Be Careful What You Covet

Post submitted by Dew and NancyAnne

Those of us who are critical of Jon and Kate and their actions are often dismissed as "we're just jealous." But who is really jealous here? Could it be Jon and Kate themselves? The Tenth Commandment from the Old Testament says: "You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or male or female slave, or ox, or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.

I think Kon actually coveted all the nice things their neighbor Beth had, all the things rich people they knew or saw had. They were the ones jealous of others and they were the ones who couldn't be content with simply having what they needed. They coveted a bigger, better house, an improved spouse with hair plugs and tummy tucks and a hip wardrobe, a string of nannies, housekeepers and other employees working for them (the modern day slave), purebred dogs they haven't the first notion how to properly care for, expensive vacations, spa trips, VIP treatment, and of course, lots and lots of money. The sin of coveting their neighbor's things led them down this path. Kon was jealous, not us.

I have absolutely no desire to:
Raise 8 kids
Clean 7,000 square feet
Rule my husband
Be alienated from my family and friends
Be scrutinized on TV by the entire country
Have my children's private moments watched by millions
Put material gain over the welfare of my family
Choose the spa over playing with my children
Be away from my kids any more than necessary
Have absolutely no privacy in day to day life
Either have sheeple kiss my ass or critics kick it
Be tangled in such a daily web of lies that I no longer know what the truth is
To put 8 innocent lives emotional health in jeopardy because of my actions
Constantly, but constantly, want more and do anything necessary to get it
Never know when the flow of money will stop
Not know if/how long my marriage will last
Wonder how I will support my children when the cameras stop rolling, the charity stops flowing and the audience has found another focus.

What is there to be jealous of? I just don't get it.

64 comments:

Sarah said...

Well said!
I just discovered this site, glad I'm not the only one who thinks the Gosselins have gone too far in their "celebrity".


This blog is awesome. I was just reading at another Gosselin blog; and you would think that Kate was her savior or something! I mean WAKE UP!

Chris said...

I don't covet a da** thing that the Gosselins have. Actually I pity them. Right now, hubby and I are "working" on our computers enjoying companionable silence. Somehow I can't see the Gosselins enjoying such a simple thing.

LAP said...

Excellent, excellent, excellent post! You made great points of why not to be jealous of them and I just kept nodding my head yes to all of them. Thank you!

kate is a cocky bitch said...

To the people who say that I am envious of Kate, I say that money does not make someone happy. Just look at her. I do not think I have ever seen such a miserable person in my entire life. You can have all the money in the world and still never be happy while some people are penniless and have love and happiness in their lives.

Amigo22 said...

Sarah said...

Well said!

I agree! I would hate to be in those 8 kids' shoes and have every aspect of my life filmed and shown on TV as I'm sure everyone else would. Those kids have no say or control over what gets shown and what doesn't, or how they are portrayed. And because of the show (and Jon & Kate themselves) they have not had normal childhoods.

So yes, what is there to be jealous of?

cossysmom said...

While I was watching (for the 100th time)Cara's special day roller blading, I was struck once again by how different the show is now. Kate and Jon were laughing and acting as if they truly enjoyed each others company. Their relationship has changed drastically.

Yet, I still found the show sad. The Gosselins usually visit places of interest when they are closed to the general public. While I suppose this may be done because the filming is easier that way and there are no security problems, I felt it was very sad to see Cara skating all by herself around the rink. No other children to interact with.

I used to enjoy this show thinking that this was family that suddenly had many children to support. I originally wondered why a parent would expose their children this way, but rationalized it by thinking that they would just do it for a short while so that they could put food on the table and clothes on their backs. Little did I know that it would get to this point. I'm sure it is very tempting to be offered numerous free trips and back stage experiences, but can't they look at their children and see that what these children really need and want is parents who love them?

Yes, I would have enjoyed providing some of these experiences for my son when he was little. But I cherish the memories of playing on the floor with him. Making lemonade for him and his friends as they played in the yard. I cringed when Kate lectured the children that they were "never, ever, ever" allowed in the parent's bed room.

Although I may have been exhausted because I was up til the wee hours of the morning actually doing wash myself and getting school lunches together for the next day, and cleaning up toys, I will never forget those times that my son would come wandering across the hall in the middle of the night or early morning and crawl into bed with me and whisper,"hi mommy."

Kate, as a Christian you should know that God blessed us with free will. You don't have to treat your children this way. You can say no.

Grey'sGirl said...

I have watched the show since the series began and loved the interaction between Jon and Kate. They were funny, goofy and happy. They worked hard together. Now, it seems as if they hardly work together at all. Mostly against each other. Jon Never looks happy anymore, and Kate continues to have this superior look - guess it goes with the fake tan. I want to see this couple come back together, working to make their family ties strong. I love watching the kids (even Mady at her worst), and will always think of them when I see an alleygator. Do they ever watch the show afterward? Can they see how they sound, or look? At times it is like waiting for a train wreck to happen. Some our happiest times where when we had little money and made the most of what we did have. I'm glad I'm not the only one who is concerned/frustrated with Jon & Kate. The Eight are stupendous, I hope all turns out OK in the end for Them.
Grey'sGirl

timetogkon said...

I've always wondered why the sheeple use this lame excuse time and time again - as if jealousy is the ONLY reason why anyone would not worship Jane and K8. To each of the line items, I have written the oft-used sheeple excuses for Jane and K8's behavior and actions (seriously, these excuses come up time and time again on the sheeple sites) :



Raise 8 kids - KON are SO very blessed !

Clean 7,000 square feet - All the H8TERS are jealous of their huge house!

Rule my husband - I love how they interact, just like my husband and I act !

Be alienated from my family and friends - All just speculation !

Be scrutinized on TV by the entire country - Why won't the trolls leave them alone ?

Have my children's private moments watched by millions - What's the big deal? The diaper and bath scenes are SOOOO CUTE !

Put material gain over the welfare of my family - K8 and Jane are only doing what's best for their family like any loving parent!

Choose the spa over playing with my children - Who WOULDN'T need a spa day with 8 kids !

Be away from my kids any more than necessary - K8 is very busy providing for her family and spreading the Gospel !

Have absolutely no privacy in day to day life - We LOVE the "realness" of this show !

Either have sheeple kiss my ass or critics kick it - The critics are just jealous H8ERS who have nothing better to do than troll the sites for opportunities to say bad things about Jane and K8!

Be tangled in such a daily web of lies that I no longer know what the truth is - Where is the proof of these so called lies ?

To put 8 innocent lives emotional health in jeopardy because of my actions - The kids are not being exploited. They love doing the show otherwise K8 and Jane would have stopped a long time ago!

Constantly, but constantly, want more and do anything necessary to get it - What's wrong with reaping the benefits of all their hard work?

Never know when the flow of money will stop - They are concerned for the kids' futures just like any other loving parent !

Not know if/how long my marriage will last - They addressed the problems, that means they are working on making the marriage work. I am so proud of them for being honest about the situation!

Wonder how I will support my children when the cameras stop rolling, the charity stops flowing and the audience has found another focus - We love you Jane and K8 !!!

It's pretty incredible how blind and crazed the sheeple are. The previously mentioned "cake lady" is a die-hard KON worshipper - her site is crazy scary.

Merrilee said...

I remember reading somewhere on Gosselin boards that Jon and Kate did the right thing so they can support their kids like they do, rather than live in a Life of Poverty like they were before the show.

A life of poverty! Puhleeze. In no way were they living a life of poverty.

Chris said...

10 years ago I had most of what KON has now. I had the 7,000+ sq ft house, nice cars, no money worries, a nanny (one only child), a housekeeper, trips, box season tickets to sporting teams.
I had to leave that life behind for many reasons, mostly for my child sake.

I now live a middle class life in with two kids, haven't taken a vacation in 9 years, I have to worry about things health insurnace but I am married to a an that I am totally in love with, and who is the most wonderful father.
People ask me all the time if I miss my old life, my bigger house, my expensive car, the nanny, and I say no way.
I would never trade the time I have with my kids everyday , my marriage for the material things I left. I actually think I have a beter life and my children have a better life and will have a happier future then if I had never left my old life.

Shame On KOn for going so overboard. It would have been fine for them to get a bigger house, and save enough for college, and be able to take a few trips, but they have gone so overboard. Going from nothing to total greed. The happiest place to me is in the middle.

so irritated said...

Excellent post! It sums up perfectly the absurdity that is this train wreck.

Money does not buy happiness, as KON has clearly demonstrated over the last few months. They have ALL the wealth and perks they thought would make them happy. Yet, they now have a "strained" marriage. Gee, they didn't seem to have a strained marriage before the show. Flash forward three years, Kate now lives out of a suitcase and Jon does God knows what while a nanny err.. helper cares for the kids that made them rich in the first place. As far as the people who worship KON, I used to be angry with their blindness but now I just pity them. There's something sad and pathetic about someone who feels the need to emulate the every move of a reality show participant. What a sad example this makes for their children. Instead of being encouraged to develop their own style and persona, they are shown that people on TV are superior and therefore they should try to be like them.

Jealous of KON? Us? No way. What a terrible day it will be for those kids when they realize money was more important than them. Their privacy was sold, their relationships with family were sold, their ability to go out in public was sold, their ability to have friendships was sold, their right to live in a home without studio lighting and camera people was sold and BOTH parents being there and available was sold too. What a warped, messed up view of the world this will instill in them. Jealous? No, just disgusted.

lifeoriley said...

I personally think that those who call anti-Gosselin posters "jealous" are in, fact jealous themselves. Some of the more rabid fans seem to want to be just like Kate, and would probably LOVE it if they had their own TV show.
Me? You could not pay me enough money to be on a reality tv show. Nope. OK--maybe if I was homeless and starving--maybe. I really do not even like my picture taken by family and friends--but I tolerate it.
I agree with other commenters that money does not buy happiness--sure, having money is nice, it makes life easier, buys necessities, etc. However, people usually start taking their existing standard of living for granted--someone is always going to have more than you do--and if you are a covetous person, you will always want more. Happiness is something that comes from within--it is not acheived by eternal things.

PAmama said...

I cringed when Kate lectured the children that they were "never, ever, ever" allowed in the parent's bed room.

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They need to change their website then because under Leah's "page" hers says I like to sneak downstairs and snuggle with mommy and daddy.

I can't say much for the spa thing K8 does, I do get monthly back massages, but after that one hour I'm back with my kids.

Jules said...

[Standing ovation]
I've been reading this blog for quite some time and have never left a comment, but today I had to. I absolutely agree with the sentiment of this post. I was still watching the show up until about a month ago, but I just can't anymore. It makes me feel sad, frustrated and judgmental - all the things that 'reality TV' should NOT make one feel!

TandLMommy28 said...

I agree wholeheartedly. There is truly nothing to be jealous of in that family's life. Sure they have nice things but at what cost? Nice things are not worth what they are paying for them. Would I like to have a huge house? Sure! Would I like a spa day now and then? Maybe (the thought of a stranger rubbing my sore muscles freaks me out, to be honest). As I've said before the Bible verse "What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his own soul?" is the most accurate picture of the Gosselin family at this point. Sad, sad, sad. I will live in my tiny house with my BEAUTIFUL children and my husband who is my best friend for the rest of my life if the choice came down to a bigger house or a loving family.

I look at their huge house and I just wonder if either of them ever looks at it and regrets it. I know that they were on a downward spiral long before they moved, however, I really see the new house as the "No turning back" moment. Everything changed when they moved into that house. Now they have so much space - so much space to ignore each other completely and avoid each other if they want. The kids can all be in different rooms all the time - how wonderful, they can grow up and never speak to each other just like Jon and Kate are with their siblings! So much more space for Kate to whine and scream about when things are not the way she wants them - the kids get to hear their mother belittle their daddy even more now, hooray! I'm just so happy that they got this house that they deserve.

It's funny, when the Duggars finished building their enormous house, they never ONCE said they deserved it or needed it. They said it was a huge blessing that they were able to have more room available for their family. Have Jon and Kate ever called their new house a blessing? Something that they felt humbled to be able to live in? I don't think so. I believe the only word they used in association with that house was "deserve" as in "We deserve this. The kids deserve this."

It's all just so darn sad. I really liked this family in the beginning. I was routing for them. I guess I still am, but now I'm just hoping that God truly gets a hold of their hearts since they are supposedly Christians.

Amy Lynn said...

A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?

anon1967 said...

Great post, I always have to wonder about the thought process of the people that think we are all jealous of them. I'm sure that there are a few that are (octomom), but I know for one, I am just worried sick about the children and the life they are living.
I also think that they are dong the "green" episode because they think if they keep them out of the limelight for too long, fans will start watching other shows. But this one might backfire on them, because they will finally have to show the entire house to the world.

KiSSy said...

Most of the celebrity moms that come to mind are VERY loving toward their children. Even during their fierce working schedules, they make their kids a priority.

Angelina
Madonna
Gwen Stefani
Jessica Alba
Sarah Jessica

all celebrity moms who come to mind who are often seen doing "normal" things with their kids. Shopping, playground trips, etc., while doing their best to keep their kids OUT of the spotlight.

These moms likely realize how damaging the constant glare can be and want to protect their kids from it.

Didn't Angelina sell the proceeds from the "baby photo" deal with People to charity? THAT"S giving back.

Hambone said...

I'm convinced now, more than ever, that God ( or the universe or whatever you like to call your higher power ), has given us the Gosselins to show us how NOT to be!

They are an example of how NOT to live and "be". Sure, we all know not to live like the thieves,murderers, druggies...those types. But Kon is disguised as "one of us"....and mislead LOTS of people into thinking what they do is ok.

It is NOT ok.

Gloria said...

What's to envy? The biggest strawman argument ever is to be called a jealous hater by the sheeple. Thanks for an excellent post that debunks that myth so well. Honestly, I don't get why the sheeple CAN'T see what is really going on with Kon. I mean it is flagrantly flaunted before our eyes every week ad nauseum on national TV. My question to the sheeple is "What's to admire?" Seriously, open your eyes.

RandomStragers said...

I have a Facebook page and am on the J&K+8 fav page. Someone updated it the other day saying that they would be doing season 5 and when it started.

I went over and looked at it and so many people were liking the comment and commenting on how great the show is. I left a comment along the lines of my dislike to hearing this and that the show should stop (I think I was taken off their fan list after that LOL).

But some random stranger felt the need to actually e-mail me about my comment. 'What explotion of these kids are you talking about? That show Is providing them with money to live off of and if you watch it the kids love it'

I replied back to him saying he needs to re examine his own statment of 'The show providing them with money to live off of and the kids loving it.'

His reply back, 'I don't see them being greedy at all I just see them being very thankful for everything that God has blessed them with through the show.'

Right buddy. I think I should have e-mailed him this blog post.

mary said...

WOW! Dew and NancyAnne you nailed it.

You said it all!

Charlie Rose said...

Jealous of KON? Us? No way. What a terrible day it will be for those kids when they realize money was more important than them. Their privacy was sold, their relationships with family were sold, their ability to go out in public was sold, their ability to have friendships was sold, their right to live in a home without studio lighting and camera people was sold and BOTH parents being there and available was sold too. What a warped, messed up view of the world this will instill in them. Jealous? No, just disgusted.

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Well said! :)

Melissa P. Gentry said...

The "Christian" factor gets thrown in because that is what the Gosselins, especially Kate, calls herself. "Just an ordinary Christian Mom." Yes, you can have material things, wealth, a nice home, etc. and still be a Christian. Just don't be a hyprocrite while using God's name to live off your children's back.

Betty Lou said...

Amy Lynn said...
A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?

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Apples and oranges. Whether you are a Christian or not has nothing to do with how much money and nice things you have.

My5blessings said...

Amy Lynn said...
A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?

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Many Christians have "money and nice things" To me, it neither makes them a Christian or a non- Christian. How you conduct yourself is the test of fire.
The heart speaks volumes.

Greed is a beast and Kate and Jon have turned into just that, money grubbing beasts.

God speaks so much about giving, helping the poor, those in need-- not just when the cameras are rolling.

They do not conduct themselves the way I imagine true, loving Christians behaving.

Read Matthew 19:24, it's very helpful:)

I know we all tend to get off subject about all they have, myself included.

The reason you read and hear this so often is because MORE emphasis seems to be placed on * what can I buy next* --
*Where can I go next, without the kids*-- * How much money can I get from this Church as an "inspirational" speaker. IMHO, yes, compensate her for her trip, but to pay her as a "Christian 25k to speak is obscene" As a Christian and giving back to those who gave and continue to give to her, why not do it for FREE???
It always comes back to money. Is there nothing they do for free???
Nothing?
They even sell their children's clothes which were maninly given tot hem for free. Why not donate ALL of them to the poor.
And where are all their "beloved" friends? Why is it, they are all alone? That to me is very, very telling of the type of people they are.

anon1967 said...

It's funny, when the Duggars finished building their enormous house, they never ONCE said they deserved it or needed it.
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They also went to auctions that sold industrial stuff to use, can you see Jon & Kate doing that?
I still think they ALL need laws to protect them, the only difference is that I don't think the Dugger's would be against it, I think KON would fight it all the way. I actually think someone stepped in and said something, and that's the reason for the changes in where they can and can't film, I don't think they thought it up on their own.

DirtyDisher said...

Great post. I never understood the jealous excuse. Who wants their lives on TV? Not me, that's for sure. Not any one sane. You'd have to worship money to do that.

so irritated said...

lifeoriley said.....

I personally think that those who call anti-Gosselin posters "jealous" are in, fact jealous themselves. Some of the more rabid fans seem to want to be just like Kate, and would probably LOVE it if they had their own TV show."


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Yes!! I have always thought this too. There are people out there (KON being two of them) who, instead of doing the hard work to forge your destiny in this world, they always look for someone or something to do it for them. I.E. KON chose to undergo more fertility treatments but when they yielded 6 babies, all of a sudden "society" was now on the hook to support them. Much like the people who fall for the "African Prince" emails and blow $100 a month on lottery tickets. When you tell them if they saved and invested that same $100/mo. they'd have x amount of dollars over time- they look at you like you're nuts. You're asking people who think no further than the next two hours to think years into the future.

To be a fan of KON the sheeple obviously have to approve of what these children endure to pay for their parent's lifestyle, therefore they would do it to their kids, too. This is where the line is drawn between us and them. They cannot look past the big house, pool, cars, trips and freebies. They want that and worship KON for having it. We can look right past all that and look at ten years from now... and hope these kids turn out OK.

Midwest Mom said...

Why would anyone in their right mind be jealous of the ruination of eight little souls ?

Robin said...

I have a hard time seeing Kate do Christian Television Interviews such as 700 Club and CBN etc...I have never heard her mention the Lord to her kids, say prayers, remind them that it is God who provides for them etc. She only says it when prompted in interviews and I have heard that she mentions God in her books....because she wants you to buy it of course. Being a Christian isn't just showing up at church and church daycare once a week..it's whats in your HEART and it's a way of life.

The Duggars and Roloffs are very religious, pray and do show their faith on television....and acknowledge where their Blessings come from openly.

The love offerings of cash only that she demands at church speaking engagements make me wonder how legitimate this all is...and how honest a person is Kate exactly. If she were a true Christian she would announce that the Love Offerings are going to benefit the church she is speaking at that day. When my Husband and I had both our children's baptisms on the same day...we invited our large family...and asked in leau of gifts for the kids that they make a monetary donation to the Church's offering that day. We later got a Thank You from the church telling us how much was donated......can you EVER see Miss Kate using her star ability to do something like that? I don't.

Jane in California said...

Wonderful post! I think Jon grew up having lots of "cool stuff" and a more carefree lifestyle. He's more child than man, and actually prefers that Kate be in charge so that he doesn't have to be responsible. As much as he rolls his eyes, makes faces and has occasional temper tantrums, the dynamic of the relationship suits him fine because he doesn't want to be in charge - he just wants to have his toys and ski trips and pretend he's still a childless man in his 20's.

Kate represents the complete wannabe to me. From the fake tan, whitened teeth, pretend-organic lifestyle, Ann Taylor clothes and stiletto heels on an outing with her children, expensive jewelry, eating out at Mr. Chow's in Hollywood -- she tries to look and act like a wealthy celebrity.

Her entire life is a carefully constructed facade but just like in the Wizard of Oz, if you look behind the curtain, you'll find a humbug.

The facade of a caring, harried mom of 8 is the hardest to maintain at this point. It's been crumbling at the edges for a long time and the rot is starting to set in.

All I know for sure is that those kids will never see an actual dime from this show -- that money is being spent as fast as it comes in and when the show is gone, so will be the money. They'll probably be forced to travel around like a family circus, in matching outfits of course, to continue to bring in income, til the day they are old enough to leave home and strike out on their own.

Christian to Me said...

Amy Lynn said...
A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?

One has nothing to do with the other.

Kate says she is a Christian, yet spews hatred towards her husband.

If you think the kids aren't picking up on the marital tension, think again.

Chris said...

Amy Lynn said...
A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?
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Amy Lynn, I'm sure you and your husband got your things the old fashioned way...you earned them.

Teryn said...

There's a certain very rabid Gosselin fan out there ( cough cough.. the baby's crying ) who would do EXACTLY what Jon and Kate do, in order to have fame and fortune. That kook would steamroll over anybody, throw just about anybody in her path under the bus, if only she could be more like Kate and have what the Gosselins have. What she has just isn't enough and she has to live through this tv show to fullfill her desires.

This post nailed it on the head and explains to me more why sheeple are the way they are. And it's because they covet. They want the niceties the Gosselins have gathered up via child exploitation, and look past what they do to get it.

Question:

Would YOU show your child's turds on national television in exchange for a sports car?

Jane in California said...

Amy Lynn said...

A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?

That oversimplifies the very real message so many on this board talk about. Kate & Jon profess to be Christian, and supposedly lead their life by following Christian values.

However, seeking material things over harmony within the home is not a Christian value.

Putting your needs and desires above your children's well being is not a Christian value.

I could go on and on, but there is no point. By their own deeds, let them be known.

lisa k said...

You said it perfectly! I have no desire, or need, to have the things these people have obtained in their life. Kate has been jealous of Beth, and IMO Jodie from day one. She was Jealous of Beth because of her wealth and Jodie because her good nature, and IMO is why she booted them out of her life as soon as she was done with them. All I can say is...I am so glad I am not an easily manipulated person and can see these people for what they really are.

so irritated said...

Speaking of the rabid fan, does anyone have any hit stats for her site? She claims the site has become "the biggest fan site on the net" or some drivel like that, but only a few people ever respond to her posts (she probably responds to her own posts.)

There is no meter I could find, but then I didn't look too hard as I was throwing up in my mouth a little bit while trying to look for it.

Im just sayin said...

The Sheeple are brainwashed ( so to speak) just like those who get involved into cults. Think about it.

Denise said...

Speaking of the rabid fan, does anyone have any hit stats for her site? She claims the site has become "the biggest fan site on the net" or some drivel like that, but only a few people ever respond to her posts (she probably responds to her own posts.)

I give her WAY too many hits a day going over there to laugh at her!

Muchacha said...

Denise said...
Speaking of the rabid fan, does anyone have any hit stats for her site? She claims the site has become "the biggest fan site on the net" or some drivel like that, but only a few people ever respond to her posts (she probably responds to her own posts.)

I give her WAY too many hits a day going over there to laugh at her!

4/10/2009 1:09 PM

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Puhleeze ! That woman makes most of the posts herself. If her blog is that popular, why does she barely break 20 comments per post? People only read her blog because she's a looney and want to see what the nutter is up to today. What psycho act did she pull off this time. How many cakes did she "bake" today in celebration of her idols.

I feel sorry for her kids. IF in fact she actually has kids. That could all be a made-up story, because she is, after all, s.t.r.a.n.g.e.

HBailey said...

I agree with someone on here who said this show can at the very least be an example of how NOT to treat your family, friends and most of all, your husband.

I for one have taken away from this show how completely awful you look when you ridicule your husband in front of others and how completely uncomfortable it makes everyone around you when you do. It only makes you look horrible and completely humiliates your spouse.

Regardless of what you think they should or should not be doing at the time, there's no reason to treat your spouse (or anyone else for that matter) that way in front of others...it's simply unacceptable.

Who among us hasn't done this from time to time to our spouse...I can't say I never have...but, it's been a great reminder for me that if I can't speak kindly to hold my tongue until we are alone to address the issue.

jonandkatewho? said...

Am I jealous of the Gosselins and their money and their fame? No. What I do envy a little bit is what they have that they don't seem to value.

They have 8 healthy kids. If they don't divorce they will have those kids to love for always...together, if they can fix their marriage and stop this madness so that those kids don't hate them later on. They had some kind of love for each other I assume, or they would not have married. They still have each other and they don't value that at all, it seems. They have relatives and would have a rather large and probably very loving family but they have alienated everyone.

These people are so rich in the things that really matter, and they seem to place no value on family and friends, or love and respect.

I won't bore anybody with my life's story, but I live alone with my older dogs and struggle in this economy making ends meet. I'm disabled and I lost my mother and my best friend in one fell swoop when she died a few years ago. I lost my only child in a bitter custody fight weighted by money and family connections on the father's side. I know what it is like to not have to worry about money, but some things are more important than money, and I left him because he was abusive while I was pregnant. I loved my child too much to put her through a life with somebody like that and, ironically, lost her to him. Not a day goes by that I don't miss my child with all of my heart. I truly value every second I get to spend with her, and there aren't many of them. It's a pretty screwed up world, sometimes.

Living alone and having nobody to help in a crisis is very hard. I miss my mom every day of my life, and my father had to sell their house and move away after she died. Every month I thank the Lord that I am still paying the bills and eating, if just barely. Nobody knows when they might actually become homeless, and it's a realistic fear in this economy.

So watching these two acquire things and more things disgusts me in a very personal way. Maybe that is not fair. But I'm not jealous. It isn't jealousy I feel for these people, it's pure sadness and disgust. They need to understand what is really important in life and stop the excess and become loving parents and mates. They need their families back in their lives.

Everything that really matters is within their reach, and I simply don't understand why they place so little value on all of the richness of a life full of loving family and friends, enough food to eat and a warm place to sleep.

I'm sorry this is so long, and maybe a bit TMI. Lol, I got passionate there for a minute.

For the sake of that whole family but mostly the kids, I wish these parents would really grow up and get on track. They would soon realize what you really NEED and don't need in this life.

If I do sound a bit envious in some regards, it certainly is not for the reasons their die hard fans might believe it to be. I would never have sold out family and friends for money, or traded away my child's privacy so I could live a luxurious life in a mansion.

I may be lonely sometimes, and I may be struggling financially, but I will never understand how or why these people sold out everything of value in the world. I would give up anything to spend one more minute with my mother, or to have my daughter living with me again.

I hope they wake up before it's too late.

Not even on a silver platter said...

So these sheeple fans, rabid fan included, think that by admiring what the G's have gotten out of people is somehow going to teach them how to get stuff out of the public? Do they think that if they watch that show enough, some of the luck of the G's will rub off on them or what? Doesn't make sense to me.

I would think that a couple the same age as the G's or thereabout who went to school and went to work and was raising their family would be outraged by this con. I don't get it.

timetogokon said...

Rabid Fan goes by an online "name" that rhymes with Saby Lama =)

She is a frequent poster on the another sheeple site : a few months ago she went to a book signing and by her comments/reaction, one would have thought she met the Pope himself. Honestly, she is very scary, and just the type of "fan" that KON should be worried about, not the "jealous h8ers".

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RealMom said...

I am not jealous at all. Honestly I never wanted 8 kids. Could barely handle 2. Don't want a big house. Maybe at one point in my life (not as big as theirs) but after 20 years of working, cooking, cleaning, kids, and taking care of my split level home, I am really beginning to downsize. No more big houses for me! Right now we are redoing our kitchen and painting and I am really tired of going through all that again. Would I like to have more money? Sure. I live comfortably now but I have never been a big spender. Would I put my life and that of my family on TV to get money? Would I have strangers writing blogs, both positive and negative about our most personal business? Would I have my kids pictures posted all over the internet? Would I make my face, body, clothes, and that of my family known to every wacko stranger in every town we happen to visit? Never. They could never pay me enough.

LAP said...

So watching these two acquire things and more things disgusts me in a very personal way. Maybe that is not fair. But I'm not jealous. It isn't jealousy I feel for these people, it's pure sadness and disgust. They need to understand what is really important in life and stop the excess and become loving parents and mates. They need their families back in their lives.
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You've hit the nail on the head for me. I'm a single mom to 2 kids and I struggle every day in rasing my kids and being financially stale, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I know I have a supportive family behind me and that is the best thing. I too have lost my mom and would trade anyting in the world to have her back here with us just so she could enjoy her grandchildren and see them grow. I too am not jealous of them but definately feel sadness and disgust for them. Very well said comment.

Dew said...

"A question? Am I not a Christian because I have money and nice things?"

In my opinion as a fellow Believer, I don't think being a Christian has very much to do with wealth. Being a Christian simply means you accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, which I have no doubt Jon and Kate do. BUT, the Bible offers a lot of guidance about money, raising children, and doing the Christian thing, that I don't think Kon is paying any attention to.

I make a decent living myself, I'm a lawyer, and I run a side business and am certainly striving to steadily make more money. I go to a church in a very affluent area of the country where several millionaires are members. Some Christians think that you must sell all your wordly possessions to follow Jesus and point to passages that suggest it is hard for the rich to get into heaven and that the rich shall be last. The Bible also says take care of your family first. I think what it comes down to for me is a favorite passage "for to much is given much is required." I have been blessed with the opportunity for a wonderful education, a great job, and to be financially sound in a bad economy. But as a Christian I believe I should, I'm REQUIRED to be devoting a good portion of my life to helping others, because I believe much is required of me. I've been trying to do that. But I do not see Kon stepping up and using their wealth and good fortune for good. Their primary focus seems to be to collect as much "stuff" as possible as quickly as possible, like those phone booths they used to have that blow a bunch of dollar bills around you and you have to try to grab as much as you can. They are chasing money and things and coveting more, doing whatever they have to do to keep it going including lying, instead of asking themselves as Christians what can I do with my situation to make the world better? As Christians are we doing what is right and best for our children? Is money and things really all a child needs? They should do well to remember raise a child in the way he should go and when he is older he will not depart from it. Will these children ultimatly never be happy as adults with a simpler life that is sure to come? Will they not spend very much time with their own children someday because their parents neglected them to hit the road?

Kon has been blessed (or cursed) with a successful show and a lot of money. But I have yet to see them use that for good. They are Christians, but are they making good decisions in light of what the Bible suggests? No, in my opinion.

ms0tee said...

has anyone seen the new issue of ladies' home journal?? well our favorite family is on the cover. and the in the article j&k try to set "the truth about our marriage". well i read it and they honestly make it worse for themselves. jon says he'll see kate for all of 10 minutes a day and that he's not perfect, but he and kate are still together. it's a rather pathetic attempt and just another day of the kids having to spend all day working for the perfect picture.

My5blessings said...

Dew,
Loved your post. You are right, Christians can and do attain wealth.
God does bless his followers with wealth of all variety.

I think in my post, quoting:

"Again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God."

I find this very fitting as they value their money more than they do God, family, friends, those in need. Money first, everything else is secondary.

MamaJane said...

Dead on. I've thought those things many times, though not so eloquently. Imagine the price their souls and their kids' psyches are paying. Nothing is worth that.

Jeez Loueeze said...

Not even on a silver platter said...
So these sheeple fans, rabid fan included, think that by admiring what the G's have gotten out of people is somehow going to teach them how to get stuff out of the public? Do they think that if they watch that show enough, some of the luck of the G's will rub off on them or what? Doesn't make sense to me.

I would think that a couple the same age as the G's or thereabout who went to school and went to work and was raising their family would be outraged by this con. I don't get it.

4/10/2009 2:20 PM

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I think these uber-sheeple ( the stalker type like this crazy lady ) believe that if they prove to Jon and Kate that they are their biggest fan, somehow they can weasle their way onto the show. Perhaps as Kate's new spa BFF, or the new not-a-nanny, or a "biggest fan" episode ( hell, they had an episode about poop, why not an epiosde about fans? ).

You all probably remember that weird Britney Spears fan...the boy who was dressed as a girl and crying about people picking on Britney, bawling and saying "Leave her alooooone!!!!" ? Well, this is how this one particular stalker fan is. She should be spoofed on Saturday Night Live...she's THAT looney!


( She's addicted to GWoP, by the way. Can't get enough of it :)

Dew said...

Another favorite passage of mine about wealth is from the New Testament Book of Luke:

A wealthy ruler asks Jesus: "Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” When Jesus heard this, he said to him, “Sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”

The ruler was baffled and couldn't do it. My feeling about this passage is not that Jesus is saying ALL wealthy must sell everything, that all wealth is bad. I think he is saying if you LOVE your wealth so much that you put it before God and wouldn't give it up even if Jesus Christ spoke to you and asked you to do so, then it becomes a bad thing. When Jesus talks about it being difficult for the rich to get into heaven (but notice he never says it's IMPOSSIBLE), I think He is speaking about how many rich people have allowed the wealth to come before God.

Kate and Jon need to do some soul searching about how they value their wealth, and whether they are putting it before God, their friends and family, and their children, as I believe they are.

elliepants said...

Hi. Never posted before but spend WAY too much time reading since I stumbled on this blog a few weeks ago...

A comment on what KiSSy said about celebrity moms:

"All celebrity moms who come to mind who are often seen doing 'normal' things with their kids. Shopping, playground trips, etc., while doing their best to keep their kids OUT of the spotlight."


THAT IS SO TRUE!

Here's the difference, though, between KON and, say, Angelina or Reese Witherspoon: If Katie Irene DIDN'T show off her kids' poo or their comped vacations, she wouldn't BE a celebrity! Those women are famous for reasons other than having an enormous womb capable of gestating a litter of children.

Cheers, E

Hilary said...

I am so not envious of K8 and her life. Yes, I lost my job in December and have not found a job yet. But, I would not trade the time I am spending with my daughter while I am searching for a job. K8 needs to realize that she has 8 beautiful children who need a mother in their life, not a pseudo celebrity. I just hope she wakes up from whatever dream she is in and realizes it before it is too late.

Mo-gan said...

I never post comments on here but today I felt I should! I am an exsheeple. I used to watch the show, defend Jon and Kate to my fiance..whole nine yards.

But not anymore!! I got curious and decided to look up where the grandparents are and what happened to beth and jodie and came across this site!

This site has opened my eyes big time. I no longer watch or support the show and have currently converted four sheeples!

Oh! And I apologized to my fiance and HAD to tell him he was right about how hateful and mean Kate was to Jon.

My5blessings said...

The ruler was baffled and couldn't do it. My feeling about this passage is not that Jesus is saying ALL wealthy must sell everything, that all wealth is bad. I think he is saying if you LOVE your wealth so much that you put it before God and wouldn't give it up even if Jesus Christ spoke to you and asked you to do so, then it becomes a bad thing. When Jesus talks about it being difficult for the rich to get into heaven (but notice he never says it's IMPOSSIBLE), I think He is speaking about how many rich people have allowed the wealth to come before God.
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I completely agree. Well said.
It is exactly what I meant. No, not impossible. Generally speaking if your worship money, you aren't worshiping God. Right now, they are so caught up in the spotlight and money, it *seems* to leave very little time for God or Family.

justmy opinion said...

What I covet is the ability to be the only "chosen" family in the world that receives sponsers and endorsements from God himself.I wish God would call Gymboree and Kmart and P&G and add me to the list of charity cases.Not to mention Utah, N.C ,California and Hawaii.My family needs to be "cultured" too.
On another note I wanted to say any family big or small could have such a woderful life if they were given everything for free like the Gosselins.Take any people struggling to make ends meet and provide their family with a mansion, furniture, appliances, clothing, food, hired help,toys,airfare,hotel accomadations,tickets to events and anything they may need to get to those events and just see how rosey their lives become.They are what they are because of what they have been given not because they have defined themselves by actually working it.Any Joe Schmoe can do what they did if they have the right people giving them things.

Wendy said...

I am in total agreement with you. At first, I loved watching this show because the children are undeniably cute. I was so happy when I knew all their faces and names. I loved seeing their family go through daily life. I felt sorry for their financial burdens. I actually tried to figure out what spa Kate went to so I could send her a gift certificate because I felt bad for her during the mother's day episode and agreed she deserved a break. I, like everyone who only knows part of the truth loved them and couldn't get enough of their show.

Now, I feel uncomfortable when I tune into the show. I feel as if it has snowballed into a disaster. It's turned into a way for Kate to get everything her heart desires. She doesn't care about anyone but herself. Jodi and Beth stood by her side through all the "real tough" times. The times before the money. They were there to help in any way they could because they had a genuine love for the Gosselins and their children. Now, they are not allowed to be on the show for whatever reason the Gosselins will never admit to. However, TLC, producers, camera people, sponsors, book companies, hair dressers and everyone else and their mama is making money off of the Gosselin's children. The show has become all about money. Money really is the root of all evil. Kate sits there saying I love it and can't be happier as I get to parade around pretending to be mother of the year and I haven't even spent the last month with my children.

Why do I even pay attention to it? I do because Jon and Kate asked America to come into their home and be a part of their families life. They asked us to be concerned for their childrens well being by talking about all their financial trials. Always saying they had to do without and BUDGET, BUDGET, BUDGET. And I became involved. I started to really like them and believe all they where sharing as they pleaded with America saying it was their real lives portrayed. Then, Jodi and Beth whom I had come to appreciate left the show. They didn't go with the Gosselins to Hawaii, which I had heard Beth talk about with Kate in Utah. They weren't at the wedding and people who had never even met the kids were. They weren't invited to participate in all the good stuff. They were shut out because Kate didn't need them anymore. The show started becoming a way for them to attack all the rumors flying around about them. Kate became obnoxious defending rumors against her. The children became characters in their story. They were dragged here and there without familiar faces to make them feel comfortable. All they are are meal tickets in Kate's eye. Kate charges for pictures of them. What I think really bothers me is Kate makes no apologies for her behavior. If only she would ever remember she is not a celebrity but that she is just a mom that was in the right place at the right time. She should just go back to her regular life and enjoy her children. She could turn off the cameras and let people remember them in dvds. She has enough money to stay home and make real organic meals for her family. Wake them up in the morning and drop them off at school. She could sit down and here about their day(everyday). Soon, the world would forget all the bad she did and she could go back to a normal life. The life I want to think she intended to have. A life being a mom to her children.

I don't think that she will but I want her to know she could. We all make mistakes in life. The first step is admitting it and moving on in the right direction. They shouldn't get deeper and deeper into this run-away train that is bound to crash. Ask any celebrity, 15 minutes of fame runs out and it is hard for them to deal with the loss of fame. If they leave the public eye now, it will be much easier than when America tires of them and they eventually are forced back to their ordinary lives without the loved ones that once supported them before they were stars. It will be so very lonely when they can no longer make money for people and the phone stops ringing. They should get out now while they can. I wish I had never started watching the show because I feel like I have an obligation to their children now and I can't bear to see them ignored. My only hope is that someone(anyone) comes to their senses and cancels their show.

Tammy H. said...

I am glad you could put in to words cause that is EXACTLY what I have thought for a long time, I just couldn't write it down! Excellent post! I hope KON reads this and I am sure they do, maybe they will get some kind of sign from their "higher being" to let their kids rest!

Danielle said...

I have no desire to be pregnant with 6 babies. I'm a human being, not a dog.

jo said...

I always thought money would make you happy until I saw this show.....they are so miserable and I feel awful for their children. They are so adorable, but don't stand a chance at a normal life.

Emily said...

I agree with just about everything. But I don't think spending some "me" time at the spa or whatever makes you a bad mom. I need a little "me" time so that I can give the best I have to my son.

Of course, that mentality can (and has been) taken to extremes.