Gawking at the Gosselins

PennLive.com has an interesting article - Gawkers sometimes forget discretion to glimpse Gosselins.

Sam Gatchell, police chief of the Northwest Regional Lancaster County Police Department, said officers have not received any complaints about traffic from neighbors in the development.

At one point, the Gosselins had contacted the police with concerns people were taking pictures and approaching their front door, he said.

"People didn't use good discretion. Instead of people taking pictures from the street they were up in the yard," Gatshall said.

Then, eyebrows raised this summer when signs appeared on the Gosselins' front lawn, with the warnings to "Stop" and "Do Not Enter" along with instructions not to stop in front of their house, take pictures and talk to them.

"Maybe they are having some issues with privacy but I haven't really seen anything indicating that," said Paul Wooldridge, 48, a neighbor who lives a few doors down.

The signs were removed within a few days but not in time to avoid a heated debate in the blogosphere."


This illustrates some of the concerns we have for the kids - that the Gosselins aren't discreet enough about their location. We really don't want people on the Gosselins' lawn either.

Things I'd Like to See Jon and Kate Do

Things I Wish We'd See Jon & Kate Do:

1. Thank TLC, Figure 8 Films, the crew members, the audience, and their kids for assisting in giving them enough finances so that they won't ever have to choose between buying groceries or paying the mortgage, then promptly decline to sign on for anymore additional seasons.

2. Create a new contract with Figure 8 Films to allow for an annual special to update the audience on the family, and also to help put a little coin into the kids' college funds or for any other extraordinary needs the children might have. These specials will follow a strict format, allowing the cameraman to only shoot the kids learning, playing, involved in an activity or interacting with one another. The camera will never be allowed to capture the children in ANY state of nudity, including shots of underwear or using the loo. If a child needs to be taken away from a situation because of a punishment or in any way needs privacy, the camera should be banned from that area.

3. Find a reputable marriage counselor who specializes in bringing both parties to an equal ground. This means Kate will have to realize that she is not God, and that her way is not the only one. Jon will have to realize that he is a grown-up, and if he bows his head and acts like a whipped little boy for the rest of his life, his sons might not grow up to be strong men because they didn't have one to learn from. They would be best suited to a study on empathy, because neither one seems to understand how anyone feels but themselves.

4. Re-introduce themselves and the kids to their extended family, put the past behind them and realize that money and fame will fade, but your family will still be your family, even after the glory is gone.

5. Allow a child to spend a day or sleepover at family member's house by themselves. Just because they were born together, it doesn't mean they always have to be grouped in two's or three's or all together. Kate needs constant breaks from the kids in order to unwind, and it is very likely that the kids sometimes need a break from the whole group too.

6. Reseach better ways to earn money while staying at home with the kids. Kate could consider becoming an author, perhaps of childrens books, because she seemingly likes to write. Or, once the tups are in school, she could return to nursing. Jon could build up a business with their stockpile of cash, doing whatever it is that he does.

7. Make it a point to exercise together, even if it is a walk around the block at night. They should involve themselves in family exercise also, such as riding bikes or calisthenics. No pointing out the other person's flaws, or the childrens', unless they are prepared to address their own. Kate should see a physician to discover the cause of her chronic fatigue, which comes from no particular outside source.

8. Become involved with the community. It is important for children to see their parents in selfless acts and neighborhood contribution. This involves more than just writing a check or touting the cause. Become involved in groups for parents, such as the PTA (which is important because the Gosselin kids might consist of half the kindergarten class), enjoy the company of neighbors, attend town meetings and help organize events for the school, their church, or even the volunteer fire department. If Kate can throw a circus for her three year olds, she is capable of making a batch of cookies for a bake-sale.

9. Take a moment to consider their children's feelings. Put themselves back to that age, and remember how they felt when certain things were said or done to them. Remember the things that made them happy, and the things that hurt terribly. Once again, learn empathy.

10. Stop dressing the kids indentically. Each gender of tups would have three times the wardrobe if, instead of buying all identical items, three different items were bought. A shirt that might only be worn by one girl once or twice a month and then grown out of quickly could be worn by all three girl tups once or twice a month, and have it's value used by the time they grow out of it. Identical outfits are cute at Christmas time or in family portraits, but completely unnecessary on a day-to-day basis.

11. Learn more information about health and nutrition. Just because an item is organic, it doesn't mean it's healthy. It means it was raised or grown without certain insecticides, herbicides, fertilizers and hormones. It doesn't mean that it has less fat, sugar, etc. And since these products aren't always regulated, almost anything can be labeled organic. Kate should focus on the actual products she is using, how she prepares them, and how the menus are balanced, not just a word on a label that is trendy at the moment.

12. Take a cue from themselves when delegating tasks to the children- they should also be divided and assigned to each adult. Children usually absorb the desire to help by seeing their parents help each other.

I could go on and on, but I'll leave that up to you guys. What else would you like to see them do? Why? How would they go about it?

Submitted by Sara as a comment, but we think it's worthy of standing as a post. Thank you, Sara.