Article in Honolulu Paper

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54 comments:

3rd Rock From The Sun said...

An article about Kate slapping Jon. How sad have Jon and Kate become? NO wife should EVER slap her husband, and no husband should ever slap his wife. Jon and Kate need to get counseling and the sooner the better.
I can't believe that Kate, being a Christian, can treat her husband this way. What would Jesus do?

Virginia said...

I hope Jon reads this, don't you?

babeeberry said...

I don't think Kate realizes that her girls are learning how to treat their future husbands by her example. In this weeks episode it was clear by Mady and Cara's behavior that they react to the stress of parenting the same way Jon and Kate do...by loosing it.

Most parents should have an animalistic instinct to protect their children. Jon and Kate are not only missing this gene completely, but apparently are unable to "learn" appropriate parenting. Kate seems to consider herself a parenting expert, even though quantity does not equal quality. You can have all the kids you want, but if you suck at the job Kate, well, you just suck.

Sue said...

I HATED the tone of this article. "I blame Jon". WTF? Kate is abusing Jon but it is his fault because he whines? Does the writer not see how wrong this is. Can you imagine an article where the roles were reversed.

"Kate was again complaining to the producers about Jon when he suddenly slapped her in the face with a force that I'm certain surprised even him.

Maybe the next time Jon slaps his wife on national television, she'll finally get the message"


This article INFURIATED me. Why do people think it is okay for women to abuse men?

end rant

Breanna said...

Sue, I could not agree more. It is a double standard and it is not right. If John slapped Kate then said stop whining it's not sexy it would be called abuse and he would be arrested. It is NOT his fault and it is not cute or proper to treat your spouse that way

Denise said...

Kate slaps Jon 'cause "boys are icky."

beachchick said...

o.k. let me get this straight TLC
edits out the parents hitting their kids but leave in the slapping of jon? why that is wrong they should not air that like it's ok to do .
Jon is being abused .it's on tape .
how nuch more proof do we need that kate is crazy?

Snark said...

Unfortunately, when a woman abuses her husband (and there is way more of this out there than people believe), he's looked at as a wimp. He's told to stop whining, stop being a sissy, and is made fun of that "a girl beat him up". I don't like the tone of the article with "I blame Jon". It's true that if it was Jon slapping Kate the fans wouldn't be calling it "cute little love taps", they'd be screaming abuse. No one would be blaming Kate. Counseling is definately needed.

Also, Baybeeberry is correct. The girls are learning that this is the way to treat a man, and the boys are learning that this is the way to be treated. It's already apparent in the way they speak to their brothers at times. Very, very sad.

babeeberry said...

I get the double standard, and I don't believe anyone should hit their spouse, but the way I read it was he was blaming Jon for not speaking up. I think he was telling Jon to "man up" and to do something about the hitting instead of sitting there and taking it. If the roles were reversed and Kate was getting smacked by Jon, but sat there week after week and did nothing more than whine about it that wouldn't be right either. As adults we get to make the decision on what we will tolerate from another adult and what we find unacceptable. Obviously Jon is a professional victim, he would rather moan and groan about the smacking than actually do something about it.

I do see both sides of this, but I also believe if Jon wanted to he could end it by leaving that shrew of a wife...jmo.

Sugarpop said...

I would say that now we'll see her stop doing this as more PR spin, but we've already seen her stop doing it only to replace it with the nauseating face caress she does that really seriously does make me feel a little sick to watch. It's so insincere and you can see him physically tense up when she strokes his face like that! EWWWWW!

Sue said...

Babeeberry, I have to disagree with this:

"I think he was telling Jon to "man up" and to do something about the hitting instead of sitting there and taking it"

This title of the article is "Hapless TV husband deserves his slaps" and the first line states: "Kate Gosselin slaps her husband in the face on national television and I want to slap him, too."

Anyway, even if the author was suggesting Jon "man up" how is that rational? He thinks that the reason Kate hits Jon his because he doesn't stand up to her when she hits him?

Regardless, it's inappropriate to tell a victim of abuse to stand up to their abuser and stop the abuse. It is so much more complicated than that.

UniStudent said...

I think that the responses from all of you to this are a testament to the people of this blog. No one here is specifically a Jon and Kate hater, because if we were everyone would applaud this article.

I am too am apalled at the author of this article. Violence is not right. This author appears to live by the same gender role rules that Kate does where boys are icky. Hitting another human being is never ok. It is a simplistic and ignorant way to deal with something that would be better amended with words.

As much as I like negative press about the Gosselins, this author is way off on the real issues of this show.

ashley said...

Ha! Now if only somebody was reading all this and letting KON know.......... oh yeah somebody is! Well now they can officially work the slaps into some damage control. Yippy, maybe they could make an episode of it...... Oh already did that, well in a year they can get re-married again, only this time for their 10th anniversary! @@

Lfwh said...

I agree, this article has a bit of a misogynist tone to it. The way he refers to the way woman treat men in general statement kind of made me leary of the article.

As far as Jon's treatment goes, yes he needs to find his voice and tell Katie to take a hike on her broomstick. That part I agree, but I don't necessarily like the tone of the article.

babeeberry said...

Sue said:
Regardless, it's inappropriate to tell a victim of abuse to stand up to their abuser and stop the abuse. It is so much more complicated than that.
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I'm aware of how complicated it is, I was in a physically abusive relationship for nearly 4 yrs. I was in my late teens, early twenties. It wasn't until I stood up to my abuser (with lot's of help!!) and took my life back that things started to change for the better. I lost a lot of friends because I would complain and do nothing about it. When I became proactive and left the situation my friends didn't believe it would last.

I'm going to stand by my phrase of "manning up." There is no excuse for any form of abuse, but on the flip side there is ALWAYS a way out. Is it difficult, heck yes. Does your whole world need to be turned upside down, yes again. Throw some children into the mix and it's complicated times a thousand...but...you don't need to take it. Wether you are a man or woman you can get out (with help) and live a more peaceful life.

I understand the article is harsh, and maybe I'm way off base. I don't see it as someone condoning slapping your spouse. It seems to have been written by a macho man that has very little knowledge of the real problems this family has created for their children. I also believe Jon can always leave the situation, but the children are stuck in it as the true victims of Kate's craziness.

Snark said...

Jon and Kate remind me SO much of my parents relationship. My mother has a lot of Kate's qualities and my Dad is Jon to a T. It's always all about Mom. I love her to death and I'll be lost without her, but I've learned to deal with it. She's not as bad as Kate in most ways, but when it comes to their relationship, she's identical. My dad does the "poor me" look when she berates him, etc. Nothing he does is good enough and she's constantly putting him down. He doesn't say a word. He sits there and takes it, just to keep peace. Do I agree? Hell no! I want to slap him (and her). So I can in some way understand what author was trying to say. I don't agree with it, but I can see what he's trying to say. I say it to myself everytime I see my parents.

Oh, and for those who think Jon will leave her....my parents have been married over 50 years. Some people just love to be the victim I guess.

beachluvin said...

So.......why has this article been removed? Did Jon whine to the writer?

Get a Clue said...

The article still shows up for me.

3rd Rock From The Sun said...

The article still shows up for me too. I'm sure that Jon will be seeing it soon though. He is probably getting the kids ready for bed. Then he will go on his computer and look at all the blogs.

The sad part is that his family out in Hawaii will probably see the article before Jon.

ThreeFarmers said...

I just think the dynamic between Jon & Kate is just nutty on both their sides.

ThreeFarmers said...

I do have to admit that Jon did take a lot of heat in this article considering he isn't the one who is doing the hitting.

SmartyQ said...

I think the absolute last thing Queen Freebie Irene wants is for Prince Ka-Ching to stand up to her. She loves that he goes along with whatever she wants, or there definitely wouldn't be the tups, and the twins would be younger.

The author of the article is going by what is presented—not what can be seen, which is soooo manlike is it not? :)

3rd Rock From The Sun said...

Hmmm, we never see articles like this about Jim Bob Duggar or Eric Hayes. Could it be because these men have wives who know how to treat a man right?

just_sayin' said...

I feel like the point Mr. Nakaso was trying to get across is that the traditional male role is not being fulfilled by Jon in his household. Tradition isn't for everyone, of course; women can take out the trash and change the oil, and men can definitely cook dinner and clean house. But, like he said, "He wants to be treated like the captain of his own ship and doesn't realize that that's what Kate wants, too." That is the issue. Kate obviously had a very strong male influence in her life that Jon is either not capable of fulfilling or not willing to fulfill. Kate has said, "The show is our life and our life is the show." I think that Jon, with a dominant woman like Kate, would have had to present himself as the authority-figure 100% of the time in order to have any semblance of control/equality in the relationship. IMO, the author is simply pointing out the fact that Jon is not the traditional bread winning, decision-making Alpha-male type, and that, based on Kate's behavior, that is what she craves. I don't feel like Kate particularly likes being in control; she usually is, and it can get very, very stressful for all involved. I feel that Kate would be perfectly content to stay at home and raise children, maintain her house, and provide for her family in the traditional ways--meals, cleaning, etc. However, due to their situation, Jon has been pulled into the house and has not(as I think Kate sees it) been fulfilling his duties as a husband and father.

nosheeple said...

I seriously do not see Jon as a typical abuse victim. IMO he is afraid to stand up to her out of greed. He's afraid if he speaks up she'll kick him out and he'll miss out on the gravy train. She holds the power, as in having 8 kids and knowing she will not be kicked to the curb by a court. He refuses to be a man and stand up for his kids as well. I don't compare this with a man beating a woman (or even vice versa) where he holds all the power, pursestrings, etc. And of course I still believe it is wrong and she is a horrible person for hitting him..

kate is a cocky bitch said...

I am not fan of Jon but I find this article very sexist. If the role's were reversed and Kate was getting physically abused would we say that she deserves it because she's a "wimp who wines." Domestic abuse affects men as well as women and as a society we need to say that it's all equally intolerable and there is no shame for anyone, least of all an abused man.

Kristi said...

3rd rock-no you dont'see articles (yet) on Jim Bob and Eric because everyone is so focused on Kate.

Personally, I think this guy who wrote the article needed something, anything to write about and since it was after the wedding, he capitalized on them being in Hawaii. His wife probably reads this blog.

Onomatopoeia said...

Woo-weeeeee!!

I'm not a psychologist but methinks that Jon needs to grow a set and Queenie needs a strait-jacket. I guess Kate must think she's being cute with her little 'love taps' (and I totally agree with Sugarpop on the face-stroking thing - BLECH!). There is absolutely no mutual respect in this relationship and that alone sets a pitiful example for their children. While I don't agree with everything in Dan Nakaso's article, I think he made some interesting observations about this fraud that continues to perpetuate itself.

Face it, Jon & Kate...you're nuttier than my grandma's Christmas fruitcake and the whole world knows it.

Joanne said...

I blame Jon for not putting Kate in her place when she starts in on him. She is being abusive when she slaps him, and verbally abusive to him a LOT! He takes it, like a wuss. He needs to cut her off right when she starts and tell her you do not talk to me that way, and you do not slap me. You KNOW I dont like it, so stop it!

Until he grows a pair, it wont happen. Kate talks to him like he is an equal of the tups. Sickening.
Its not a marriage, but a dictatorship, with Kate doing all the bossing.

Tigerfan said...

SmartyQ said...
I think the absolute last thing Queen Freebie Irene wants is for Prince Ka-Ching to stand up to her. She loves that he goes along with whatever she wants, or there definitely wouldn't be the tups, and the twins would be younger.

The author of the article is going by what is presented—not what can be seen, which is soooo manlike is it not? :)

12/10/2008 6:16 PM

I agree. IMO, J & K Gosselin are perfectly content living out their 'fantasy' roles as Peter Pan and Wendy. Without 'Wendy' there would be no 'Peter Pan'. Wendy thrives on it being that way and Peter Pan isnt of the intellectual fortitude to suspect otherwise!

SueM said...

"just saying" I have to disagree with you. I think Kate has had strong female influence and weaker male influence in her life. We all tend to behave the way we were raised. A shrink friend of mine used to say it was like doing a dance step. You chose a dance step that's familiar to you and a partner who knows the same steps. You may not be good at it and it may not be the best dance for you but it's inevitible unless to make a conscious effort to learn a new dance. I'll bet Jon is very much like Katie Irene's Dad and I'll bet she is a clone of her mother. Look at the kids. The girls have stronger personalities than the boys. Mady, Hannah, Alexis even Leah in her own way overpower the boys. Cara seems to be the only girl who is like Jon. The boys are sweet but passive in this whole family dynamic. I think Jon is EXACTLY what Kate wants him to be (consciously or not). I don't think she would've stood a chance with a strong male partner. She wouldn't have 8 kids if she married a strong man. Kate would never have picked a man who would say no to her. I'll bet Daddy never said no to Katie. The day Jon stands up to her is the day this family will change forever.

I also agree with "Sue". The abuse thing is just more complicated than this. Telling someone to stop whining and stand up to the abuse just doesn't work. This article oversimplifies the issue.

Kris said...

I blame Jon for marrying Kate. Shame on him. He was passive before he met her and she was agressive before she met him.

Combine them and you get a train wreck.

Sara said...

There's a new article on ParentDish:

http://www.parentdish.com/2008/12/10/parentdishing-with-kate-gosselin/

Charlie Rose said...

"I don't think she would've stood a chance with a strong male partner. She wouldn't have 8 kids if she married a strong man. Kate would never have picked a man who would say no to her."

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I am in total agreement with you SueM. There is no way on God's green earth that Kate would be happy if Jon stood up to her. She gets mad and yells at him now because she thinks he doesn't do enough and she ALWAYS wants him to ask her "Kate, how can I help you?" Doesn't he help her out every single day of the year? The problem is... it is never good enough for her. She will never be happy. People like her will never find happiness because they are searching for it in the wrong arenas. They think money will buy them love and happiness. Sorry Kate, it doesn't work like that.

(BTW, I detest the face stroking as I am sure Jon is too).

babeeberry said...

I just read the Parentdish article and can not believe that some of their "fans" compare the Kon's to celebrities or sports figures! I'm even more floored that they think Jon goes to work everyday and has adult interactions. I can not imagine what it is gonna take to pry open their eyes to the Kon's true intentions.

Remember the backlash Star Jones suffered after her heavily sponsered wedding a few years ago? I'm thinking this is exactly what is in store for the G's.

Countrygirl said...

Kate takes advantage of them being on the interview couch when she slaps Jon. It is kind of like we're on camera and you can't do anything about it. John probably was raised to be a gentleman so he doesn't make a big deal of it on camera or say what he really thinks. Kate if you notice always has to have the last word. She can't just shut up.

momof5 said...

WOW! the guy that wrote that article needs to be slapped. Maybe Kate could pay him a visit.

I have to admit that I want to slap Jon too but I want to follow it up with "idiot! you need to divorce her!"

kate is a cocky bitch said...

This is in reply to Kris and generally to anyone else who has the tone that Jon "needs to grow a pair."

We are assigning very traditional roles for men and women if we do not take a stand against this abuse right here and now and say that it's wrong all the way around. Why can't a man say without shame and with full confidence that he is the victim of domestic violence at the hands of his wife? There are many outreach programs for victimized women but it is my understanding that there is some sort of stigma attached to men who're abused by their wives. Domestic violence comes in many shapes and colors, I do not know what level of predatory behavior Kate falls under but I am certain of one thing, that she has certainly abused her husband.

DirtyDisher said...

I know, Babeeberry! I read some of the comments on the Parentdish article. So many people say Jon works and what are you talking about? The poor guy goes to work everyday! Are you kidding me? Do they watch the same show we watch? So much brainwashing. Ick, I can't read anymore. I just wish that next time Kate smacks Jon in the face, he'd haul off and slap her back. That'd be something to see. Instead they've trained their kids to do it to each other. Think about it. If I was one of the Gosselin kids and got mad at a sibling, I'd just punch their lights out and go directly to the corner and smile. Actually, I think they do. The Gosselin house is a war zone.

Rachael said...

babeberry said--
Remember the backlash Star Jones suffered after her heavily sponsered wedding a few years ago? I'm thinking this is exactly what is in store for the G's.

12/11/2008 7:56 AM
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babeberry, the difference is that Star worked those sponsors, she went out and seeked them. The sponsors for KON actually pay TLC. They went to TLC, not the other way around.

Harriet said...

the difference is that Star worked those sponsors, she went out and seeked them. The sponsors for KON actually pay TLC. They went to TLC, not the other way around.

I don't see it that way. The only people paying TLC are the ones who pay for advertising spots during the show. The others are giving the Gosselins stuff in exchange for it being on the show - oh so very much similar to Star Jones. Someone from TLC goes out and calls resorts, theme parks, and such to see if they'll host the Gosselins in exchange for publicity. Some places may contact them, but definitely not all. Some sponsors no longer want to be associated with them thus they are now blurred out.

3rd Rock From The Sun said...

The following tools are used to screen for Domestic violence:

How often does your partner:
1.) Physically hurt you or hit you?
2.) Insult you or talk down to you?
3.) Threaten you with harm?
4.) Scream or curse at you?

Never =1
Rarely =2
Sometimes =3
Fairly often =4
Frequently =5

Add up the points. A score of 10 or more, indicates Domestic Violence.

babeeberry said...

The way I saw the Star Jones backlash was she was acting very entitled to the freebies because of her position on the View. It is very much the way Kon act, entitled to all the freebies b/c they have 8 kids. Star had her hand out day after day, hinting at what she wanted at her wedding. Isn't that exactly what Kate does almost every single time she opens her sparkley mouth??

Four said...

When I read this article it reminded me of the incident in the toy store (They were shopping for xmas gifts with all the kids, Jon was in charge of keeping one group distracted while Kate checked out, then Kate lost it big time) During the recap/couch time Jon pointed out to Kate how embarrassed he was and how he didn't like being treated that way. Kate initially denied it, made light of it and then made it all about him and how he messed up and what he should have done. According to her, he should have seen that she was frazzled and he should have known to say "honey, what can I do to help you?" Not once did she apologize for her appalling behavior.

I remember watching that and thinking "wow, she's really good at turning it around and putting it back on him." Such are the traits of an abuser "I wouldn't have _______ (yelled, hit, cursed, embarrassed you) if only you hadn't ______(been inattentive, did what I told you not to, messed up, etc.).

Breanna said...

Four, good point. He has tried to stand up to her and tell her he doesn't like how she treats him and she just piles on more verbal abuse. Jon has his faults too, don't get me wrong, but noone deserves to be treated that way by their spouse. Kate is a poor excuse for a mother AND a wife

Marie-France said...

SueM said...
"just saying" I have to disagree with you. I think Kate has had strong female influence and weaker male influence in her life. We all tend to behave the way we were raised. A shrink friend of mine used to say it was like doing a dance step. You chose a dance step that's familiar to you and a partner who knows the same steps. You may not be good at it and it may not be the best dance for you but it's inevitible unless to make a conscious effort to learn a new dance. I'll bet Jon is very much like Katie Irene's Dad and I'll bet she is a clone of her mother.
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From what I gather, Charlene Kreider is the submissive one in the marriage and Kenton is the tyrannical nut case, using "Christianity" to manipulate people, taking all kinds of vitamins on a daily basis and obsessed with "organic food." I have been assuming that when Julie (Jodi's sister) posted here in the past that "Kate learned from the best," she was referring to Kenton. But I could be mistaken...

Marie-France said...

3rd Rock From The Sun said...
An article about Kate slapping Jon. How sad have Jon and Kate become? NO wife should EVER slap her husband, and no husband should ever slap his wife. Jon and Kate need to get counseling and the sooner the better. I can't believe that Kate, being a Christian, can treat her husband this way. What would Jesus do?
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Kate is a "Christian" only in that it is convenient (e.g. evangelical Christian church speaking engagements) and can be used to dupe and manipulate the public. She's a fake and a liar. No truly spiritually-oriented person (be it fundamentalist evangelical Christians, Catholics, Jews, etc.)would think it OK and normal to believe and behave as Kate does. She's just toxic and evil. A sham, a total sham. Does she think we're stupid? Does she care? No!

AUNTY K.K. said...

As another 'poster' stated, they left an abusive relationship with LOTS OF HELP...

Maybe that's why Kate has eliminated all family/friends, so Jon has NO ONE to lean on, ask for 'advice', or support. Maybe if he had "male friends" he'd have the 'guts' to do something about the hitting/verbal abuse, etc.

As we all know Kate is always right, she never apologizes, makes all situations the other person's fault, humiliates others' in public, ( says' shes not loud, and didn't realize others were around---ha!)..and until Kate gets counselling/medical help/medication, or whatever is needed to 'change' her personalitiy..well, she WON"T CHANGE!

I do hope Jon see's ALL these things in posts...and then is Man enough to do something for himself and his CHILDREN! As most of the children are 'developing' some of the same mannerisms. Hitting/screaming/non-respectful/hateful/etc...this is NOT healthy..
If help is not received soon, these children will look elsewhere for "love"--self-harm/drugs/alcohol/sex/etc...they have been given 'tremendous health' and are all so 'gorgeous' what a shame their personalities are being DAMAGED due to BAD parenting!

alana said...

There are only two newspapers in Hawaii and they are both owned by the same person.
I live here in Hawaii and this article is from the paper I subscribe to. Rather, subscribed to. When I saw this article the day before yesterday in the "Island Scene" - can you imagine?! - section
I got really excited and thought, oh, cool. I can send it to GWoP. By the end of the first paragraph I, too, was horrified and incensed. But I wasn't surprised. There are some real looloo's of cultural mores here. I've been here for 30 years and I still tell mainlanders, when they ohhh and ahhh and say how lucky I am to live in Hawaii, that it is a beautiful place but it's a lot like living in a Third World country when it comes to the differences in how people THINK compared to "the real world" - the mainland.
However, I don't have to think that way. I cancelled my subscription to this paper this morning and wrote a letter to the author of that thoughtless sexist piece.
I have a feeling, though, if that article had been about any couple other than Jon and Kate, I wouldn't have been the only person up in arms.

Wendy Bird said...

I think that he has been reading 3Fs recaps and was inspired by her witty and insightful words. Unfortunately he blew it.

This article was thought through poorly and was a sad attempt at humor.

nancy019 said...

Maybe that's why Kate has eliminated all family/friends, so Jon has NO ONE to lean on, ask for 'advice', or support. Maybe if he had "male friends" he'd have the 'guts' to do something about the hitting/verbal abuse, etc.

Aunty KK-I so agree, she probably cut these people off at the knees in order to get control of him. And he just went along with it, he is a bigger ass than I originally thought. Nothing that woman could do would surprise me. Wonder what his family thinks about all this?

Phyllis said...

AUNTY K.K.: Maybe that's why Kate has eliminated all family/friends, so Jon has NO ONE to lean on, ask for 'advice', or support. Maybe if he had "male friends" he'd have the 'guts' to do something about the hitting/verbal abuse, etc.

One of the classic signs of possible abuse is isolation - cutting someone off from friends and family so they have no one to turn to or stand up for them. I'm more concerned for the kids than Jon though. When things get too much at home, there's no more grandparents, Jodi & Kevin, Beth, Nana Janet, etc. for them to turn to, and neither parent is going to have their backs to protect them from the other. Heck, in a few years the tups probably won't even be able to remember those people.

MsPeabody said...

Sugarpop said...
I would say that now we'll see her stop doing this as more PR spin, but we've already seen her stop doing it only to replace it with the nauseating face caress she does that really seriously does make me feel a little sick to watch. It's so insincere and you can see him physically tense up when she strokes his face like that! EWWWWW!

I agree, I tense up when I've seen her do that insincere face rub and you can see him do it too. EWWWWW is right!
Another thing is I don't think Jon takes the face slapping as something that is abuse but rather it seems he takes it as jesting or joking on the part of Kate so he dismisses it easier. I do agree that it is abuse from her. Her pathetic words are crazy, "stop breathing", "stop rambling", etc, etc..His constant eye rolling at her remarks shows me that he is embarrassed by it all. He won't forget it although he maybe dismissing it for now, this marriage is on the rocks and won't last.

casemanager said...

Phyllis said: One of the classic signs of possible abuse is isolation - cutting someone off from friends and family so they have no one to turn to or stand up for them. I'm more concerned for the kids than Jon though. When things get too much at home, there's no more grandparents, Jodi & Kevin, Beth, Nana Janet, etc. for them to turn to, and neither parent is going to have their backs to protect them from the other. Heck, in a few years the tups probably won't even be able to remember those people.
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Phyllis, this is so true. I used to work in an agency that provided services to domestic violence victims. One of the myths about DV is that only males abuse their partners. WRONG!!! There is a large percentage of females who abuse their partners, but these male partners never come forward because they are ashamed and embarassed about being abused by their wives/girlfriends. Based on everything we've seen and the signs of DV, Kate is a classis abuser. There is indeed domestic violence going on in that home. DV is a toxic poison that destroys families and children. Basically, what viewers are watching every Monday night is domestic violence in action. Many victims just "take it" thinking they have no control and then simply explode. I cannot stand Jon Gosselin, but he needs to call a local DV hotline and talk to a counselor sooner rather than later.