First, it was Betty Crocker. Then, Martha Stewart. Now, it's Kate Gosselin.

Submitted via email by Anonymomma.

First, it was Betty Crocker. Then, Martha Stewart. Now, it's Kate Gosselin.

For generations now, American commerce has been portraying its own idealistic versions of motherhood to the masses by utilizing and marketing women who not only lack the experience and the knowledge to be viewed as experts, but also have very little, if anything, in common with the average wife and mother. A few years ago, a man in a suit who sat behind a desk all day came up with the less than brilliant concept of taking a woman virtually and self-admittedly incapable of caring for more than two children at any given time, and crowning her with the title of "America's Favorite Mom".

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Serena said...

Submitted via email by Anonymomma.

First, it was Betty Crocker. Then, Martha Stewart. Now, it's Kate Gosselin.

For generations now, American commerce has been portraying its own idealistic versions of motherhood to the masses by utilizing and marketing women who not only lack the experience and the knowledge to be viewed as experts, but also have very little, if anything, in common with the average wife and mother. A few years ago, a man in a suit who sat behind a desk all day came up with the less than brilliant concept of taking a woman virtually and self-admittedly incapable of caring for more than two children at any given time, and crowning her with the title of "America's Favorite Mom".

Since then, several well-known brands have contributed to what is essentially a fairy tale. A make-believe image of the modern day mother, precisely organized coupon caddy in hand, perfectly spotless children at her feet, professionally whitened smile on her spray-tanned face. Sticky notes? Check! Schedules? Check! Organic marshmallow fluff? Check! Team of behind the scenes helpers? Check! Husband who is verbally neutered whenever he doesn't accomplish any given delegated task to her unrealistic standards? Check! Amenities and perks such as craft services to provide meals at least four days a week and a complimentary wardrobe to help perfect that perfectly perfect image? Check! The neighbor who folds entire weeks worth of laundry at a time for ten people, yet graciously allows someone else to take the credit? Check!

This is our role model? This is who the rest of us American moms are supposed to aspire to become? If you take a step back from the glaring media angle that reminds us all to tune in Monday nights to see what grammatically incorrect insight Kate might bestow upon us, such as how to watch your spouse bathe your eight children for you or how to adequately organize a 'to-do' list for the babysitter before you go to your spa appointment, it's abundantly clear that this mother in question does very little mothering at all.

What was it about her, again, that seemingly intrigued the average viewer to tune in in the first place? Oh, wait, I remember. The children. A mom with two sets of multiples, twins and sextuplets, was hand-picked (after viewing her fervently shopped-around, homemade pilot) by a cable network to apparently show the rest of us common folk how it's really done. Her crowning achievement in life had merely been to gestate and give birth to eight children, and yet somehow that qualifies her to school the rest of us in how to properly parent our kids? Mr. Executive in decisive charge of this hot mess, you ought to be ashamed of yourself! Where is your mother?

I'll take a wild guess and say that she probably isn't taping instructions on how her spouse can make her the perfect cup of coffee on the kitchen cabinet above the pot. In fact, it's safe to assume that Mr. Executive's mother probably percolated her own coffee rather than having her husband do it for her. If she is anything like the millions of other hard working American mothers, and sometimes even fathers, out there, she most likely cooked a homemade breakfast, lunch, and dinner at least six days a week, dropped off the dry cleaning on the way to the pediatrician's office with a sick toddler, picked up his favorite brand of peanut butter at the grocery store on the way home, checked all off his homework before serving supper to a man who's shirts she spent the evening ironing, and still found time to tuck her son in bed at night after she gave him a bath. She doesn't use Post-It notes to remind anyone of anything, because she simply doesn't have the time nor the pen. She gave it to Mr. Executive to draw with when he cried because he lost his box of crayons somewhere in the back of the car. She also didn't dress Mr. Executive and his siblings in matching outfits because she knew the importance of individuality, even to a seven year old, and rather than stifle it, she chose to nurture it, which is probably why Mr. Executive is where he is today. For him to chose Kate Gosselin to represent the American mother isn't just an insult to us all, but to his own as well.

Somewhere in a living room on a Monday night, sits Mr. Executive's mother. As she watches first hand this great hoax of maternal instinct, she probably wonders what it is she did and where she went wrong in raising him to view women as such lazy, disrespecting, self-loathing, neurotic narcissists. Celebrating Kate Gosselin will most definitely set the bar incredibly low for future generations of women who desire to one day raise families of their own. They need to know that they can achieve much more, and do a lot better than serve their kids grapes and crackers on a paper plate and call it a meal. They need to understand that just because they load a washing machine, that does not mean they did the laundry. There is more to it than that. If their children get ketchup on their shirts while eating a non-organic hot dog, it's okay! They won't end up in therapy over it. They will, however, end up in therapy if they are publicly belittled about it in front of an audience. If their kids ever worry that Mommy and Daddy might not stay married forever, tell them that kissing their husband in front of the children and telling him that they love him will reassure them more than any lavishly concocted island ceremony ever can.

There is certainly more substance to being a mother than the example Kate Gosselin offers, on or off camera. Technically, she's only ever labored twice. As she tirelessly, yet exhaustingly admits 'from the mountain tops', she can not even possibly care for even just her youngest six children herself. This statement of fact came when she publicly declared in 2005 when the state of Pennsylvania told her they would no longer pay for the Medicaid-furnished, tax payer provided, LPN that she received as basically a year long consolation prize for giving birth to a self-induced litter of babies. Though thankfully, none of the Gosselin children required such necessary medical intervention, Kate corrected us all by reminding everyone that since society gave her free will to utilize fertility treatments, and for financial gain nonetheless, then it was everyone's responsibility to help raise the eight children that she now credits God in giving her. Now, we can't all be as deeply faithful as this mother of all mothers, but just what sort of cruel and punishing God would do such a wretched thing to such a deserving woman? Surely not the same God that declared her female anatomy incapable of producing a child naturally in the first place, right?

If the utmost effeminate idol of these United States of America could speak, Lady Liberty herself would probably admit to sharing the same sense of embarrassment that so many of the country's mothers feel whenever we are subjected to the magazine articles, commercials, public speaking engagements, print ads and now even literature all being mass produced and distributed under the guise of wholesome parental guidance. In a society that already condemns the stay-at-home-mom and labels her with a scarlet "L" for laziness, this is corporate America's finest example? She is the best they can come up with? A woman whose only claim to maternal competence can be surmised in an extremely edited twenty three minutes a week? The thought alone is absolutely terrifying. To the millions of behind-the-scenes mothers out there who are tireless in their actual efforts to rear the best children that they possibly can, know that even though you may not have the birthright to any records in terms of procreation of the human species, your achievements are far greater. Remember that you are your daughter's precedent, should she one day chose to follow in your footsteps. And when it comes to Kate Gosselin, parental guidance is strongly suggested.

Submitted via email by Anonymomma.

AnneMarie said...

WOOT !!!

Jen K said...

Wow, pretty much sums it up! :) Great job!

The neighbor who folds entire weeks worth of laundry at a time for ten people, yet graciously allows someone else to take the credit? Check!


Let's not forget the author who pens a New York Times Best Seller for her yet never receives proper credit (or a co-signing) in exchange! Check!

I love how you enumerated all of the things that Kate gives the "appearance" of doing but doesn't really do. The laundry thing was always something that bugged me especially when she essentially bragged that someone else does all the folding, ironing and putting away which as Kate said "is what most people hate to do anyway". Like somehow she is above having to the hard part.

Yet, she's ever the laundry martyr.

Crystal said...

Advertising firms always cater to their target market segment. Therefore, they find what is popular for that group and plaster what is popular on items that target market buys. If they did advertising based on individuals who were known for their ethical behavior and good deeds, we would have Jesus, the Virgin Mary, Mother Theresa, and Buddha (if that is what you believe in) on our box of Wheaties,instead of Kobe Bryan. In a perfect world society would adverstise and promote those individuals who exhibit a strong ethical character instead of what is the latest fad.

Beth said...

correction: she has never labored. planned c-sections do not include labor : )

Moons in Leo said...

Well said, Anonymomma.

I believe the show appeals to teen-aged girls who lack the maturity to differentiate fact from fiction.

Kate Gosselin hasn't raised any child to a successful adulthood. Whether her offspring are ever capable of being happy, healthy, productive members of society remains to be seen.

NCLindsey said...

Wonderfully written! Bravo!

I, too, was always annoyed at the laundry thing!

And the paper plate thing (C'mon dishwasher!!!)...

And the freebie everything...

I could go on and on, but preaching to the choir! :)

marypoppins said...

I just saw part of the first 1 hour special.

They show Jon leaving to go to work and Kate then tells us about her day. Get up at 8 , make breakfast, let the kids play, nap etc

What kills me is that they make it look like she does that every day on HER OWN.Just her and Jon alone with these kids , all by themselves all the time.

We know that they had help-paid, volunteer/free.

And you could see the signs all over the house- instructions, seating charts, notes to helpers etc


No I do not consider her a supermom. She and Jon had help from others to help care for the babies. We know they received lots of donations. Physical and financial help was given.

FXfanatic said...

Personally, I think Mr. Executive was an orphan. This is the ONLY way to explain his terrible decisions.

FXfanatic said...

Now, we can't all be as deeply faithful as this mother of all mothers, but just what sort of cruel and punishing God would do such a wretched thing to such a deserving woman? Surely not the same God that declared her female anatomy incapable of producing a child naturally in the first place, right?


Bingo!

gotthatright said...

Kate Gosselin doesnt even portray a woman who can successfully balance her 'career' and motherhood. The woman who appears so poised and put together during tv interviews and book signings, at home is beside herself over mold in the fridge and is annoyed and frustrated by the mere presence of her children.

Tribute said...

This post left me with chills on my arms and tears in my eyes. Serena/Anonymomma speaks for so many of us.

Sometimes it seems like you're just breaking your back at home, trying to take care of all the things that need to be taken care of in a day, only to feel like you're not measuring up or, worse, being snubbed by your friends who work outside the home who think a stay-at-home person should be able to solve every problem, have the perfect home, perfect pets, perfect kids, perfect schedule...oh, and lots of free, personal time "BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME LIKE I DO." (Forget the fact that I worked at outside jobs for YEARS before I tried to get pregnant.)

So, you've got THAT kind of prejudice to deal with...and then you've got "role model" (gag) Kate Gosselin, making us feel awful because we serve Hamburger Helper once a week to stretch the budget.

I swear, it would be easier to just take the whole family and go live in a remote mountain cabin somewhere...with no TV and no other negative influences and harsh judgment of, most of all, our own selves.

My grandma was fifteen years old when her mother died, leaving behind the newborn she just had given birth to, and five other kids. Grandma was the eldest, so she had to not only take care of all her little brothers and sisters, assume the household chores for her pa (who farmed from sunup to sundown), quit school and also pick cotton all day (her infant sister strapped to her back). She had to keep a garden going, feed the chickens, milk the cow, make three meals a day from scratch, haul water from the creek to do dishes and laundry (imagine the diapers)...and she was a young, teenage girl! And, know what else, she from all accounts did a very good job, at the expense of maybe her own childhood dreams. I'm serious...it's a true story. To me, THIS is a role model...a strong, uncomplaining, dedicated, unselfish woman. I can never in my wildest dreams be my grandma but I try to remember her when I start to whine and instead aspire to be the best person I can be...do the best I can do with what's before me.

Some years back, when Martha Stewart had her older shows, long before the talk show, I would feel so calm watching her cook something or fold a shirt a special way but it would also make me feel inadequate that I wasn't doing homekeeping right, like her. I suppose it comes down to self-esteem, but this kind of stuff can chip away at self-worth if you let too much of it seep in. Sometimes it's better to just fumble down the road your own way.

Thank you for this submission. I feel like it validated me.

laura linger said...

Outstanding.

And now I will ask the million-dollar question:

Why isn't THIS article appearing in the mainstream media? All we get is fawning pap from them. Anon here has asked the questions that NEED to be asked, and it is done on a blog. Why isn't this in Family Circle or Woman's Day or any of the other magazines that have a love affair going with KON? Did I just answer my own question?

I love my son! said...

Anonymomma, well done! That was by far the best post to date.

IBM62 said...

Betty Crocker isn't/wasn't a real person is she?

Anyway, great post, Anonymomma!

ThreeFarmers said...

No, Betty Crocker is a character like Aunt Jemima and the Pillsbury Doughboy, however Anonymomma's article is deadly accurate.

my9cats said...

Excellent article. I mean blog.
Well-written, thoughtful, and articulate.(How come sheeple can't write like this? Just asking). Have you considered submitting it to one of the op-ed pages or "My Turn". (Either in Newsweek or Time).
You really should.
Congratulations.

4girlsoneboy said...

I hope this has been forwarded to all the TV shows and every magazine that has featured the Kon artists. Someone has got to wake up and realize that Kate Gosselin is just as guilty in her devious little mind as Octomama.
We aren't asking for a mansion, free clothes for our family nor two sets of washers and dryers. Just please let all of us mothers struggling out here live to see her get her comeuppance

Lonnyswife said...

Tribute said:
Some years back, when Martha Stewart had her older shows, long before the talk show, I would feel so calm watching her cook something or fold a shirt a special way but it would also make me feel inadequate that I wasn't doing homekeeping right, like her.
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I had the same feeling watching Martha back in the 'old' days. How did she do it. Everything was perfect!!
Then I read how she had/has a staff, who would do all the prep, etc.
All Martha had to do was show up. She didn't come up with all the nifty ideas. She didn't take care of acres and acres of garden on her own.
Sound like anyone else we know?

Tyra said...

Excellent, excellent post Anonymomma! I also think Martha Stewart is very calming to watch,but sometimes we just can't take ourselves too seriously. I watched her show one time when she was explaining how to plan your schedule for the year. She was marking on her calender when to change the oil in your lawnmower, rotate your tires, plant your garden,etc. I laughed so hard I almost wet my pants!

AnneMarie said...

Hold the presses! I need a TV show! I managed 6 loads of laundry today with only ONE washer and dryer,folded it and put it all away, MYSELF! Golly you CAN do other things AND do laundry at the same time. You don't have to sit and watch the "kate show" in the little plastic round window !! LOL!

(Visualizing QKI sitting staring at herself in a dryer window.)

Twitter.com/McCaw said...

Martha Stewart serving a meal on paper plates??!!

Their books are as ghost-written as the Roloffs were. Phoniness coming out their a**es.

FXfanatic said...

Wait.
Are
you
telling
me
that
the
PILLSBURY DOUGHBOY ISN"T REAL???

My life is over.

Tangerine Tanya said...

Anonymomma,

Bravo and kudos to you on a very well written blog!

GREAT!!!!!!!!!

Keep it up!

Pam said...

Say wha?
Since when is Kate Gosselin being held up as a "role model"?

I don't recall ever hearing/seeing anything that indicated the reason she is on TV is that she is a role model. She certainly isn't presented as a perfect mom for all to emulate. She's a mere curiosity for entertainment purposes.

Just because she is selling cleaning products on the side STILL doesn't make her a role model or that viewers are supposed to see her as one. She most definitely isn't being portrayed as a Martha Stewart either.

Way to stretch your imagination.

Maria said...

Very well written and spot on, Serena. I can't think of anything to add!

christina said...

Well said Anonymomma!

As a true SAHM of two, I am increasingly sickened by the media's portrayal of "America's Favorite Mom" and the prejudice against parents who choose to raise their children at home.

SkippyMom said...

This is exceptionally well written and I applaud Anonymomma. Nicely done.

I agree with the previous posters that this should be submitted to mass media, someone should/would/WILL publish it.

Unfortunately for GWOP it will become apparent to the sheeple Anonymomma used too many words that were non monosyllabic and therefore they will only be able to comprehend a small portion of your post; and those tidbits will be the miniutae they will come over here to deride and comment about.

The only thing Kate Gosselin is a role-model for is the egregious use of her womb to achieve her monetary goals.

MsPeabody said...

Moons in Leo said:
Well said, Anonymomma.

I believe the show appeals to teen-aged girls who lack the maturity to differentiate fact from fiction.

Kate Gosselin hasn't raised any child to a successful adulthood. Whether her offspring are ever capable of being happy, healthy, productive members of society remains to be seen.
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I agree and I would hope that mothers out there are telling their teenage daughters, that Kate isn't someone who they should be aspiring to be. Kate is the worst example of what a mother and wife should be, she is a fraud and not someone whom they should be looking to for any guidance. I hate the thought that some young women are fooled by all this show represents and what kate's horrible example is producing in these young girls and I hope that most have a good example whether it be their mother, teacher, pastor, etc. before them so that they are able to differentiate between the truth and the false.

MsPeabody said...

FXfanatic said: Wait.
Are
you
telling
me
that
the
PILLSBURY DOUGHBOY ISN"T REAL???

My life is over.

So Funny! ROFL

3angelsmom said...

Great post Annonymomma!

Mr. Executive in the TV industry who is trying to sell Kate as the "ideal mom" is no different than magazine editors trying to sell us the air-brushed supermodels who grace the covers as the beauty ideal women should strive for. And I'm not buying.

Any real mother knows that motherhood brings a variety of changes to one's body and life, simply because it's maternal instinct to put your child first. I'm not suggesting moms shouldn't make regular time for themselves. But mothers with no "help" (like nannies or Craft Service) generally do not have time to work on their tan AND exercise AND bleach their teeth AND keep their hair trimmed AND maintain the perfect manicure every day. Instead, they are caring for, nurturing, and educating their child, none of which is easily done in a beauty salon.

Moons in Leo - you made an excellent point that the show appeals to teenage girls. I, too, fear that they do not have the maturity to distinguish fact from fiction (putting laundry in the washing machine is not the same as doing laundry lol). I also worry about overwhelmed new mothers who may feel inadequate striving for this "ideal."

This is NOT a reality show, it is clearly science fiction. Or rather, Kate forces the children to portray reality by broadcasting their worst moments on TV for everyone to see while using her team of people to maintain the illusion of her as The Perfect Mother.

Virginia said...

Thank you, Anonymomma, for expressing so well the reasons why some of us are frustrated with this show and with the fact that Kate Gosselin is being pushed down the throats of the viewing public as someone to look up to for ANYTHING. As we raise our kids, sometimes alone, go to work, go to school, attend parent conferences, baseball games, concerts, ballet recitals with a smile on our faces we know that somewhere someone else is taking care of kon's kids while they are being depicted as being super parents. Un-friggin-believable.

For all the reasons you mention, I am disgusted by TLC.

And I want to add one more thing. Let me preface by saying that I am not from a military family. But if these many blessings of diapers, free food, free housing, free cars, etc. are being given out, why are they not being given (and even advertised as being given) to those who are giving up their lives and sometimes literally their lives for this country? Why would any company be inclined to give to this people who are obviously and have been identified as slackers and people who chose to have the kids they have and try to survive without real jobs? I simply can not get my brain around it.

What can we do?

DominiqueCIV said...

Virginia!
Amen to your post!!
I have worked on a military base and I KNOW what our men and women make in a year - all of you would be appalled. They are NOT allowed A/C in their homes and the particular base I worked at reached 110 in the middle of the day. These military wives are left for long periods of time without ANY relief from a husband coming home. And believe me some of these military families have 5,6, or even 8 children and they home-school them as well! So, I ask any sheeple - why will TLC do for this family when you have SO many families making the ulitmate sacrifice (try being witness to a pregnant Navy wife finding out about the death of her husband in Iraq -I WILL NEVER forget that as long as i live) Most Americans just have no idea what our Armed forces go through unless you have worked with them. Glad KON has their own stimulus package to live on - is there anything in our "stimulus" package to help our military families? Kate wants to know what a hard life is - bear witness to how our military families live and it will burn a memory into your soul - trust me. And BTW - I am a civilian who had the honor to get to work on a base - so no I am not military related.

Jill said...

I will admit it...there was a time when I was a HUGE Kate fan. I wanted organic (could not afford it.) Hello? I bought a So Cool Mom T-shirt.

Had Kate played her cards right, many would still like her. But, she started to change. She was worse than unlikable...I could no longer relate to her. Was it all the free stuff? Maybe. But, had she been a really nice, warm and caring person...she could have been America's Sweetheart. I could have overlooked the freebies. Had she been really great to her fans...she could have had it all.

But, she chose the wrong path.

She is now a lack luster parent with a failing marriage. She has pushed away family and friends. She has become bored by her children. She has lost her fan base by treating those who paid the bills badly. She has lost her dignity. She has a huge house filled with freebies...

She has nothing.

Kate, you have failed not only your husband, children, family, friends and...us...You have failed yourself.

I think if, as mothers, we need a hero we should look to those around us and into the mirror.

Kate is not a super mom nor a hero!

Maria said...

I have worked on a military base and I KNOW what our men and women make in a year - all of you would be appalled. They are NOT allowed A/C in their homes and the particular base I worked at reached 110 in the middle of the day.

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I just want to ask, why in the WORLD would they not be allowed air conditioning? They pay their own electric bills, don't they? If so, why can't they decided if they want to pay for a/c or not. That is just ridiculous. You know that if it is 110 degrees outside, then it is even hotter INSIDE the houses.

DominiqueCIV said...

Maria -
I actually asked that same question when I first staring working on the base and what was explained is that if military families live on the base the gov't pays their bills etc. Some do chose to live off base but the majority stay on base bc of their income. I believe the whole thing with no AC is bc it may interfere with equipment? Not completely sure. Nonetheless, I was still shocked to see no AC! You never see commercial airlines flying over bases it is protected airspace, naturally. They have ceiling fans etc in their homes - but you know it does little if nothing to cool things down. And they have community pools but still is quite primitive conditions - but you will NEVER hear any one in the military complain about this - truly self-sacrificing and quite humbling.

Rebecca said...

Way back when this show first started I felt that I must be lazy. I had only three young children and I couldn't keep up with anything, yet Kate had eight, even worked a couple hours a week and her household seemed organized and very tidy. Now that I have watched for all this time I know I am the 'normal' one- not lazy. Dust is normal, laundry not getting folded straight away is normal and a bit of chaos is normal. Delegating or hiring out household chores while you are unappreciative and rude to your family is not worth all the organization or money in the world. My kids and husband might not have all their socks matched in the morning, but they each get hugs and kisses before heading out to start the day.
It's those simple things these children are missing that makes me feel bad for them. Are they learning that being spotless and picture ready at any given time is the ultimate goal to life?

Anonymous said...

Excellent post! Very well written and presented. Bravo!!!

Maria said...

"hey have community pools but still is quite primitive conditions - but you will NEVER hear any one in the military complain about this - truly self-sacrificing and quite humbling."

Dominique, thanks for explaining that. I think most people in the military are very self-sacrificing people, and I have the utmost respect for them. My son has wanted to be in the army since he was 6. He's almost 12 and still talks about when he "becomes a soldier". It scares me a bit, but at the same time, I know his character, and the army couldn't get anyone better than my son! I'll have to tell him about the no a/c thing, though!

jen said...

DominiqueCIV,
I was just wondering what military bases you have been around. I am a military brat and grew on living on base and we always had heat and A/C. There is no way our housing was "primative." Yes, the homes were smaller than living off base but we always had all the same "luxuries" as off-base housing. I am also currently serving and live on post and my house is quite nice. There are also a ton of family things to do, it's really a small town within the confines of the base.

AnneMarie said...

On base, on post, on station housing in SOME locations does not allow WINDOW AC units, as the wiring either in the room, or in the multiplex housing unit cannot handle the extra load of a running 5,000+BTU unit.


It has nothing to do with interference, or who does or does not pay the bill. It is a safety issue, plain and simple.


You just suck it up and move on.

DominiqueCIV said...

Jen - Thank you for serving !! Without too much disclosure - we use to live in San Diego, CA and you can surmise from that where I had my experience from. I encountered many people without such utilities like AC. And yes, it is like a small community absolutely! And by no means do I mean to insinuate or for that matter be offensive in stating "primitive" conditions - I am a civilian remember - I had no prior experience on a base so to me I was quite upset when I found many of my friends were living without comforts. But I digress - this blog is NOT about our military - my point was to concur with Virginia that if TLC wants to highlight some hero/super moms and dads or heroes in general - they should consider a military family. And Maria - your son is all ready a hero in my eyes - for even considering the Army - he has more guts at 12 then KON will ever have.

Professional Mom said...

Maria,
My husband was in the military, and served in several bases overseas...even in Iraq--there has always been air conditioning. We lived in base housing on Marine Corps bases...always had AC. It is true that they would not allow window units in stateside housing; but central air was avalible.

MomOf3AndLovingIt said...

Pam said...
Say wha?
Since when is Kate Gosselin being held up as a "role model"?

I don't recall ever hearing/seeing anything that indicated the reason she is on TV is that she is a role model. She certainly isn't presented as a perfect mom for all to emulate. She's a mere curiosity for entertainment purposes.

Just because she is selling cleaning products on the side STILL doesn't make her a role model or that viewers are supposed to see her as one. She most definitely isn't being portrayed as a Martha Stewart either.

Way to stretch your imagination.
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Well, when magazines tout her as "America's Favorite Mom", I guess to me that implies they are holding her up as a role model.

timetogokon said...

Just because she is selling cleaning products on the side STILL doesn't make her a role model or that viewers are supposed to see her as one. She most definitely isn't being portrayed as a Martha Stewart either.

Way to stretch your imagination.
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Well, when magazines tout her as "America's Favorite Mom", I guess to me that implies they are holding her up as a role model.


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I agree with you momof3:

When Keight is described as a "super organized mom of 8" or asked "how does she manage it all?" she is most certainly being presented as someone to admire/emulate.

The only stretch of the imagination is believing that Keight is anything but a money-grubbing, greedy shrew who pimps her kids for fame and fortune.

yeaisaidthat said...

Pam said...
Say wha?
Since when is Kate Gosselin being held up as a "role model"?

I don't recall ever hearing/seeing anything that indicated the reason she is on TV is that she is a role model. She certainly isn't presented as a perfect mom for all to emulate. She's a mere curiosity for entertainment purposes.

Just because she is selling cleaning products on the side STILL doesn't make her a role model or that viewers are supposed to see her as one. She most definitely isn't being portrayed as a Martha Stewart either.

Way to stretch your imagination.
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IMO, Kate Gosselin is the one guilty of stretching her imagination by agreeing to appear on tv and in magazine interviews that describe her as 'super mom', 'expert', 'America's favorite mom', etc...
As far as the media and faithful fans are concerned, 'entertainment purposes' is the only criteria required to proove Kate Gosselin worthy of the above title(s).
Kate Gosselin doesnt sell cleaning products, but whatever it is she and her PR team are selling, unfortunately the IMAGINATIONS of the media, sheeple and faithful fan's are 'buying' in to it.

Sara said...

"Pam said...

Say wha?
Since when is Kate Gosselin being held up as a "role model"?

I don't recall ever hearing/seeing anything that indicated the reason she is on TV is that she is a role model. She certainly isn't presented as a perfect mom for all to emulate. She's a mere curiosity for entertainment purposes.

Just because she is selling cleaning products on the side STILL doesn't make her a role model or that viewers are supposed to see her as one. She most definitely isn't being portrayed as a Martha Stewart either.

Way to stretch your imagination."
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Well, let me think. I went to Walmart the other day, and every five minutes, they broadcasted "Kate's tips" (courtesy of P&G) on the speakers, and her face was plastered on the tv in the grocery section. Literally, EVERY FIVE MINUTES.

They prey upon the fact that people will idolize her ways and then go out and buy the things she "uses" to complete the image. If that isn't pegging someone as a "role model" that you just NEED to copy, then kudos to you. You must be seeing something that I'm not.

notafan said...

They prey upon the fact that people will idolize her ways and then go out and buy the things she "uses" to complete the image. If that isn't pegging someone as a "role model" that you just NEED to copy, then kudos to you. You must be seeing something that I'm not.

This is just a common advertising method used by many companies over the years. Certainly nothing unusual about it. There have been dozens of 'celebs' (lets not rehash the topic of whether Kate is a celeb or not) who have been used as spokesmen. Kate's time will be over at some point and someone else will be used.

Kelli said...

you made an excellent point that the show appeals to teenage girls. I, too, fear that they do not have the maturity to distinguish fact from fiction (putting laundry in the washing machine is not the same as doing laundry lol). I also worry about overwhelmed new mothers who may feel inadequate striving for this "ideal."

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I think it's very rude that a few of you have been saying that teenage girls dont have the maturity level to determine whether Kate is a good or bad example. Of course most teenage girls know that she's NOT a role model. My 5-year-old son even says that she's a "mean mommy".

I can imagine that "Good Housekeeping" magazine doesn't typically target 15 year old girls. No, the people falling for this marketing ploy are middle aged women with children and households. It seems maturity doesn't always come with age.

mollybloom said...

I think the show appeals to a wide demographic of the cable audience. The Gosselins have or will shill to every possible target. We've already seen promotions to Christians, Women-Who-Use-Household-Appliances, Families-Without-a-Household-Staff, and Parents-Who-Actually-Buy-Children's-Clothes-and-Toys. Personally, I think a Kate bobble-head doll is only weeks away.

One mystery group is adult males. I can't imagine how frightening it must be for men to watch Jon get his balls busted each week on the sofa of sorrows. Would an adult male buy anything that Jon promotes? A microwave that pops corn? Hair plugs? My brain is burning.

Tango said...

Apparently the demo they want to pitch to is females 18 to 49 as that's what they use for their "top" rated business when claiming it's their number one show. It's barely breaking 2 million on a routine basis and has an occasional spike to 2.5 but the majority of those tuning in apparently hit that magic demographic. They don't say if it's hitting the lower age of the demo or the older end but when I see most of the fan clubs are in the mommy blogs then I'd have to say it's most likely getting the younger moms and moms to be.
I've raised my children and it didn't take more then a part of show or two to let me know that no way was this woman any one I'd give a pat on the back to and praise for a job well done. Any one that belly aches and complains about having healthy children and the "work" involved in caring for them is just sad. In this day and age of birth control if the work of raising children is too much for a person to handle then by all means please don't bring them into the world so they can feel like an unpleasant chore and burden. Plus she was blessed to have so many people volunteer time and money but she still belly ached. And even now with millions of dollars and untold number of helpers it still hasn't stopped her constant pity party.
I think even if my children were still toddlers I'd have given the show a heave ho after a few months. I can't imagine what a chore it would be to be related to or friends to such a sour ungrateful person. I don't think I can blame her family for choosing dad over Katie. She's a big old buzz kill.

Tami said...

And I want to add one more thing. Let me preface by saying that I am not from a military family. But if these many blessings of diapers, free food, free housing, free cars, etc. are being given out, why are they not being given (and even advertised as being given) to those who are giving up their lives and sometimes literally their lives for this country?
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Well, we're military and have a newborn, so if they are giving out freebies, send them our way! : )
*just kidding, we can take care of our family (even if my darn dh just backed into and destroyed our garage door today and there goes our tax money :::grrrr::::

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Virginia!
Amen to your post!!
I have worked on a military base and I KNOW what our men and women make in a year - all of you would be appalled. They are NOT allowed A/C in their homes and the particular base I worked at reached 110 in the middle of the day. These military wives are left for long periods of time without ANY relief from a husband coming home.
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I have only lived in one base house without AC and it was an old one but I got a window unit. We had some really nice base houses and they had central heat, AC, etc. They were better than the civilian house we live in now, that's for sure!

Tami said...

I think it's very rude that a few of you have been saying that teenage girls dont have the maturity level to determine whether Kate is a good or bad example. Of course most teenage girls know that she's NOT a role model. My 5-year-old son even says that she's a "mean mommy".

I can imagine that "Good Housekeeping" magazine doesn't typically target 15 year old girls. No, the people falling for this marketing ploy are middle aged women with children and households. It seems maturity doesn't always come with age.
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I can say that my 17 year daughter absolutely despises Kate and the show. She hates when it comes on and I don't turn the channel. She says they're setting a horrible example of marriages. I believe many if not most sheeple are middle aged women and probably childless! They envy KON and obsess over their kids. I don't get when people gush over how cuuuuute the kids are. They are just average kids. People who have their own kids don't get all excited over seeing them IMO. Heck, I'M middle aged even though I just had another baby and I don't think their kids are all that spectacular. It takes a certain kind of naive person to admire this family. I definitely know the type..

Angie said...

Jill,

You have summed it up just as I would. Kate missed her chance to
do this right and now there is no
going back. It's too late. Now it seems there really is an end in sight for this show.

marypoppins said...

. She says they're setting a horrible example of marriages. I believe many if not most sheeple are middle aged women and probably childless! They envy KON and obsess over their kids. I don't get when people gush over how cuuuuute the kids are. They are just average kids.
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Yes, that is NOT the way a married couple (or any two people who love each other) is supposed to communicate.

They are simply rude to and disrespectful of each other.PERIOD.

Its as if they cant stand to be near each other sometimes.

I too have always found the kids were just regular average looking. I guess people respond to the matching cute clothing and baby talk.

Virginia said...

Would any man seriously watch the Kon show and not do it just to make fun of Jon? I can't imagine why they would. I would think it would be totally embarassing for them to see one of their own kind castrated once a week for the entertainment of the viewing public.

SuzanneDeAZ said...

Will any of you buy products that have Kate's name or approval on them?

mollybloom said...

SuzanneDeAZ,

Kate's face (or Jon's either) on a box of anything would automatically cause me not to buy. Not only would I pass on the product itself, but also on anything else I could identify as being from the same manufacturer.

I also boycotted anything with Rachel Ray's face on it, even though I actually like many of her recipes. BTW, did RR's branding survive? I certainly can't imagine a Kate-Face lasting too long.

Anyonecanbefamous said...

Kate Gosselin states things(cooks do not cook from recipes) then does a 360 degree turn.
Even if you are a fan.... her recipes are found online! I have not bought a cookbook, since I got the internet...
Next thing you know she will open a hof campbell's chx broth... cut veg's... and call it grandma's!!!
look at the recipes...they use ready to bake biscuits... oh a cook just adds brown sugar to make cinnamon rolls..give me a break!

Elena said...

As a full-time mom myself (with NO help and NO cameras), this post made me tear up with pride. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! You are right on the money!!

BradysMom said...

That was VERY well said Anonymomma.

I never realized that J&K shopped around a homemade pilot! I don't know why I was so naive to think that they were "discovered".

I look back at the 1st season or two when I really enjoyed the show and didn't put the pieces together.

Making Kate Gosselin a celebrated 'stay at home mom' is sickening. I can't even bear to watch her doing the talk show circuit... always by herself (oops, i mean with her bodyguard and stylist), never with the kids that CRAVE her attention and love. Clearly she has her priorities in line, eh?

babygirlhk11 said...

Recent gossip about Jon

So I am sure everyone is aware of the recent aritcles of Jon's "infidelity" True or not, first of all I don’t condone cheating in any situation. (not saying that he did) But I will say that it is not uncommon for men who are emasculated constantly, like Jon, to try to regain their “manhood” by cheating. its not about the sex or the other person…but simply to help their self esteem. I also don't believe that intoxication has much to do with cheating as you wouldn't do anything drunk that isn't already in the back of your mind sober. Personally I don't think if he did cheat it would be in public. He is by now more than aware of his lack of privacy because of their fame and would likely cheat in private if he is cheating. But I do see that their marriage is obviously in trouble. I would hope that this is not just a publicity stunt to gain more viewers...but who knows...there is no such thing as bad publicity right?

I would also like to add (again not saying he did or didn't cheat) That he would probably not have to pay her child support. In most states its who ever makes the most income and is the custodial parent. Between her speaking engagement fees and her books I am sure she makes more! Of corse that begs the question…if divorce is coming who will have the kids most of the time? (Since in the more recent episodes Jon seems to be there more often than Kate) Personally I used to defend Kate, having a type A personality and multiples myself. I too am a clean freak and perhaps even ocd...but I am patient and kind to both my husband and children and put them first! The floor can always be swept later. In the last two seasons she has gotten completely out of control! It begs the question...are we seeing the real kate now and it has been a front from the start. Let us not forget that she is no longer changing hundreds of diapers and feeding babies anymore. Gone are the days of sleep deprivation and money problems. In fact the kids are in preschool half of the day now….so why is she more “stressed” now than she was in the earlier seasons. Their "tiny" house isn't an excuse anymore. Being home with the kids by herself...? nope Jon works from home now thanks to again help from friends. I don’t personally care for her “snobish” attitude anymore. This family used to be relaitable but now she has let being a "diva" ruin her relaitabilty to the common mother. Not to mention...she has constant help...which most of us moms do not...though they seem to go through nannies like they did diapers!

Either way I do wish them luck on overcoming this! Whether it is true or not damage has been done! I personally have lost interest in the show and think it is time to call it quits. Maybe the loss of public intrigue will bring Kates Swollen head down to a normal size...but that is doubtful.

Sorry for the long rant!

babygirlhk11 said...

I am curious...perhaps the reason the "grandparents" are not involved has to do with the Choices they made on exploiting their kids! I have heard her father is a minister. Maybe They disagreed with the show or for that matter the fertilty treatments. It's anyones guess I suppose...but food for thought anyways!

Sara Bonds said...

So good. So true. Great post. I recently blogged about Kate drama too and linked to your blog :o)

MarisaCognetta said...

Wow! For me, at least, these articles have been a breath of fresh air. I am a young mother (26) of 2 children and, at first; I was very intrigued by the show. After the 2nd season, however, I started to feel like I didn’t “measure up” to the ideal they presented as, like you put it, the perfect modern day mother. However, I instinctively knew that something wasn’t right with these thoughts-I knew that there just had to be a whole lot more going on behind the scenes, even thought I had no factual evidence to back this up (until I began to look up blog’s such as this). To make an even longer story short I worry about all the young mothers out there that may not have the insight or wisdom that simply comes from age to separate entertainment disguised as reality to see the difference and live feeling that they just can’t measure up (to the impossible-I might add) and that is an awful feeling for a mother who is doing the best she can. The Gosselin's have become a terrible example of what to measure up to...I guess it wouldn’t be so bad if all the extra “frills” weren’t covered up. And in the beginning I felt bad about her ending up with 6 babies, even though she did receive fertility treatments, but until I became educated about that process I thought that she had no choice but to keep them, but when you realize that she made that choice, which is ok, but then you have the nerve to expect everyone and their mother to help you because of such a “miracle”??! I think it would be a miracle if science wasn’t involved…

MarisaCognetta said...

Wow! For me, at least, these articles have been a breath of fresh air. I am a young mother (26) of 2 children and, at first; I was very intrigued by the show. After the 2nd season, however, I started to feel like I didn’t “measure up” to the ideal they presented as, like you put it, the perfect modern day mother. However, I instinctively knew that something wasn’t right with these thoughts-I knew that there just had to be a whole lot more going on behind the scenes, even thought I had no factual evidence to back this up (until I began to look up blog’s such as this). To make an even longer story short I worry about all the young mothers out there that may not have the insight or wisdom that simply comes from age to separate entertainment disguised as reality to see the difference and live feeling that they just can’t measure up (to the impossible-I might add) and that is an awful feeling for a mother who is doing the best she can. The Gosselin's have become a terrible example of what to measure up to...I guess it wouldn’t be so bad if all the extra “frills” weren’t covered up. And in the beginning I felt bad about her ending up with 6 babies, even though she did receive fertility treatments, but until I became educated about that process I thought that she had no choice but to keep them, but when you realize that she made that choice, which is ok, but then you have the nerve to expect everyone and their mother to help you because of such a “miracle”??! I think it would be a miracle if science wasn’t involved…