Reasons Why We Are Not Jealous of Jon and Kate

Kate is surrounded by 8 frequently loud and rather ill-behaved children. Nope don't need that. Although 8 well behaved kids would have been OK when I was younger. (Yes, I have adult children so I know how to rear well-behaved ones.)

Kate has industrial lighting and is being followed around by a film crew over half her life. Nope don't need that either. I had bit parts in two TV shows and two movies. That was way more than enough of the lights and mess and waiting for crew to set up thank you very much.

Kate is being told where she's going and what she's doing half her life for the now scripted "reality" show. Again, thankfully don't have that. That would drive me crazy. Can you imagine the stress from that alone? I value freedom too much to tolerate that.

Jon and Kate seem to think that giving spiels of a sort of fiction at churches and having their children's lives good and bad on TV is a good way to "earn a living." Nom not jealous of that one either.

Being recognized almost anywhere I go and being pestered by either fans or anti-fans. Couldn't most of us live without that?

Um, there is something about Kate's life I'd want? I can't think of anything right off hand. The amount of money they are getting to me isn't worth the trade-off of loss of personal freedom, privacy, and self-respect, but they have made another choice. I preferred to work in a more regular job and build up a successful retirement and provide a decent life for my children that didn't involve cameras and such. We had the option years ago to take a different path. After much thought, we decided not to go that way. I've never regretted it.

Why aren't you jealous of Jon and Kate? What do they have to deal with that you are happy not to have to handle?

Our Mailbag

Our mailbag is always a source of interesting emails and we appreciate hearing from our readers. Today we received an email that was of the "Why wasn't my comment selected for publication?" variety, and we thought it would be a good idea to put the answer here on the blog so that everyone might benefit:
Hello [name withheld],
Thank you for writing. Based on the comment you included below, I can give you an idea of why it wasn't one of the submissions we selected for publication.

It looks like the main problem is that instead of simply stating your position or view of things, you frame your comment in a way that editorializes on the views that others are expressing. In other words, we tend to stay away from publishing comments whose main focus is to object to the manner in which others are commenting.

For example, if we have two comments to consider, and one says, "I don't have a problem with Kate's hair, I think it is cute" and the other says, "Snarking about Kate's hair is crossing the line", then we'll publish the first comment and not the second.

Another example, if we have two comments to consider, and one says, "I don't snark on the family because I don't think that's very helpful to the children", and the other says, "Do you really think your snarking is going to help the children?", then again, we'll publish the first and not the second.

Finally, because we encourage readers to contact us directly with certain issues (which is why we have a prominent "Contact Us" button on the front page showing our email address, and we also display our email address in the sticky post at the top of the front page), we generally don't publish comments that editorialize on our publishing decisions -- so comments that say "I am disappointed that I logged in to read ABC and found XYZ instead." would be better sent to our email address rather than to our comment queue.

I hope this has answered your questions in a helpful way. If not, please feel free to write back for additional clarification. We do have a group of administrators handling the comment queue and sometimes our publishing policies may be interpreted with subtle differences among them.
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