What I Like about Kate

Challenge for the day: list at list one positive example of Kate's parenting.

193 comments:

fxfanatic said...

I think she's very pretty.
Her face.
In the videos of her on their Honeymoon she looked like Kendra from "The Girls Next Door" and seemed extremely carefree without a worry in the world.

Maggie said...

She leaves the children with other people most of the time. The people seem very nice.

Jan said...

She takes the kids to church.

grammier said...

She makes sure everyone's clothing matches.

Roberta said...

She delegates well.

She has nice teeth.

Rory said...

I also think that she is very pretty.

She has good organization skills.

She loves her children.

Jen said...

Despite her countless amounts of flawed judgment, I too believe that she genuinely loves her children.

Sidney said...

I think she is aware of when the kids need meals. Even though it might be fruit, crackers and cheese, she does think ahead and plans for when they will be hungry, even when they are traveling.

I know she loves her kids. I feel sad that she shows it differently now than she did when they were babies.

jill said...

She has a nice, big new house...and great hair.

SmartyQ said...

I tried. I really did, but alas, all I could think of was Danny DeVito's line in 'Ruthless People.' 'I don't even like the way she licks stamps.' I've never seen QFI lick a stamp, but I'll bet I wouldn't like the way she does it.

End the KON said...

Teeth? Come on guys. We know they are fake. I think she is pretty in her OLD wedding video. Not now. Having an ugly heart does not make you age well. So that is one thing. I am being perfectly honest when I say I can't think of another darn thing I like about her.

Emili said...

-She loves her babies.. all of them.. maybe differently but each of them equally.

-She is organized and teaches her children organization skills.

-She always has fun things planned for them. Like the Valentines episode when she created a scavenger hunt. What a fun thing to do for your children on a "not so big" Holiday. A lot of parents don't do much for their kids on Valentines day.

-She generally sticks to healthy snacks and meals for the kids.

-Even if she has people help her with clothes and cleaning, etc. she is the one who orchestrates it all.

-She doesn't "lose her cool" as often as I have seen some people do with two kids.

-She takes her children to Church and has even her four year olds active in the teachings of God.

-She does not swear in front of her children, if at all.

-She does not hit her children.

-She has a routine for her kids. I am a firm believer that kids NEED routine.

-She tries to find "quality time" for each child individually.

-I think she has good judgement. Her family can stop taping tomorrow and never worry about money. I believe she would have enough judgement to know if this was having a negative effect on the children she loves. Hasn't anyone ever heard her boss around the film crew? Well she has. I'm sure she is in control of more than people like to give her credit for!

-She doesn't let the negative, harmful comments people make infiltrate her home or her kids life. Therefore, she protects her children.

I could go on.... I think like all parents 99.9% of what you do is for your children.. the same goes for her... people just like to be negative about everything and see only the worst and grab on to it.

kate is a cocky bitch said...

I hate to say it but I think it's great (in a very sad and tragic way) that Kate doesn't bother with the boys and let's Jon take the helm. Little boys need their father's attention very much. It's just sad that they do not have a present mother.

QueenBee said...

She has a husband that she can whip around and do whatever she commands.

liz said...

Sidney said...

I know she loves her kids. I feel sad that she shows it differently now than she did when they were babies

I agree Sidney. I also like that she loves her kids but shows it so differently now, I watched their hour special like a week ago and found I felt really sad afterwards.

I also like that she doesn't do completely crazy, regardless of the help she receives, I have seen parents go nuts on 1 kid let alone 8...

Anonymous said...

She's not an drug abusing alcoholic that hits her children... that's good.

Helena said...

She has never re-acted or responded in public to the negative beating she takes from this blog and others. I think we would all have to admit that even if you are being advised to do so by your PR team, it would still be a hard course to stay on 100 % of the time. I am not sure I could do the same. (This statement has nothing to do with whether she deserves the negative beating or not.)

Quinn said...

I think she's pretty, too. That doesn't have anything to do with her parenting though. I like how she is organized and health-conscious. With so many obese kids around nowadays, it's nice to see somebody feeding her children fruits and veggies. I also think that she loves her kids, despite all of the craziness that surrounds them now.

Janine said...

1. She makes sure that they go on atleast 15 free vacations a year....for free of course.

2. All of her children are healthy, so in spite of everything I dislike about her, she must be doing atleast something right there...except of course for the fact that it took her weeks to get Leah to the doctor for her ear infection(s).

3. She is in good shape for having 8 children...but I wonder what she would look like if she wouldn't have received that FREE tummy tuck. Anyways, it looks like she takes care of herself...or her hair and makeup people do atleast.

4. She takes her children to church when she is not traveling to other churchs begging for "Love Offerings" and charging $20 cash for a autographed family photo.

5. She obviously wants to be the most important to her children because she has alienated everyone else who has ever loved them, besides her husband.

Okay thats it, my brain hurts from thinking too hard. Im done.

Now that I did such a good job at stating everything I like about her...can we make it more fun and make lists of everything we DISlike about her??? Just Kidding...kinda.

balletbrat said...

Routine.

Not afraid of babysitters.

They wear cute (free) clothes. My favorites were the Valentine ones.
I know when I look at certain pics of myself as a kid, I think "WTH was I wearing? Why did my mom let me get that haircut?" etc etc etc.

She seems to not lose it or retaliate when Mady runs her smart mouth.

She doesn't seem to swear.

I thought her teeth have always been the same, just now they are whiter?

What does QFI stand for? lol

Sharon said...

Hmmmmm --

I like the fact that Kate has so many wonderful people to help her with her kids so she doesn't have to do a thing.

Mary said...

sad isnt it..can't find one positive thing about Kate..NOT ONE..she's a pathetic role model of a Mother

jodifur said...

I like that she doesn't always go on and on about how guilty she always feels, I'm over mommy guilt.

avasmommy said...

Sometimes, she acts well. Meaning she has the ability to act really nice and grateful and has a lot of people believing her. She should be nominated for an emmy for best supporting female role. She would be pissed at the supporting thing though, because let's face it...Kate is the STAR of the show right?

Dunwoody Mom said...

Wow, Emili. When you look at Kate Gosselin you "see" these things?
Honey, what fantasy world do you live in?

louise said...

I like the way she hides behind her
hairdo. Would like to see her likewise take more time with her girls hair.

moi said...

She looked really pretty at her wedding (the real one! not the vow renewal)

Tracey in CT said...

Her house is cleaner than mine.

KONspiracytheory said...

Even though she can be incredibly nasty towards Jon, she seems to get over her anger quickly (i.e., she doesn't seem to hold a grudge against him for too long).

Wendy Bird said...

She seems to be a fairly good mom to Hannah.

I do think she is attractive-looking. It is just so hard to get past the personality and what she is doing to her children by exploiting them, that the "ugly" inside makes it difficult to see anything but that.

timetogokon said...

I am in agreement with Mary.

I cannot find one thing I admire about her parenting skills.

Emili, I hope your comments were meant to be facetious.

Anica said...

Helena said...She has never re-acted or responded in public to the negative beating she takes from this blog and others.

You must have missed the update on their website back in July...

To our faithful fans who deserve an answer,

In the recent days, we have been informed there are a lot of lies circulating about us. Just so you know we have worked hard to show you our real life and we have succeeded. Although it is not always easy we will continue to show you the good, the bad and the ugly on our show. Unfortunately, as with anyone who is on TV there are jealous bystanders, family included, who for whatever reason insist upon telling hurtful untruths. We will continue to love these family members. We will not retaliate. We will leave it alone out of respect for them. But as a reminder, nothing that you read on the internet or in print is true unless it is approved by us. Thank you for watching as our family grows and develops. Our children have always been our priority, will continue to be our top priority and quite honestly nothing else matters to us.

(This message has been personally written by Jon and Kate Gosselin)

mill3kids said...

She doesn't hit her kids, on TV anyway, she just carries around that 1/4 inch thick cardboard tube to keep them in line. Come on, those tears are not from a whipping.
She dresses her kids adorably in clothing graciously given to her by accomodating companies.
She keeps her teeth very sparkly white and straight with her free ZOOM bleaching and InVisalign.
She keeps her stress level very low around her children, since she isn't running them around for sports, dance lessons, music lessons, family get-togethers or play-dates, since they have isolated themselves from anyone on the planet that isn't giving them freebies.
She knows how to combat her constant "exhaustion" with many accomodating free trips around the country.
She is making sure her kids eat organic, since this is her gift to them. Too bad she isn't giving them the gift of gratefulness, human kindness, graciousness, giving back, self-control selflessness and humility.
And lastly, she is very good at accepting anything that she can get her hands on because she "has earned it, she does have 8 kids after all".

Moons in Leo said...

I puzzled and puzzled till my puzzler was sore.

I got nothin'.

Sorry.

DirtyDisher said...

I like sandwiches. I'm glad she invented them. Sandwiches are good. Someday I will learn how to cut them diagonally.

Barbara said...

I agree with Emili. Kate DOES love her children. I think she and Jon have a dry and sarcastic sense of humor and that is what we see a lot of the time.

Obviously, she has made lots of mistakes, who hasn't. but those children are loved, well fed, and cared for and so many children out there are not.

Sean said...

I agree with everything Emily said. And, let me add a few more...

-I think Kate is on her way to being a savvy businesswoman.

-Kate teaches her children to love each other.

-She has killer abs and a great body.

trinityella said...

ummmm....only because it's Christmas time! I think she has great organizational skills. That is the one thing I wish I had! =)

Virginia Lawyer said...

She was able to manipulate two fertility doctors into going against protocol and giving her drugs.

She has shown she can manipulate Jon into anything; sold his soul for him to the devil.

She is a master at leaving people behind who she has used up and has the ability, apparently, never to look back.

I like it that she doesn't appear star struck when she meets people like Oprah, and that is probably because she thinks nobody is in any way her equal.

momof5 said...

She appears to be very organized.

dotsicle said...

She has nice relatives.
She only has ONE favorite child.
She has a tidy home.
She looked beautiful at her "first" wedding.
She was a good mother to Mady and Cara for the first 4 years of their lives.

Charlie Rose said...

-She loves her babies.. all of them.. maybe differently but each of them equally.

-She is organized and teaches her children organization skills.

-She always has fun things planned for them. Like the Valentines episode when she created a scavenger hunt. What a fun thing to do for your children on a "not so big" Holiday. A lot of parents don't do much for their kids on Valentines day.

-She generally sticks to healthy snacks and meals for the kids.

-Even if she has people help her with clothes and cleaning, etc. she is the one who orchestrates it all.

-She doesn't "lose her cool" as often as I have seen some people do with two kids.

-She takes her children to Church and has even her four year olds active in the teachings of God.

-She does not swear in front of her children, if at all.

-She does not hit her children.

-She has a routine for her kids. I am a firm believer that kids NEED routine.

-She tries to find "quality time" for each child individually.

-I think she has good judgement. Her family can stop taping tomorrow and never worry about money. I believe she would have enough judgement to know if this was having a negative effect on the children she loves. Hasn't anyone ever heard her boss around the film crew? Well she has. I'm sure she is in control of more than people like to give her credit for!

-She doesn't let the negative, harmful comments people make infiltrate her home or her kids life. Therefore, she protects her children.

I could go on.... I think like all parents 99.9% of what you do is for your children.. the same goes for her... people just like to be negative about everything and see only the worst and grab on to it.

12/07/2008 9:34 PM

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What a crock??? Seriously????

I honestly try to see the best in Jon and Kate (and have never said anything bad about either one of them on this blog) BUT your "goodness" to them is not true. For example:

1) "She doesn't let negative comments infiltrate her home or her kids life."

Really? So pushing her ENTIRE family to the curb is her not letting comments get to her. In the worst way possible, she has alienated her own kids from their own family for GREED and the almighty Dollar!


2) I think she has good judgement. Her family can stop taping tomorrow and never worry about money. I believe she would have enough judgement to know if this was having a negative effect on the children she loves. Hasn't anyone ever heard her boss around the film crew? Well she has. I'm sure she is in control of more than people like to give her credit for!

Jon and Kate will NEVER stop the show. So long as the ratings are high and the cash keeps coming in, they will always have the show.... So please don't tell us that she has good judgment. By far, no common sense at all.

3) She tries to find "quality time" for each child individually.

REALLY? This is such a ridiculous statement I had to laugh... WHEN???? does she ever spend quality time with children individually? Especially the boys??

I could go on but I think you get MY point.

RuthinVA said...

I like the fact that she took a 1.3million dollar house off the market and did not put a i/4 of a million dollar house on the market.

Marilee said...

I like that she doesn't always go on and on about how guilty she always feels

Narcissists never feel guilty; they believe they are above reproach.

Let's see... she's never left a kid in a car to roast to death on a hot summer day.

See? Think hard enough and you can say something good about just about anyone.

StacyQ said...

Barbara said...
I agree with Emili. Kate DOES love her children. I think she and Jon have a dry and sarcastic sense of humor and that is what we see a lot of the time.

Obviously, she has made lots of mistakes, who hasn't. but those children are loved, well fed, and cared for and so many children out there are not.

12/08/2008 8:08 AM


Totally with you Barbara!!

nosheeple said...

How did we conclude she loves all her kids? I know it is assumed that mothers do, but what does she do that shows this, let alone what says this to them? And how did we conclude she does not go completely nuts? Are watching the same show? I am beginning to worry about people if they think this is a normal mother. : O

nosheeple said...

She has never re-acted or responded in public to the negative beating she takes from this blog and others. I think we would all have to admit that even if you are being advised to do so by your PR team, it would still be a hard course to stay on 100 % of the time. I am not sure I could do the same. (This statement has nothing to do with whether she deserves the negative beating or not.)

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Sure they do. They both do when they wear their snarky t-shirts and do their damage control, lying episodes. They are responding. Plus, what do you think the show is going to allow them to air anyway? Do you suppose they'd let them go off on whatever fans they have and alienate them further? No way!

Tami said...

Even though she can be incredibly nasty towards Jon, she seems to get over her anger quickly (i.e., she doesn't seem to hold a grudge against him for too long)."

Because she has NO self awareness! Remember the Toys R Us episode when she made an idiot out of herself to Jon and then went out the parking lot afterward? She asked him if he was irritated with her and why! Are you kidding, Kate?! She forgets things a minute later. That's the only reason she doesn't hold a grudge. Instead she finds new things to go off about every 2 minutes.

Jodi said...

-She has killer abs and a great body.
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We have seen her abs? lol. I don't recall her wearing anything but maternity style in a long time. Oh, other than the muffin top look in a recent episode--the brown top and jeans..

Jodi said...

Please give some examples of kate's great organizational skills. And I don't mean things the producers obviously orchestrated, like vacation planning and packing, etc. I mean other than putting up notes ordering around the help to do things a certain way, how is she personally organized? Thanks in advance.

Charlie Rose said...

"Sure they do. They both do when they wear their snarky t-shirts and do their damage control, lying episodes. They are responding. Plus, what do you think the show is going to allow them to air anyway? Do you suppose they'd let them go off on whatever fans they have and alienate them further? No way!"

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I noticed the shirts as well. They are in their own way commenting on the negative press. To come out and actually VERBALLY say something would be cutting off their nose to spite their face. AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN! :)

KONspiracytheory said...

Even though she can be incredibly nasty towards Jon, she seems to get over her anger quickly (i.e., she doesn't seem to hold a grudge against him for too long)."

Because she has NO self awareness! Remember the Toys R Us episode when she made an idiot out of herself to Jon and then went out the parking lot afterward? She asked him if he was irritated with her and why! Are you kidding, Kate?! She forgets things a minute later. That's the only reason she doesn't hold a grudge. Instead she finds new things to go off about every 2 minutes.

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OK, Tami - I was struggling to find something positive to say about her - it's not easy!

Kate said...

Ummm...

She feeds her kids organic.

She's very nice to Hannah.

And I like her name, because its my name too!

UniStudent said...

I like this thread. As much as this show angers me, Kate is an idvividual who has and is made/making terrible choices. But she is a human and deserves some humanity from us all.

Here's my list:

She really did look beautiful in her first wedding video.

I think she really loves her children, she is just very confused about what constitutes showing love.

She is organized, and yes her house is also cleaner than mine!

She is trying, she is making mistakes, but i think she is trying hard to love and care for her children. They are not neglected, a lot of children are much worse off than the Gosselins.

Somewhereinoh said...

"-She has killer abs and a great body"

Killer abs? I dont ever recall an episode that featured film footage of Kate's 'killer abs'. Her STOMACH may not look as if she was once pregnant with a set of twins and again by sextuplets; and that credit goes to the cosmetic surgeon sponsored tummy tuck she received. In the absence of any visible proof, IMO its a stretch to describe Kate's abs as 'killer'.

Addison said...

She is somewhat less annoying than Jon (in my opinion anyway.) But not by very much...

Refusetowatch said...

Honestly, I can't believe some of the things I am reading. And to fxfanatic that said she looked like Kendra on her honeymoon, I agree. But, IMO that is not a compliment.

Joanne said...

I got nothing either. I cant stand that woman.

Jennifer said...

In the episode where the twins go to get their photos taken, there's a scene where a girl tup pokes/hits a boy tup in the chest area. The boy tup starts complaining, and Jon says, "C'mon [insert name], that was nothing!" whereas Kate had the sense *not* to invalidate the boy's feelings, but to tell the girl to keep her hands to herself.

I was quite surprised when I saw that, because it's the only example I have ever seen of Kate demonstrating better parenting skills than Jon and it seemed so out of character for her.

momof5 said...

Jodi said...
Please give some examples of kate's great organizational skills. And I don't mean things the producers obviously orchestrated, like vacation planning and packing, etc. I mean other than putting up notes ordering around the help to do things a certain way, how is she personally organized? Thanks in advance.
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I'm guessing this is towards me since I said the organized comment....her kitchen counters are clutterfree, every toy seems to have a place & in the 1st 2 specials she had toiletries, shoes, clothes, household items etc all neatly stored. Oh yeah & her laundry room is one of the most organized I've ever seen.

Sean said...

Somewhereinoh--she wears a bathing suit well and as a man, I think she has killer abs. My girlfriend told me Kate's on the treadmill for an hour a day in the morning. She's dropped a lot of weight.

Objections to that little (or not) green-eyed one?

Cheryl said...

Emili
Kate does swear and loose her cool.

On camera she said "I am sick of this sh*t", then she threw the kids plastic grill down the stairs.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm, something nice, something nice. Let me think a minute (or maybe a day) Ummmmm, nope, nuthin. I really tried. I guess Ill second what Marilee said. She hasn't yet left one of the kids to roast to death in the car on a hot summer day. Mind you, she may have but the camera crew is always there to cover for her

Cathy said...

I love Kate//bitch and all..

Moons in Leo said...

I think the challenge was to find one positive thing about Kate's parenting.

That would definitely not include her hair, bright white teeth, or killer (?) abs.

It also would not include how nice she looked the first time she and Jon got married. LOL

I don't believe having an organized laundry room is a sign of good parenting either.

I finally came up with a couple as an extension of her not locking any of her children in a car on a hot summer day (that we know of).

I have never seen her put out a cigarette on any of her kids.

I have never seen her chuck a steak knife at Jon or any of her kids for that matter. Is that due to just good editing?

Umm... let's see ... I think I'm on a roll here ...

The few times I've seen her driving she didn't try to run any of the kids over.

Okay. That's it.

Kristi said...

I'm with you Cathy. We all can be a bitch. Her bitch side is just on camera for us all to see.

She's a cool mom with great organizational skill and she has taught her kids to all love one another and look out for each other. That is all evidence that we have seen from the show.

Lea said...

1. Kate does have a good body. Yes, she it is from platic surgery, but overall she does look more in shape. I am actully biting my nails as I say this.

2. She trained her husband well. She has got Jon by the 'balls' and when she clears her throat he jumps.

3. Her kids are clean and dressed very nice, from free clothes, but nice.

4. Kate has the gumption to sell her children by making daily deals in her new office.Or I should say, she hires the right people to do that. Maybe thats not a compliment.

5. Kate still has the 'sheeple' robots as fans.

6. Kate still has no guilt about getting the free clothes and products.

7. Kate gets free botox.

Thats it I can't think of any and I was racking my brain with the ones I do have.

wildflowers said...

I disagree with 'teaching the kids to love one another'. I see them constantly fighting and J&K forcing the kids to hug and kiss. I don't translate that into loving each other.
Where as the Hayes tups have a strong bond with each other and are best playmates.

Marilee said...

she has taught her kids to all love one another and look out for each other

Children of narcissists often band together against the perpetrator parent in their life. That's not a testament to Kate's parenting, it's a coping mechanism.

I agree with Moons In Leo -- good organization and attractive physical endowments do not have anything to do with parenting skills.

The question was, what does Kate do as a mother that is something we can all reasonably emulate? Feeding organic food may be nice but it is not financially possible for many parents. Keeping them fed, housed, and clothed is the bare minimum people will even do for their household pets and not something I would consider admirable.

Keep trying, sheeple... keep trying...

May Girl said...

I am trying to say something positive but as I sat down to type I can not be as positive as I would like...so I will take a pass.

momof5 said...

I don't believe having an organized laundry room is a sign of good parenting either.
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LOL! Maybe it's not but it can keep you from loosing socks & makes stain removal easier, which makes your kids presentable, which makes you more money which makes you appear to be a good parent & on & on.

What a wicked web Katie Irene has weaved.

vbmomof2boys said...

1) She takes her children to church (although it's a lot easier when they can go to a separate Bible study/Sunday school while the parents go to the actual church service).

2) She is very organized and her children have a routine.

3) Her children listen to her when she disciplines them. Seeing her tell them to go to the corner and having them actually go there without having to put them back in the corner 30 times before they stay still is very impressive.

4) She's not a doormat. We might not agree with what she does/says, but she speaks her mind and doesn't let people walk all over her.

Strange Definition of Love said...

Kristi said... She's a cool mom with great organizational skill and she has taught her kids to all love one another and look out for each other. That is all evidence that we have seen from the show.

Um, are we watching the same show, Kristi?

Mady is repeatedly unkind to her siblings. Remember the episode at Aunt Jodi's where Mady kicked Collin more than once?

How is that "loving one another" ?

abc said...

Marilee said:
"Keep trying, sheeple... keep trying..."

I could be wrong, but I don't think this thread was started as a 'sheeple-trap'. I for one can't stand KON, but I appreciate (what I perceive to be) the intent of this thread - to try to find something genuinely positive to say about Kate in a sea of negative comments. I appreciate the posters who gave it a shot, and I certainly don't perceive them all to be sheeple - just individuals with are trying to find a speck of good in a bad situation.

Kontrarian said...

She's a cool mom with great organizational skill and she has taught her kids to all love one another and look out for each other. That is all evidence that we have seen from the show.
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Please do not speak for me when you say we have seen it. I haven't. How did she teach her kids to love each other other than punishing them when they hit each other (inconsistently at that) and forcing them to hug. And I don't see her organizing. I see her sitting on her butt and ordering.

Somewhereinoh said...

2. "She trained her husband well. She has got Jon by the 'balls' and when she clears her throat he jumps."

IMO, I dont find the above to be a particularly inspiring or likable qualities. I prefer a man who is actually attentive and enlightened by what I have to say when I 'clear my throat'. Additionally, I prefer a man who carries the weight of his own 'balls' with the same dignity in which he carries his pride.

London said...

-She always has some sort of activity organized for them (even if half of them are freebies done to get attention on the show IE: dutch wonderland, the train yard)
-She is facially pretty (which I know isn't a parenting skill but still she is and it deserves to be said)
-And I think despite everything she genuinely wants what is best for her children even if she has gotten to the point where it has crossed a line.
-They go to church weekly
-She also encourages their creativity (remember when they made cards for Jon?)

Jodi said...

I'm guessing this is towards me since I said the organized comment....her kitchen counters are clutterfree, every toy seems to have a place & in the 1st 2 specials she had toiletries, shoes, clothes, household items etc all neatly stored. Oh yeah & her laundry room is one of the most organized I've ever seen.
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You would too if you had help paid for by a reality show. You do realize they have very little for a family of so many? Sure, they get lots of freebies but they turn around and sell them pretty quickly on consignment. The kids do not have toys or hardly anything in their rooms. She is a control freak, that's why what they do have is put away. It has nothing to do with being organized. Let her live with a normal amount of stuff kids accumulate--including art projects and allowing them to do crafts, play games, read books, etc. Let her have no help and then let's see how wonderful her skills are. Bet she has none.

Sharla said...

I could be wrong, but I don't think this thread was started as a 'sheeple-trap'. I for one can't stand KON, but I appreciate (what I perceive to be) the intent of this thread - to try to find something genuinely positive to say about Kate in a sea of negative comments.

Thank you, abc. That's exactly it. I don't hate Kate. I don't know the woman. I don't think she's evil incarnate. I think she does see that the children's basic needs of food, clothing, and shelter are met and that she does care about her children. I also think when Kate is dressed for TV appearances with professional make up that she can be very pretty. The intent was to try to see any bright spots people might find.

Before people go then why are you on this blog, let me say that I think some things she and Jon have allowed are not in the childrens' best interest and that they both could use a year or two of parenting classes among other reasons.

Disney said...

Saying something positive about Kate. Hmmmm,let me think now...
1) She has a wonderful sister-in-law, Jodi
2) She had wonderful volunteeers who helped her (until they were dismissed)
3) She has trained Jon well to obey her command(s)
4) She knows how to make meatloaf as demonstrated on TV
5) She is good at talking on the cell phone while Jon unloads the van and kids.

Ma said...

I could be wrong, but I don't think this thread was started as a 'sheeple-trap'. I for one can't stand KON, but I appreciate (what I perceive to be) the intent of this thread - to try to find something genuinely positive to say about Kate in a sea of negative comments. I appreciate the posters who gave it a shot, and I certainly don't perceive them all to be sheeple - just individuals with are trying to find a speck of good in a bad situation.
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I've actually seen what seems to be a bunch of sheeple migrating over to "tell us how it is". I don't recall seeing many of the 'regulars' posting gushing comments about them like some of the migrating sheeple have.

Regina from PA said...

In all honesty, it doesn't matter what we think of Kate. She doesn't care what others think about her. The only way she would care is if we were lining her pockets with cold hard cash and she doesn't care how she makes it so long as it keeps coming in.

London said...

Barbara-
I agree with you about the dry and sarcastic sense of humor. I live in a family of 6 (I am only 21 these are my siblings and parents) and we all have that sense of humor. To people who don't know us very well we come off as bratty, ungrateful, and pretty much horrible. to each other we are pretty much the funniest people on earth. I would also like to say this: I am NOT a supporter of Kate and Jon. I find a lot of what the do to be despicable, shady, and done just for attention and money. That being said lets be honest: what parent doesn't have a favorite child? I would say 95% of parents do, I know mine do and they freely admit to my youngest sister being the favorite she is the "Hannah" of the family and always got the most attention. I am the "maddy" of the family (the least liked) and let me just say it wasn't all bad. when I was 16 my parents sent me to Europe for 6 weeks, they paid for my out of state college tuition, and bought me my first apartment to get rid of me. Their are upsides to everything.

Gloria said...

vbmomof2boys said...
1) She takes her children to church (although it's a lot easier when they can go to a separate Bible study/Sunday school while the parents go to the actual church service).

2) She is very organized and her children have a routine.

3) Her children listen to her when she disciplines them. Seeing her tell them to go to the corner and having them actually go there without having to put them back in the corner 30 times before they stay still is very impressive.

4) She's not a doormat. We might not agree with what she does/says, but she speaks her mind and doesn't let people walk all over her.

12/08/2008 12:26 PM

I was at first amazeed that all the tups went straight to time-out, then I undestood why when Kate shared at a speaking engagement that they spank their kids. Knowing the intimidation Kate can unleash when crossed (Gumgate, anyone?) and that she will back it up with physical force, a wise tup would hightail it straight to the time-out corner. However, they have adapted other coping mechanisms. Glazing over, vomiting for attention, acting babyish, bullying, shriekding, all kinds of nice things... but they do go straight to the corner.

And, indeed, Kate is not a doormat. Instead she treats other people like doormats.

SmartyQ said...

Okay, okay, I've got some positive things about Queen Freebie Irene's parenting:

1. She smacks only Jon on television. The children will never been humiliated by seeing one of them get a slap to the face on television.

2. She uses her nursing skills to assure the children receive proper healthcare. That's why she insisted the doc weigh Collin again when she learned that Hannah weighed more than he. Her nursing knowledge told her that Collin's big head should make him weigh more.

3. She has displayed a gay, animated sense of humor by giving Joel the nickname 'Vomitus Boy' and throwing a loaded dirty diaper at Jen.

4. When she insults someone, she prefaces it with 'Bless her/his heart,' which takes the sting out of it. I'm sure Aunt Jodi had no idea that the 'Bless her heart' issued before denigrating her was QFI's equivalent of 'F*** you.'

5. She constantly seeks to enlarge her children's vocabulary by using phrases such as 'stample' and 'horrendously horrible.'

6. She insists the children use age appropriate terms for items. Hence, 'night-nights, duckies,' and 'fishies.'

7. She, by example, teaches the children how to have a happy, fulfilling marriage. First, you castrate your husband . . .

bloggie said...

How do you figure she loves all of them equally? Is there an example of this? Other than assumption, I mean.

How does she teach her kids organization and how is she organized herself?

The show, not Kate, plans these fun things so they can create a tv show. Don't believe for a minute she comes up with it and then approaches the producers. That show was pure product placement. Can you name a dozen things they plugged? I can : )

She loses her cool regularly

She takes her kids to church but does not live the lifestyle of someone who cares about being Godly. It's for show!

She does not find quality time for her kids. The show, however, has done one on one episodes with kids where Kate only attends with the girls. Is that what you mean?

She does hit her kids but not on camera. They have admitted to spanking. She's not going to outright beat them on camera, no.

She has terrible judgement. No matter how much it is hurting the kids, she is selling them out for greed.

She does let the negative stuff into their lives. Their episodes are mostly damage control now. And alienating everyone the kids loves is harming them.



-She loves her babies.. all of them.. maybe differently but each of them equally.

-She is organized and teaches her children organization skills.

-She always has fun things planned for them. Like the Valentines episode when she created a scavenger hunt. What a fun thing to do for your children on a "not so big" Holiday. A lot of parents don't do much for their kids on Valentines day.

-She generally sticks to healthy snacks and meals for the kids.

-Even if she has people help her with clothes and cleaning, etc. she is the one who orchestrates it all.

-She doesn't "lose her cool" as often as I have seen some people do with two kids.

-She takes her children to Church and has even her four year olds active in the teachings of God.

-She does not swear in front of her children, if at all.

-She does not hit her children.

-She has a routine for her kids. I am a firm believer that kids NEED routine.

-She tries to find "quality time" for each child individually.

-I think she has good judgement. Her family can stop taping tomorrow and never worry about money. I believe she would have enough judgement to know if this was having a negative effect on the children she loves. Hasn't anyone ever heard her boss around the film crew? Well she has. I'm sure she is in control of more than people like to give her credit for!

-She doesn't let the negative, harmful comments people make infiltrate her home or her kids life. Therefore, she protects her children.

I could go on.... I think like all parents 99.9% of what you do is for your children.. the same goes for her... people just like to be negative about everything and see only the worst and grab on to it.

momof5 said...

Jodi said
You would too if you had help paid for by a reality show. You do realize they have very little for a family of so many? Sure, they get lots of freebies but they turn around and sell them pretty quickly on consignment. The kids do not have toys or hardly anything in their rooms. She is a control freak, that's why what they do have is put away. It has nothing to do with being organized. Let her live with a normal amount of stuff kids accumulate--including art projects and allowing them to do crafts, play games, read books, etc. Let her have no help and then let's see how wonderful her skills are. Bet she has none.
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I don't know how fast they turn the freebies around. I also don't know how much junk they may have in the unfinished portion of their basement.

NOT sticking up for KON but they do have lots of items that are good for orgnanizing toys in. Also when you have a basement your upstairs isn't as cluttered with toys.

Trust me 10 people probably have more things then you realize. We are a family of 7 & the amount of "stuff" we have is ridiculous.

If she didn't have a reality show the inside of her house would look like mine.

sara said...

I think the effort that Kate has made to change, since last spring, should be recognized. The change probably happened because of all of the bad publicity but, she has taken the comments to heart.

I also think that Kate is a better wife now that she is not so snarky. Both she and Jon realize that they are a team and make their marriage a priority.

Their house is clean and neat and she does know how to cook. I know that they have craft services while filming but she does cook at other times. That's more than what my sister does. She feeds her daughter and husband pre-made/frozen meals all the time.

Kornie said...

Someone may have already mentioned this, but I thought the way she sent each twin a note in their lunch on their first day of school was incredibly sweet. I think she even drew a heart on it and told them she loved them.

uneasy said...

I don't know Kate except for what I have seen on the show, and I know that's not any more real than any other reality show...so the only thing that I can say with any degree of sincerity is that, from what I can tell, she does insist that the children are well dressed. We know someone else picks out the clothes, and someone else dresses the kids, and someone else does the laundry and the folding and the putting away, but I honestly believe that Kate was instrumental in the deal with Gap and Jamboree or whichever company is giving the free clothes as long as they wear them on camera. I think she does a very good job ensuring that the appropriate product placement occurs during taping and she does a very good job ensuring the children wear the necessary clothes and play with the necessary toys.

3rd Rock From The Sun said...

What I like about Kate, is that she reads the negative things said about herself, and tries to correct it with damage control. She might say that she doesn't read the bad things said about her, but we all know that she does. That is just human nature to want to know what is said. However, does the damage control help her, or continue to hurt her?

LisaMarie said...

1. She is good at emasculating her husband!

2. She is good at not being good at things that require some physical exertion. IE: skiing, hiking, snorkeling, swimming.

3. She is good at spa days.

4. She is good at using people and throwing them away like garbage.

5. She is good at treating her boys like they are icky, gross creatures.

I would go on, but this could take all day!
Lisa

Sugarpop said...

What's interesting to me is how many of these "compliments" stem from Kate's obsession with her image. She dresses the children well, because she wants them to look cute and get attention. She takes the children to church, because she wants to look like a "good Christian woman." She is organized but again - it's because she wants to appear to keep the perfect home.

While they are not parenting skills, her teeth whitening and tummy tuck are along the same lines - once again about appearance. I don't have a problem with her having the tummy tuck, because I'm sure it was physically uncomfortable having that much loose skin on your stomach and probably would have led to back pain so I can't hate on her for that. But it definitely made her happy because it improved her appearance as well as solving those other problems. If she really is getting botox, it's again about appearance. She's only 31, though, I wouldn't think she'd have much need for botox just yet.

Christine said...

She's organized (too much so I think)! I also feel it'll be the death of her one day and she'll look back in about 10 years and regret so much time worrying about having everything in order instead of just living in the moment and enjoying her kids. They'll be grown and she will no doubt think to herself that she should have enjoyed them more instead of having her house in order.

There's a fine balance you have to strive for with a family and she's too far to one side of that spectrum, OCD totally. But that's another topic. To answer the question, yeah, she's organized and tidy.

Gregory House said...

Seriously?? Okay. After watching my crackhead sister-in-law destroy the lives of my brother their 4 children, I have to admit that Kate is doing a heck of a lot better than she did.

June C said...

"I like sandwiches. I'm glad she invented them. Sandwiches are good. Someday I will learn how to cut them diagonally."

I like sandwiches too Dirtydisher! I hope Kate puts sandwiches in a future cookbook with detailed instructions on the cutting part.

2badSoSad said...

4) She's not a doormat. We might not agree with what she does/says, but she speaks her mind and doesn't let people walk all over her.

IMO, Kate doesnt speak her mind. She USES her children (emotional blackmail) as her source of power to set the terms and conditions that will ultimately determine whether or not she will allow 'people to walk all over her' ie, if you dont understand ME, or know how to help ME you will not be a part of my children's lives.

Cheryl said...

Wearing a cool mom t-shirt doesn't mean you is one.

Pretty on the outside has nothing to do with being pretty on the inside.

pinkdiamond611 said...

She bribes her kids with candy. And, I never heard her say the F word on national TV. And since it is the holiday season and I am feeling generous. . .she "loves" little old ladies such as Jon's grandma and auntie.

Moons in Leo said...

Gregory House said...
Seriously?? Okay. After watching my crackhead sister-in-law destroy the lives of my brother their 4 children, I have to admit that Kate is doing a heck of a lot better than she did.


No fair! Kate is not a crackhead. Oh wait a minute, I guess that's a good thing.

Harriet said...

Kateis a better mother than a crackhead? Now that is damning with faint praise.

Leslie said...

Just because a person says they are organized or a Supermom doesn't make them one. Kate can talk all day about how she does this and that but from what I can see, she spends a majority of her time on her "business" and running away from the children who made her famous.

momof3andlovingit said...

She makes sure her children get plenty of sleep!

I had to think long and hard to come up with that one...

Yvie said...

-She includes 'love notes' in Cara and Mady's lunches
-She found a great financial means to support her children by having them parade around a camera...very ingenious
-She bought a bigger house for her kids
-She tells her kids that their mommy and daddy will always stay together...unlike other mommies and daddies

WENDY said...

One positive example of Kate's parenting is she keeps the children on a regular schedule of meals.

Christine said...

momof3andlovingit said...
She makes sure her children get plenty of sleep!

I had to think long and hard to come up with that one...

12/08/2008 2:38 PM

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LOL!

I also forgot, she's into "making memories and traditions" for her kids, all for the viewing television public to witness as well. Nevermind the fact that she's selling out their childhoods while doing it and probably 1 or all 8 of them will be in therapy the rest of their lives because of it!

Gloria said...

momof3andlovingit said...
She makes sure her children get plenty of sleep!

This is hilarious. And so true. One might dispute her motives for doing it, but there is no doubt that she does.

Vicki said...

"What I Like about Kate"....Nothing

C said...

She's smart. She found a way for her kids to support HER the rest of her life. She's a millionaire and didn't even have to lift a finger to earn it. Brilliant.

beachchick said...

I think that she has guts to have the whole world watching her families every move.I for one think company stinks after 3 days.but then again I guess money talks.

Chris said...

She's got hair that'll stop a man dead in his tracks (or anyone else looking in disbelief.)

ttso said...

I have to say the thing I like about Kate is that she has shown me some mini vacation idea's for my children. I'm not too far from PA and could easily make these either day trips or small one night trips, granted I'll have to pay for everything myself but I'm looking forward to the hands-on house next summer, and possibly crayola : )

Petunia said...

-She tells her kids that their mommy and daddy will always stay together...unlike other mommies and daddies But why the need to say that at all. What normal eight and four year old would worry about such things as parents leaving? I guess since Kate cut off all the relatives that the twins and the even fewer the tups knew that is where they'd get that worry from. Man, those kids are already have such unneeded worries due to Kate's behavior.
I've read all the comments here but I can't see any I agree with since they hide all the help she has and the fact that she can sit on her lawn chair and bark orders out at the help instead of actually care for her home and children ... eh, no accolades for her from this mom.

ClevelandRocks said...

Even thought the toys reinforced sexist stereotypes, I did like the little backpacks she packed for the kids while on the airplane. I know she didn't buy them, but it's nice for the kids to have their own little bag of stuff on the plane. And I have to give her props for covering their names with tape. Sure, she didn't stop the camera crew in tow or stop the show that allows everyone to know their names, but she did take a half of a step in keeping them safe at the airport.

fostersmom said...

The kids will never leave the house looking like they haven't been bathed or their clothes haven't been washed in a week.

Thaise said...

wildflowers said...

I disagree with 'teaching the kids to love one another'. I see them constantly fighting and J&K forcing the kids to hug and kiss. I don't translate that into loving each other.
Where as the Hayes tups have a strong bond with each other and are best playmates.

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I'm sorry, but I disagree. The fact that the kids fight does not mean they don't love each other, it just means they're siblings... me and my siblings fought the whole time when we were growing up and our parents had the same as attitude J&K, making us hug and kiss.

Nowadays, we're best friends and crazy about each other (even though we're still siblings, therefore fighting more than regular friends - we don't beat each other up anymore, though...lol).

and how can you say for sure the Hayes kids don't have their fights? we saw one 1-hour special...they're not as used to cameras as the Gosselin kids, I'm sure they did their best to be in their best behavior...just my opinion though..

AllisonSarah said...

hey guys... this is my first post on GWoP. im pretty excited :)

ironic that my first thing is a post about what i like about kate... hmm

having read the book, one thing i can appreciate about kate is the physical turmoil she went through to have those children. its not mentioned in detail on the show, but she went through absolute hell with all of the injections, medications, late night scares, bed rest, hospital stay, and other icky things like that. so she went through a lot to have the six, and we rarely hear her mention that or complain about it.

also, no matter what anyone says, i believe she truly does love her children, even the boys. she obviously does not always show it, and the fact that the show is in existence might insinuate otherwise, but i think she loves her family, though i think she was thriving when it was just the family of four.

Christine said...

She's showing the kids, even though she has 8 of them, that she doesn't show any favorites, loves the boys and girls equally (!) and is showing her daughters (and in turn building the foundation for all 5 of her girls and their future relationships with men) the proper way to treat the men in their lives.

music_girl said...

vbmomof2boys said...

1) She takes her children to church (although it's a lot easier when they can go to a separate Bible study/Sunday school while the parents go to the actual church service).

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That's actually normal in every church, they don't do it exclusively for J&K. That way they can teach the bible to kids with an approach that will be easy for them to understand... and also allows the adults to be preached subjects that they can apply to their lives. Can you imagine if a preacher had prepared a sermon about premarital sex and the room is filled with 8 and 4-year-olds? lol...

ThreeFarmers said...

I think that Kate truly wants to be liked, but has no idea that for that to happen she must behave in a likable way, which includes not exploiting her children for her own profit and not asking for "love offerings" from people who are less well off than her and Jon.

I also think that Kate is photogenic. One minute I see her looking good in a photo, but the next minute she's on my TV sitting on that couch with such a droopy, sour-puss face that I can hardly believe they are the same person.

TT said...

That's actually normal in every church, they don't do it exclusively for J&K. That way they can teach the bible to kids with an approach that will be easy for them to understand... and also allows the adults to be preached subjects that they can apply to their lives. Can you imagine if a preacher had prepared a sermon about premarital sex and the room is filled with 8 and 4-year-olds? lol...
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It is most certainly not in every church. I can tell you that in the Catholic churches I have attended--and there have been many since we are military and move around--the kids stay with the parents. They have a crying room in some so you can take your child there with you. In none of them did they have a 'bible study' for kids and I imagine that is true in many denominations. In the Catholic church they normally send their kids to catechism once they reach school age. It's never during the time of Mass though.

Can it KON said...

She's showing the kids, even though she has 8 of them, that she doesn't show any favorites, loves the boys and girls equally (!) and is showing her daughters (and in turn building the foundation for all 5 of her girls and their future relationships with men) the proper way to treat the men in their lives.

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Come on..I know people are joking now. Those of us who watch the show know that she does not care for boys and favors Hannah above all else in life.

Ilovemykids said...

Yikes!!!!

You Kate sheeple. I worry about you. Please get help, get help quickly. I've never seen such denial and abberation of facts in my life.

music_girl said...

TT said...

That's actually normal in every church, they don't do it exclusively for J&K. That way they can teach the bible to kids with an approach that will be easy for them to understand... and also allows the adults to be preached subjects that they can apply to their lives. Can you imagine if a preacher had prepared a sermon about premarital sex and the room is filled with 8 and 4-year-olds? lol...
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It is most certainly not in every church. I can tell you that in the Catholic churches I have attended--and there have been many since we are military and move around--the kids stay with the parents. They have a crying room in some so you can take your child there with you. In none of them did they have a 'bible study' for kids and I imagine that is true in many denominations. In the Catholic church they normally send their kids to catechism once they reach school age. It's never during the time of Mass though.


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I'm sorry, I meant to say that it is normal in every Evangelical church. I know Catholic churches have a different system. But J&K are evangelicals, and separating kids into bible study classes according to their age is the system used in evangelical churches.

usually pre-teens and teens join their parents at some point during the main service, but it is normal to keep younger kids in class rooms and have them do Bible activities in a way that will be interesting to them, since 4-year-olds and 8-year-olds have different types of attention spams..

TT said...

I don't know how fast they turn the freebies around. I also don't know how much junk they may have in the unfinished portion of their basement.

NOT sticking up for KON but they do have lots of items that are good for orgnanizing toys in. Also when you have a basement your upstairs isn't as cluttered with toys.
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Well I know they have no junk in any unfinished portions. Kate has stated before and at the yard sale that they save nothing. She made Jon get rid of mementos for goodness sake, and tried to get rid of a little ornament. Having storage shelves does not make her a good person. Did you also notice that the majority of those cubes are empty? If it had been my kids they would be slam full of things. Did you notice they already got rid of the backyard camping stuff and the Rose Petal cottage? Why get rid of new toys they can still play with? Well they do.

Harriet said...

I think it's better not to claim something for all of one group of churches. I've attended evangelical churches where children up to about 12 had sunday school or children's church arranged for each service, but I've also attended many where there was a children's church for half or less of the service which I've also seen at catholic churches. I've also been to Sunday night evangelical services that only had a nursery for children four and under and all the rest were in church. Shockingly I've never heard a sermon about pre-marital sex, but my mother did switch churches years ago after I heard a sermon about social diseases and wouldn't quit asking for a definition. :)

Gigi said...

Hmmm.
I liked in the earliest specials how honest she and Jon were. Unfortunately, it's going to be awful for the kids to hear someday.

I also like that she didn't give her kids all matching names to make them more of a 'set.' I know the little girls have related middle names, but I'm glad she gave them first names that are different from each other (I'm looking at you, Michelle Duggar!). Matching names are fine, but not my thing.

goredsox said...

having read the book, one thing i can appreciate about kate is the physical turmoil she went through to have those children. its not mentioned in detail on the show, but she went through absolute hell with all of the injections, medications, late night scares, bed rest, hospital stay, and other icky things like that. so she went through a lot to have the six, and we rarely hear her mention that or complain about it.

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to AllisonSarah-

Hope your posting here is not shortlived !

I do not want to seem like I am attacking you at all, I just want to comment on your comments:

No, we don't hear Kate complain about the physical turmoil she endured, but remember that she CHOSE to put her body through the turmoil. She has no right to complain. I went through fertility treatments for 3 years, and yes it was hell, physically and emotionally, but to complain about something I chose to do would be ridiculous.

Kate really has nothing to complain about.

Also, regarding other comments about Kate feeding her kids on schedule, Kate doesn't swear, her kids are clean. Seriously,is society in such a sad state that THESE are considered admirable parenting examples? Aren't these examples the norm ?

Christine said...

Can it KON said...
She's showing the kids, even though she has 8 of them, that she doesn't show any favorites, loves the boys and girls equally (!) and is showing her daughters (and in turn building the foundation for all 5 of her girls and their future relationships with men) the proper way to treat the men in their lives.

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Come on..I know people are joking now. Those of us who watch the show know that she does not care for boys and favors Hannah above all else in life.

12/08/2008 4:43 PM

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Yes I was being sarcastic!

Jamie said...

She makes pimping look easy.

Ma said...

To the person who said most parents have a favorite kid. I sure don't. I don't know too many people, thank goodness, who so obviously favor one kid like Hannah. I have no clue what they think is so special about her. It's sickening to watch. I don't think it's anything to make light of.

Kate said...

I think that Kate tries her hardest and although I am not a fan of the way she behaves what would you do? Sit your booties down and think about it seriously-how would you handle this? You can honestly say you wouldn't take some handouts that people gave you? Especially if you didn't grow up with a silver spoon? And yeah, she does seem to favor Hannah, one, that is what we see on tv, and two, I think a lot of people have a child that they relate to better.

Although she is snotty and can be very high strung, she is trying her best. I believe that she thinks she is doing the right thing and her INTENT isn't to exploit the children.

Tigerfan said...

Also, regarding other comments about Kate feeding her kids on schedule, Kate doesn't swear, her kids are clean. Seriously,is society in such a sad state that THESE are considered admirable parenting examples? Aren't these examples the norm ?

12/08/2008 5:05 PM

I agree ! Are these not examples of qualities expected of all parents? As a parent, it is your obligation and responsibility to provide your child with food, clothing, shelter, education, rise to the occassion etc. I, and society should EXPECT nothing less of J & K Gosselin. Are viewers so miguided by the illusion represented by J & K , that they have lost all concept of reality? What a parent should not be expected to do is, EXPLOIT their own children for monetary and personal gain! That REALLY is not a likable quality to aspire to.

2badSoSad said...

J & K Gosselin have a mere eight years experience under their belt in their role as parents. They have yet to endure what I would refer to as the most 'challanging' years of parenting.

balanced-opinion said...

I think this was a good idea, how about a topic for Jon?

tmc said...

What I like about Kate.... she has some really nice handbags. That Coach one is to die for. Most have cost a lot of money.

Seriously, I like that Kate's children are healthy and happy, live in a beautiful home and have food. It's that what really matters. There's a lot of families strugging right now in the economy and hopefully those 8 children never have to experience these issues

I am absolutely no fan of Kon's and have commented on this blog many times, but God has blessed her with 8 healthy and seemingly happy children.

mollybloom said...

She married a man as unlikable as she is.

iluveeyore said...

Something positive about Kate's parenting?

I have never ever seen Kate put one of her kids in a sack with a bunch of rocks and drop it into a river!

(However, I might have missed that episode.)

Carrie said...

I liked how in the episode where they were organizing the house, she wanted to put pictures on the bins so the little kids would know where everything went. I don't know if it was her idea or someone else's but I did like the idea! Whether it gets put into practice is a whole other topic.

Other than that? I got nothin'

GrammyPie said...

Notice how there was so much blurring of products this time. What's up with that? Are they using brands they aren't paid to endorse? I wonder how long ago this was filmed. She eluded to the fact is was October, but everyone was running around in shorts and short sleeve shirts.

alana said...

I gave it a whirl.
Being the superficial person that I am, "looks" are the first thing I usually notice about someone so the only possibility is to say "Kate is pretty."
And then I conjured up an image of Kate in my head as I prepared to type this and she wasn't pretty one bit. When someone has as many negative, mean, and downright ugly personality characteristics as Kate does, there is nothing about that person I think is "pretty." O.K. how about this? If I had never known anything about her and was seeing her for the first time on television I would think...No she was wearing a bathrobe and her hair was sticking up on her head like a pineapple.
Still not pretty.

If the question was instead what about Kate I find "amazing" I would say:
I find it amazing that Kate is able to appeal to so many (young) woman in a way that borders on magical and hypnotic. An attraction so strong they are able to ignore any moral compass previously instilled by their parents, church, peers, and schools. All former life experiences that taught them anything about love and how to treat their fellow human being, especially children, goes out the window.
I am amazed at the way Kate is able to manipulate everyone from four year olds to fertility specialists and do so with impunity.
I'm also amazed that as long as GWoP exists there are people who continue to come to their senses, relieved when they find their way to this blog. Isn't it amazing how they always say "I thought I was the only one who..."

Gregory House said...

Grammy Pie- I think they were having a heat wave of sorts in October. My mother lives in southern PA. and I remember her complaining about the heat.

Irish-Gal said...

She does want them to have some good memories of their childhood, whatever her definition of that may be...

Lfwh said...

Well, Kate is pretty. And she appears to eat healthy. And to be honest, I have always appreciated the fact that she is a "normal" weight, not a lollipop with a really thin body and big head like you see on non-reality tv series and movie actresses. She's by no means fat but she's not a stick figure either. She is normal in that respect.

C said...

tmc said...
What I like about Kate.... she has some really nice handbags. That Coach one is to die for. Most have cost a lot of money.

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I've seen this comment before about a Coach bag. Can someone tell me which one is Coach? I thought I knew all the Coach bags out there and the ones I've seen on the show that she's had never looked like a Coach bag?

Mom, Wife and Professional. In no particular order! said...

I am confused, if this was to post something you LIKE then why are comments being approved that are nothing but shear nastiness?

I think she has alot of redeeming qualities... We all have our flaws.

Erin said...

She believes in feeding her family organically and staying away from artificial ingredients.

pickle said...

I like the fact that Kate cares so much about the environment that she uses paper plates for every meal.

Michelle S said...

What i have liked about Kate since the beginning that has made me want to do more often with my family, are their little traditions they make sure to do on any type of holiday. I always thought that was special.
Other things that come to mind is the fact that she is organized,tries to stick to a schedule and that she is a mom to 8! I think Kate is very pretty.
(to the moderators,i just want to add that i thought this post/topic was for positive things to be found about Kate, and yet i see negative ones in the mix? i see these posts go through, yet wonder why my simply asked questions on other topics didnt..if this is positive about Kate, lets keep it that way..thanks)

Kristin said...

I really tried to think about this. I came up with three things:

1. She and the personal chef feed the kids organic foods.
2. She knows her kids' food likes and dislikes. (Cara doesn't like tomato on her sandwich, etc.)
3. She doesn't let her kids walk around in bare feet in a hotel room (although she herself walked around outside a gas station barefoot).

That was truly all I could think of.

nosheeple said...

Mom, Wife and Professional. In no particular order! said...
I am confused, if this was to post something you LIKE then why are comments being approved that are nothing but shear nastiness?

I think she has alot of redeeming qualities... We all have our flaws.

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And I'm confused as to why some people, such as this particular commenter, only shows up when it is time to slap hands about what should be allowed here : ) I also noticed a few posts down someone else asked almost the exact question why the comments were allowed. I don't feel this was asked a serious topic, more like light sarcasm. Clearly not many things are positive. Looking ok or dressing them a certain way does not make a person a good mom. This is someone's personal blog (and it has been stated again and again) and they can allow or disallow whatever they choose. Furthermore, they have stated there is not one single topic, but a variety of conversations "allowed". I really hope that clears things up.

Auntie said...

Well I know they have no junk in any unfinished portions. Kate has stated before and at the yard sale that they save nothing. She made Jon get rid of mementos for goodness sake, and tried to get rid of a little ornament. Having storage shelves does not make her a good person. Did you also notice that the majority of those cubes are empty? If it had been my kids they would be slam full of things. Did you notice they already got rid of the backyard camping stuff and the Rose Petal cottage? Why get rid of new toys they can still play with? Well they do.
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When watching the re-run of the Q&A show my son even commented they don't have any toys and saw the cubes and said they were almost empty and how his toys would fill them all.

Maggie said...

This is a serious question. Our posters make the blog, so we publish what y'all write.

It is what you have given us. We have posted every positive or negative opinion that you sent in.

Unless you have been anonymous or told us to get a life or that we are all hateful, jealous, etc. Sorry!

Katete said...

I like Kate's uber white teeth. Shows how vain she is.

I like that Kate loves herself so much. I most of the time think of other people first. I should be like Kate once in a while, put myself first!

I like Kate's hairstyle. It fits her personality. And makes my hairstyle look so much better!

Well, Kate could be worse. I know of a woman who does not do anything but play world of warcrafts everyday that her only child hasn't even showered, smells of poo, talks her own language, and cries if I couldn't understand her.

SkippyMom said...

Kate packs a mean suitcase. In fact...A LOT of suitcases. I don't mean that snarky either, as I could never do that. I find her organized in that sense.

And the shoes always being lined up in the garage? Also organized [and again not being snarky]. There are [at times] over 7 people in our home and I throw all our shoes in a shoe bin. Oh, and she knows who's shoes are whose.

Finally - and I am not a fan of how she has done this - but to be fair, she has provided [handsomely] for her children.

Crystal Ball said...

I like the fact that she has grown up and uses an adult voice when speaking to her husband (even if most of the time she is yelling). It seemed as if in those pre-wedding clips she spoke in a baby voice or a light girly voice. I hate when women alter their voice when speaking to a man.

Sara said...

I used to like some of the shirts she wore and items she had around the house- until I finally realized that all these things were being given to them free of charge by adoring fans and big corporations. Then my likey disintegrated.

Debbi said...

Sorry. I got nothing.

Sheryl said...

Maggie said...
This is a serious question. Our posters make the blog, so we publish what y'all write.

It is what you have given us. We have posted every positive or negative opinion that you sent in.

Unless you have been anonymous or told us to get a life or that we are all hateful, jealous, etc. Sorry!

12/08/2008 11:30 PM
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Maggie who are you kidding? You don't post all the positive stuff.

I won't beleive it till I see it.

C said...

Auntie said...
Well I know they have no junk in any unfinished portions. Kate has stated before and at the yard sale that they save nothing. She made Jon get rid of mementos for goodness sake, and tried to get rid of a little ornament. Having storage shelves does not make her a good person. Did you also notice that the majority of those cubes are empty? If it had been my kids they would be slam full of things. Did you notice they already got rid of the backyard camping stuff and the Rose Petal cottage? Why get rid of new toys they can still play with? Well they do.
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When watching the re-run of the Q&A show my son even commented they don't have any toys and saw the cubes and said they were almost empty and how his toys would fill them all.


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Just to further comment on this, I wonder too, why the kids have too little toys? Of course if they had too much toys then we'd all be complaining but there seems to be very little toys in their rooms and in the basement. And in that pile in their garage before the garage sale I did see alot of toys still in boxes! Some things like that she should save for them but if she feels they'll be getting more freebies from advertisers then I guess why bother, right?

Casey and Smudge Bunny said...

The best parenting decision that Kate could make to prove that she has her children's interests at heart would be to pull the plug on TLC, take the books out of print, say no to freebies, quit promoting for others, and discontinue the DVD series. Then train for a second career if nursing isn't her bag and show her children how to work hard and value education. She should also seek some alternative therapy (beyond going to the spa to make her a better mommy)to cope and take some parenting classes. This may also allow some stable and loving family members back into their lives. You know, the people who love them for who they are and not what they are?

She's very good at getting what she wants, so I'm sure she could accomplish all these Herculean tasks in record time.

One thing I will give Kate - when the sextuplets were born, she pumped breast milk for them, at least for the first little while before they were all out of the NICU. Not to get into the breast vs. formula debate, but I think it may be one of the most selfless things she's done. Good on you, Kate.

iluveeyore said...

One thing I will give Kate - when the sextuplets were born, she pumped breast milk for them, at least for the first little while before they were all out of the NICU. Not to get into the breast vs. formula debate, but I think it may be one of the most selfless things she's done. Good on you, Kate.

From what I know, when you have a child in the NICU, you are handed a pump and told to go to it. I don't think Kate had a lot of choice. (She could have said "no," but can you imagine the controversy that would have caused?)

ScarySkierNewJersey said...

She seems sober in most episodes....well 95% of the time.

She doesn't have a ciggie in one hand and blow second hand smoke in her childrens faces ala Kim of RHOA.

She hasn't given her kids to a "babysitter" and claim to work at Universal Studios in Florida.

That's about all I got.

Snarkygirl said...

She is clearly smarter than loser Jon.

Tami said...

What i have liked about Kate since the beginning that has made me want to do more often with my family, are their little traditions they make sure to do on any type of holiday. I always thought that was special.
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You would have these so-called traditions too if you were trying to fill up a episode of a reality show. Personally I don't believe for a minute she came up with any of that or that they would do anything if the cameras weren't around to film it and plug the products.

Lori Lou said...

From what I know, when you have a child in the NICU, you are handed a pump and told to go to it. I don't think Kate had a lot of choice. (She could have said "no," but can you imagine the controversy that would have caused?)
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Having had a preemie that was not the case with me. I was asked if I was going to and I did. She never had to get a drop of anything but my milk. I was able to pump a great deal. But I have seen so many things on tv about preemies and most of the ones I have seen there have been comments made like 'my milk didn't come in soon enough' (even though they mostly need the colostrum until then) or 'they had to have extra calories' even though breast milk is the perfect nutrition. So I would say that the fact that she pumped some milk for them WAS a pretty selfless thing for Kate. And surprising.

Michelle S said...

Tami good point in you saying:
You would have these so-called traditions too if you were trying to fill up a episode of a reality show. Personally I don't believe for a minute she came up with any of that or that they would do anything if the cameras weren't around to film it and plug the products.
------ Could all be pretense just to look good on tv. But what i liked was in early episodes, not so much the newer ones.

bradleymom said...

To Sheryl,

Do you walk into a person's house where you have been invited and insult their decorating or the food they make for you?

How you just spoke to one of the mods was in the same realm of rudeness. There is always the choice to not be on this site or start your own. If you are that rude to people in their "house" why would you want to go there.

Maggie - thank you for all the selfless time you put into this blog for all of us to have a forum. I appreciate what you do. You are clearly being quite gracious about this and are class.

Sidney said...

It is good that she bought "organizing baskets" and shelves to hold the kids toys.

It is bad that she went down in the basement where the kids were very busy playing with the toys, and she blew her top, screaming that they help her clean up that mess, and she said something like, 'sure you know how to make messes but you won't do any work to clean it up.'

For pete's sake, the kids were still playing with the toys! I just think she got rid of so many of their toys in the yard sale, because she sees those valuable toys as just another big mess for her to have to contend with.

It just makes me sick that she has had so much of this wonderful stuff given to her little kids, and she only sees it all as another mess. Kids work IS play! They need to imagine the play that these toys stimulate. She is a hateful, terrible, mean witch! How mean can one woman be?

C J said...

SmartyQ - I loved your response. Especially #7:
7. She, by example, teaches the children how to have a happy, fulfilling marriage. First, you castrate your husband . . ."

Kate is teaching this only to her girls. When it's time for the boys to marry, their future wives won't need to learn this tip because Kate fixed her boys at birth.

Elisa said...

I don't understand how taking the kids to church makes her a good mother. You can provide a moral foundation for kids without taking them to church once a week. Church may be used to reinforce the ethics taught at home, yes, but having the kids hear it again from a Sunday School teacher is not really that big of a deal, I think. Honestly, they seem so focused on one way of worshiping and believing that their kids may be getting the short end of the theological stick. Obviously, every parent has a choice in the religion/values that they teach their kids, but I can't help but wonder what the reaction would be if one of the kids wanted to go to a Catholic Mass or are invited to Sabbath dinner with a Jewish classmate. From what we've seen of J&K, they're pretty deadset on their version of the Christian message and I worry that they wouldn't be receptive to their kids learning different ideas about who or what God is.

I digress. I do think that Kate made a pretty brave choice in opting to continue her pregnancy. It couldve turned out much differently, but I appreciate that she was willing to accept that whatever happened, they were all coming out and were all her kids. I also think that the glimpses of the twins in the first couple specials indicates that they were pretty attentive to their early developmental needs. They were articulate and thoughtful little girls. I just wish I could be sure that they are still getting the parental attention they seem to be craving.

KONspiracytheory said...

Elisa said:
I digress. I do think that Kate made a pretty brave choice in opting to continue her pregnancy. It couldve turned out much differently, but I appreciate that she was willing to accept that whatever happened, they were all coming out and were all her kids.
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That's actually a really good one. I think J&K were (and still are) way too immature to understand the true implications of raising one or more severely handicapped children, but I'm willing to give her credit for that too.

Karen said...

She is an excellent role model for other moms--whenever I think about acting even a little like Kate, I think, "Is this how I want my kids to remember me?" It doesn't work everytime, but sometimes a negative role model can help people change for the better.

Onomatopoeia said...

I've been cogitating on this for a couple of days and I'm still stumped. Having never been a parent, I certainly don't feel it's my place to say if someone has any redeeming qualities at that particular job. I will say that I wouldn't want to be in her shoes in 10 years or so. Can you imagine what she (and Jon) will have to deal with then? You cut your suit to fit your cloth.

Enuff said.

momof5 said...

From what I know, when you have a child in the NICU, you are handed a pump and told to go to it. I don't think Kate had a lot of choice. (She could have said "no," but can you imagine the controversy that would have caused?)
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Not true. I have had 3 babies in the NICU & it is your choice on how you want your babies fed.

timetogokon said...

She is an excellent role model for other moms--whenever I think about acting even a little like Kate, I think, "Is this how I want my kids to remember me?" It doesn't work everytime, but sometimes a negative role model can help people change for the better.

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Karen, you are so right. I am pretty much textbook Type A - very organized, extremely neat, not good at relaxing, always on the go, sometimes stubborn and sometimes impatient. I can honestly say because of Kate, I try very hard not to let the little things get to me . So, yes, Kate's terrible behavior has made me a better wife and mom !!! Thank goodness my husband is so mellow =)

Marilee said...

Finally - and I am not a fan of how she has done this - but to be fair, she has provided [handsomely] for her children.

Her children have provided for the entire family. Without the sacrifice of their privacy, their dignity, the sanctity of their childhood, Jon and Kate would have had to actually support the family all by themselves. You know, like real parents do, parents who will actually sacrifice for their children.

Nat said...

She has never let a dingo eat one of her babies.

:)

ndbt said...

Kate LOVES Hannah.

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:/

SmartyQ said...

Nat said... She has never let a dingo eat one of her babies. :)
Excellent! It's probably, however, because there are no dingoes in Pennsylvania. Wait until Kon et al go to Australia, and then worry about those icky boys.

Weed said...

I want to apologize to the moderators of this blog for my comment yesterday – I understand why it was not posted. I went over the edge and for that I’m sorry – I truly did not mean any disrespect and I think I was just having one of those days and unfortunately you got the worst of it.
I’m going to try and answer the question, “Challenge for the day: list at least one positive example of Kate's parenting.” It is tough – everything I try to think of isn’t really parenting – maybe it would be easier if that woman didn’t tick me off so bad. I don’t think this is parenting but here goes. She knew what she wanted and went after it even though it meant pimping out her children. See that’s not a parenting skill – but hopefully if they get out of this show NOW maybe the kids won’t have much of a long-term effect from cameras stuck in their face 24/7 and they will have set up a nice financial future for the family. I think if J&K thought about this correctly in the beginning and kept their jobs and did a few yearly specials they would have been fine financially. No parent should feel they have to pay all of a college education, many kids work and go to school, financial aid, scholarships, etc. Plus the state of PA set some type of fund up. And paying for weddings shouldn’t be a reason for pimping their kids out for years. Didn’t J&K pay for their own and it was beautiful. The reasons J&K give for continuing this show doesn’t make any sense. They want the freebies and all the “glory” that goes with being a D-list celebrity. It just makes me sick. The kids are getting worse and Jon was right in Monday’s episode, the Tups have no respect for elders and neither do the twins but what can you expect when they see their Mother disrespect their dad day in and day out. Jon doesn’t even try and defend himself on the couch anymore – he just shuts down. I’d love to see him just go off on that piece of work, just one time. They have to see how this show has affected the kids – they get worse with each show. IMO these tups aren’t developing on par with other children their age – I know preemies have some developmental problems but the tups are no where near as developed as Mady and Cara were at that age. I think it’s because Kate wants them to stay babies and neither she nor Jon interact with them, teaching them the basics of how to hold a fork, cut with scissors, brush their teeth, basic language skills, correcting them, – keeping them in bibs?? WTF. I’m surprised the bibs don’t choke them and the backs of the bibs are gross. What is wrong with these people? Don’t they have enough? J&K are in for a rude awakening with the show stops, no freebies, no spa days, no shutting down places just for them and think of the kids – how will they handling not being the center of attention, just being normal children. It might be easier on them than J&K though, but the emotional problems will be a life-time. Sorry for the ramble and again – I am sorry about yesterday’s post. Honestly – I meant no disrespect, it was just a really bad day and apparently from this post - today’s not looking so good either :-)

imexhausted said...

I like the fact that her house isn't a disaster zone with clothes and toys strewn all over and the kids don't have mucky faces. Good job KON! I don't like the fact that KON keep saying over and over how difficult it is to have that many children, how it's exhausting and they never talk about the joys of each child only the negative things about them. That is the biggest turn off for me.

Nancy said...

Good things about Kate... oh my... I had to think long and hard to come up with much.... but (1)she does appear to be concerned with providing the kids a healthy diet, (2) her home is surprisingly neat and clean, (3).....oh never mind.

Tracie said...

She does feed her children very healthy meals instead of always giving them fast food.

nancy019 said...

Kate is teaching this only to her girls. When it's time for the boys to marry, their future wives won't need to learn this tip because Kate fixed her boys at birth.

Could you imagine having that witch for a mother-in-law? Lordy Be, that would be horrendously horrendous!

debi said...

I'm still thinking....

iluveeyore said...

Kate makes me look like Mother of the Year... no, make that Mother of the Century.

For that, I thank her.

Melibee said...

I also like that she didn't give her kids all matching names to make them more of a 'set.' I know the little girls have related middle names, but I'm glad she gave them first names that are different from each other (I'm looking at you, Michelle Duggar!). Matching names are fine, but not my thing.

12/08/2008 4:59 PM

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I agree.
I think it's partly due to the fact that Kate came from a family with matchy sibling names. Her brother is Kevin and her sister is Kendra...isn't there another K sister too? And their last name started with a K also.

Other than the name thing...can't think of anything I'm particularly fond of Kate over. Um..... she wanted Cara to wear sturdy shoes to an amusement park instead of flimsy flip-flops. I guess that was kinda reasonable. I guess.

Melibee said...

C said...
tmc said...
What I like about Kate.... she has some really nice handbags. That Coach one is to die for. Most have cost a lot of money.

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I've seen this comment before about a Coach bag. Can someone tell me which one is Coach? I thought I knew all the Coach bags out there and the ones I've seen on the show that she's had never looked like a Coach bag?

12/08/2008 7:32 PM

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I could be mistaken, but I'm pretty sure that the "basket" weave looking one with white leather trim she had in Hawaii was Coach.

ariel said...

she has a tattoo. at one time, she was a free spirited, possibly cool person.

kiki said...

She is really marketable. While marketablility is a trait that has no direct bearing on a person's parenting whatsover, I will now make a case for this being her best parenting trait.


Her marketability is mostly due to: her remarkable cute-ness (I can't say 'beautiful' like most. She is ridiculously cute, though.)and her fascinating narcissism/lack of self-awareness. (She is ridiculous, period.)

And, like the proverbial train wreck, you can't tear your eyes away.

NOW -- since these sub-traits are either neutral (cuteness) or detrimental (self-absorption) to parenting, I have to say that I give her credit for parlaying these traits into a very handsome living.

And, finally, I imagine all that money does benefit the kids.

*wipes brow*

Happy Holidays said...

I think she loves her children, but she obviously LOVES money a whole lot more or she wouldn't be exploiting them like that!!!!

Popcorn5 said...

She won't let her children walk barefoot on hotel carpet.