They have nothing to gain from it.

I have long suspected Jon lived over the garage, which is why she was threatening hellfire and brimstone to any kid who ventured into "their" bedroom.

Even when they were still doing joing interviews, you could tell that days had gone by since they had seen each other.

Where can I buy a Team Jon shirt? He might not be the greatest parent, but he is light years better than Hate.

I think it is only a matter of time before the kids get thrown to the curb, except for Hannah of course, when they have outlived their usefulness.

UnOrganicManic said...

This is definitely a step up from that other time Kate was given parenting advice. You know, that time on Dr. Phil, when given an opportunity to set them straight with some actual advice he just gave them more free toys!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_yAohOt1eI

Allissa said...

I LOVED this! People ARE seeing the real Kate! I hope more and more articles like this get published!

wramblinwreck said...

ThreeFarmers wrote:
"Please, for your own sanity, do not watch this program. We might not be able to help the Gosselin children directly, but each one of us can certainly make sure that at least one pair of eyes gives these kids a break and watches something else."

Well said, and ITA. I haven't watched for several months and have no interest in watching now. Let's keep the drumbeat going: do.not.watch.

goldengirl said...

Rather than watching the show, discussing the show, etc. what would happen if people put their money where their mouth is and contributed to a campaign to establish a Gosselin Child Labor law? The press would eat it up. TLC could try tolobby against it but that would be to their detriment. Just a thought.

HaveToTakeCareOfMyselfNow said...

ThreeFarmers said...
I certainly hope that you good people do not watch this show Monday night. While I know it has no real effect on the ratings, it will however create chatter. Chatter, positive or negative, creates publicity.

There are two sides to child exploitation in the media: those who produce it, and those who view it.

I've distanced myself from all things Gosselin in recent months. While I was initially drawn to their train wreck, now I can't bear to watch so much as a promo, let alone an interview with these awful people.

Please, for your own sanity, do not watch this program. We might not be able to help the Gosselin children directly, but each one of us can certainly make sure that at least one pair of eyes gives these kids a break and watches something else.

5/22/2009 9:21 AM
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I always read the posts from ThreeFarmers, because he/she always gets right to the heart of the matter.

When all is said and done, we own the television and we can choose to turn it off. It's been validating to see that other people were seeing what I was seeing on the reality show. Jon and Kate are now very exposed, even in mainstream media. I'm ready to let people with more visibility and authority take this on while I bow out...hoping and praying that a child's voice can be heard when it comes to forced labor.

In the meantime, I live in a state that is going broke, my husband's job is threatened, we don't have a lot of money and will lose our home if he loses his job. Whereas at one point I may have tuned into JonAndKatePlusEight for entertainment when it seemed sweet, the show and anything about them is now just causing me to be riled up, and I have much bigger things to worry about than the ridiculous and distasteful goings-on of Jon and Kate Gosselin. There's nothing more about them I want or need to know. We've learned that they are TV actors and that we, as an audience, have been manipulated.

I've been trying for a few weeks to walk away, although this blog can be so addicting...I'll miss some of the very interesting and thoughtful comments by an astounding number of people who have good souls.

It's disappointing and creepy to find out so much stuff about two immature and conniving people. I had been willing to give them benefit of doubt for so long.

I do know that by cutting them out of my conversations and thoughts, I will be a much calmer person. I took all of this too much to heart to where it's obsessive. Important to keep things in perspective!

My dream and wish is for an epilogue, maybe 20 years from now, revealing that the Gosselin children, in spite of how they were raised, are all eight doing okay and able to get on in life with good partners and real friends to make up for what they lost in childhood. I believe they may find comfort in discovering, years later, that thousands of people were concerned for their best interests.

ImmortalBeloved1918 said...

This is very interesting. I read the entire letter and the only point made by the author that I really agree with is her point about being gracious. Kate has never seemed to be a very warm person. I think that has been obvious since day one. Not everyone is "warm". And personally I don't find anything wrong with that. I don't consider myself to be a "warm" person either. But to be gracious is important and I do agree she could be much more gracious. Especially to those that she's dealing with directly or in a professional setting. I think Kate still struggles with the concept that she has "fans" and so this makes her appear in a certain light. To her I think they are all still a bunch of strangers. Again I can relate. I am not big on talking to random strangers either. Can you imagine the huge number of people that must want to touch her, hug her and get in her space on a daily basis? And this is Kate we are talking about. Someone who is a Type A germaphobe. It makes sense she prefers to keep her distance. She's not the laid back type that would handle these situations with ease. I can sympathize. I fear I too would seem a snob in these circumstances.

Utah said...

I guess this woman was on the money when she wrote about Kate. Kate confirmed it herself that she did not appreciate the fans. Imagine being one of the sheeple who stood in line for hours, drove for hours, bought the crappy books, or even brought gifts for kids. I bet she did throw them out or give them away. Ewwww, dirty fans giving Kate gifts with germs.
I wonder how all those who paid good money to see her feel now that she made that comment about them? I would demand she return my money!

jeri said...

I too wish she would read the letter. When asked on a "ask Jon and Kate" session (probably a repeat), they were asked if they felt the children were missing out. Kate immediately responded with,"Our kids have had many experiences and trips because of this program." (not an exact quote...just the gist of it.) However, while I know my children every once in awhile bring up how cool it was to go here or see that there, it's the everyday that makes a family. It's treating my spouse with respect and working as a team that gives our kids security.

In my opinion, Maddie (y?), needs counseling. She is far too old to have a meltdown each and every time things do not go her way. I wonder if she does that at school? The fact that she does it in front of the camera says to me that it is her usual behavior and now I see a couple of the smaller girls mimicking her because they see that it works.

Jon needs to stand up to Kate. I think his game playing is a passive/agressive stance because he's been parented by Kate for too long and he resents it. If I ever counted my husband down...one...two...three...., oh my gosh, he would probably fall on his butt laughing. That is so disrespectful!

I also feel Kate needs to stay home, stop doing publicity tours as TLC is getting ready to have a real loser show due to the immature behavior of the parents. I'd feel bad for the camera crew, producers, etc for not having a jop but frankly, there are eight kids that need life to get back to normal.

Arieslikekate said...

800 people.... 800 times $150 or 800 x $50 or a new pair of shoes for the Queen?

I live in Detroit area and would have loved to picket outside the event.