Just One More

Just one more child . . .
And then there were eight.
Love should have grown,
but there’s too little, too late.

Just one more child . . .
No safe place to go.
“The show is our life.
Our life is the show.”

Perform for the camera.
Just one more take.
“Just do what you’re told!
There are memories to make!”

Just one more episode . . .
“Pick up the pace!”
Childhood vanishes
without a trace.

Just one more season . . .
Just one more year . . .
Just one more child . . .
Just one more tear . . .

Written by Marina

27 comments:

avasmommy said...

I like this! Good Job!!!

Anonymous said...

That made me cry :-(

Anonymous said...

Great poem! Good job :)

Anonymous said...

Wouldn't that be perfect for the inside cover of their book...sad but true!

Anonymous said...

Wow - made me sad.

SmartyQ said...

Marina, thank you for your beautiful, elegant and haunting poem.

PKD-in-Illinois said...

That was very touching and sad ... if only ... if ONLY Jon or Kate would read it.

Nadia said...

So sad, So true!!!

J&K if you only knew

The truth we can see so clear

Then would you shed even one tear?

Ravello said...

I hope Paul Petersen reads the poem. It sums up everything that is wrong with the way the Gosselins are exploiting their kids.
Thanks for posting.
TLC should be ashamed for their role in this.

Barbara in VA said...

Thank you, Marina, for expressing what I have felt but could not articulate. They will never be able to reclaim these lost childhoods. Hopefully someone will give them your poem to read. And hopefully their hard hearts will understand it.

Anonymous said...

This is a moving commentary on the life of the Gosselin children. Very well written and thought provoking. It says what it is all about in a nutshell. Beautifully done, Marina, thank you for sharing your work.

PTResters said...

Last nights episode really showed a much happier family. Both parents and children seemed to be much more at ease and happy. This made me wonder if just because they have a different childhood than most (or all) of us did, does that necessarily mean that it is as awful and detrimental as everyone is making it out to be? Can't it just be different without being scarring? Isn't it possible that we are all assigning a little bit too much possible detriment based on them having a childhood that none of us can truly relate to or even begin to comprehend?

pokie said...

Jon and Kate should read your poem aloud on their interview couch and end with 'It's never too late. That is why we've decided to end this show.' If only.

Beautifully written. Thanks for sharing it.

Elizabeth said...

This made me wonder if just because they have a different childhood than most (or all) of us did, does that necessarily mean that it is as awful and detrimental as everyone is making it out to be? Can't it just be different without being scarring?
___________________________________

I think this is a really great point - and yes, I think would completely agree with your statement if they had just treated the opportunites they have been given differently. Their whole family situation is something that most cannot relate to, and those differences are what the show is supposed to be about! You know, life with 8 kids and 2 sets of multiples, not 8 kids and tons of freebies. Unfortunately, they have strayed from the original purpose in a way that is hurtful to the children (and sadly, to the entire family and former friends). They have just gone too far. Some judgement, gratitude, and restraint on J&K's part would probably put me on your side. Luckily, there is still time for change and hopefully they will begin to change their behavior for the better (and not just for damage control, but for the kids!).

And the poem is very well written, Marina. Thanks for sharing - it really sums up the whole situation in such an eloquent way.

ThreeFarmers said...

This verse makes me think about how Jon & Kate will never know what their children would have been without the camera effecting everything they say and do.

Truly, does anyone ever say that, "My child could have been so much better, if only they had spend more time in front of the camera."

They will never know how fabulous those children could have been.

Anonymous said...

Honestly, I think this poem is a tad melodramatic. John Irving wrote the following in one of his books: "...in increments both measurable and not, our childhood is stolen from us - not always in one momentous event, but often in a series of small robberies, which add up to the same loss." I believe this statement pertains to every human being. Bottom line, a vast majority of people are scarred by their childhood and come out the other side a better and stronger person. Frankly, I had some crazier parents than these kids and three of the four of us made it out to the other side okay and frankly, our childhoods were stolen by a tad more than the small robberies the Gosselin children face (if I can be melodramatic for a moment). My other sibling is a bit nutty but just goes to show it's all the "un-luck" of the draw.
I know the whole camera arguement and invasion of privacy arguement will come up as well but, to me, it's children "paying for the sins of the father". It stinks but there's a lot of worse sins out there that children pay for every day.
Frankly, at this point in time, I've lost all interest in this family/show and am pretty much apathetic now. Mom's a whack-job, dad's a ball-less wonder, and the kids are slowly morphing into spoiled child-star cliches. There's nothing cute or inspiring to see here anymore.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said:
"Bottom line, a vast majority of people are scarred by their childhood and come out the other side a better and stronger person."
____________________
I tend to agree with this statement wholeheartedly. This is the first time I'm posting here, and frankly I waffle as to whether or not I think J&K are on or off track in their decisions. They are a young couple with a lot of young kids. I tend to think that at the end of the day they may pause to reflect on some of their decisions.

I know that I as a parent wish I could take back many instances in which I did not do the best job I could've done. There are times that I was not the best parent I could be to my children--so, yes, some of their childhood may have been stolen by my decisions. But, they (20, 18 and 13) are confident people with purpose in life and relationships with me and my husband. We talk openly and honestly about good and bad times. We can look back on some of the bad times and recognize that we pulled through as a family together.
Not saying that J&K are at that stage of parenting yet. They are in a malestrom of raising 8 kids under the age of 10. That is more kids than an at-home daycare allows in a home with one caregiver.
They are doing a reality series probably to bring in money and benefits for their family. Would I do it? No. Too private...I wouldn't want to air my dirty laundry to the public. But at some level I believe that they believe that they are doing the best for their kids.
Looking back, I recognize that life with my kids when they were younger was a whirlwind. My oldest son is poised to go into a professional athletic career (yes, he has an agent). Raising him was a challenge--I won't go into it now, but some of our parenting decisions were questioned by our family and friends in relation to his athletic gifts. He pushed us to continue his training...we obliged...and I question whether or not we gave him too much in that respect. But he is that slim margin that got the athletic scholarship, is working toward his pro career, and is following his dream.
This isn't the same for J&K, but the decisions we made were sometimes in the interest of other people (trainers, coaches, teams that needed our son) and not for our son. the same can be said of J&K for allowing the cameras--the short-term decisions may not be in the interest of the kids entirely, but the end result (if they are looking at financial security, etc.) may be for the kids. I can't imagine having a crew and all those people in my house even for a little bit of time. That would drive me nuts....

OK...long post for a first-time poster. Oh, and we live in the PA area where they do, and we have never seen them.

A reality show is what the producers make it. We don't see the whole picture, and probably never will.

Ilovemykids said...

But at some level I believe that they believe that they are doing the best for their kids.

I don't believe that Kate & Jon believe on any level that they are doing what is best for their kids. This show is all about Kate. It ceased to be about the children a long time ago. The children are just props in Kate's "life".

grammier said...

Anonomous quoted >>>Honestly, I think this poem is a tad melodramatic. John Irving wrote the following in one of his books: "...in increments both measurable and not, our childhood is stolen from us - not always in one momentous event, but often in a series of small robberies, which add up to the same loss."<<<

But isn't it up to the good parent to try to keep those events to a minimum, to let the child have as much of a childhood as possible?

The Gosselin kids start out with a loss to begin with because there are so many of them the same age. It is a loss for Mady and Cara, because their time was cut short, not by one baby but by six. It is a loss for the tups, because they are treated as a group, either a group of six or a group of three and three. Then another piece of their childhood is lost to cameras, lights, lack of privacy, constantly being dragged hither, thither and yon, because of the show. They lose another piece to a mother, who is self-centered and never puts them first.

How much is left, when you consider how many pieces have been stolen away?

I've always said that you only get one childhood, and it's up to the parents to give their children a chance to live that childhood.

FIONA said...

Last nights episode really showed a much happier family. Both parents and children seemed to be much more at ease and happy. This made me wonder if just because they have a different childhood than most (or all) of us did, does that necessarily mean that it is as awful and detrimental as everyone is making it out to be? Can't it just be different without being scarring? Isn't it possible that we are all assigning a little bit too much possible detriment based on them having a childhood that none of us can truly relate to or even begin to comprehend?

9/16/2008 4:26 PM

---
Yes, I think it could have been different, without the emotional scarring had Kate been a sane and stable woman to start with and Jon was a strong husband. I definitly agree things could have been much better if Jon and Kate were like that to begin with.

However, even if Kate had a personality like Jodi's and Jon had some testicles, and everything else was the same, the kids would still be being exploited for the puprose of income.

Would they fare better in the future...maybe.

Either way, the kids got a band hand dealt to them. JMO

FIONA said...

Ilovemykids said...
But at some level I believe that they believe that they are doing the best for their kids.

I don't believe that Kate & Jon believe on any level that they are doing what is best for their kids. This show is all about Kate. It ceased to be about the children a long time ago. The children are just props in Kate's "life".

9/17/2008 6:56 AM
----
I certainly DON'T believe that for a second. I do believe that they see this as the best solution for their family. I also believe they see the pitfalls, although don't react to them.

I also think Jon knows Kate is not able to "raise" the kids on her own. The show gives Kate the "tools" she needs to keep her from tipping over.

Anonymous said...

very well written, however the line there are memories to make should be changed to "there is money to make".
I don't watch the show anymore and have written every sponsor/TLC et.al. but love your blogs for their candor, humor and spot on instincts. What truly disturbs me is how afraid the tups are of Kate - let's face it IMHO, anyone who reacts to the extreme Kate does remembers and clearly gets even when the cameras aren't rolling. Her mental abuse is captured every episode but what happens physically manifests itself in the tups behavior...the constant tantrums, crying confusion,screaming and shock i.e., Red White and Gosselin just look at Leah's face when she rips the gum out of her mouth, sorry to take you back to that debacle..so very sad! More importantly those of you who think Kate is changing are drinking the kool aid the Jim Jones PR firm is providing, a leopard like Kate never changes her spots, she just sharpens her claws! Why do you think she is so "sad" they are growing up?? She knows they will begin to articulate the madness that is their lives and she can't continue to say "That's just Mady" Joel, Leah, Collin, Alexis Hannah and Aiden" without someone intervening?? THEY WILL NEVER SEE SCHOOL IF SHE HAS ANYTHING TO SAY ABOUT IT! TO MUCH ACCOUNTABILITY TO TEACHERS WHO WILL SEE RIGHT THROUGH HER HORRIFIC PARENTING SKILLS

Momof2 said...

Sounds like they are going to go right through the money they made off the kids with this big house we keep hearing about. There will not be much money for private school when you have to pay property taxes, utilities, general upkeep on a large house and the show is off the air. They will have to attend public school more than likely one day.

Anonymous said...

FIONA said...I also think Jon knows Kate is not able to "raise" the kids on her own. The show gives Kate the "tools" she needs to keep her from tipping over.

I agree wholeheartedly with this statement, Fiona. Kate is NOT able to raise the kids on her own and Jon does a much better job on the whole with them. (although he does appear dis-engaged a lot of the time)

If I were Jon, I would not feel comfortable leaving those kids with Kate alone. JMO

The Truth Will Set You Free said...

Marina-this poem says it all! Thanks so much for sharing it with us!

Lynn said...

Anonymous said...
Honestly, I think this poem is a tad melodramatic.

I agree. I wish I had the life the kids do. I grew up in a big family (4 brother and 2 sisters) and we never got to go anywhere or do anything. Mommy dearest was too busy drinking her life away or working and Dad was always out working one of his 3 jobs. I have zero memories of my Dad before the age of 10 (unless I seen his come home just to leave again) sometimes I would crawl into bed while he was sleeping just to be able to spend a few minutes with him.
The more I think about my own childhood (and many other like mine) The more I think about how lucky they really are to be able to spend so much time with each other.
Trust me I would have given anything to have what they have.

Anonymous said...

Wow. Thats intense. It's so sad that its such a correct description of these kids lives. Good writing though, it really moved me.