If I could ask Kate to change one thing what would it be?

I'd ask Kate to hold and snuggle each child for at least 5 minutes each and every day and tell them over and over that she loves them and values them and tell them how precious that child is to her as an individual. Then I'd ask her to tell that child at least 5 good things they had done that day to make her proud of them.

79 comments:

Sue said...

I think that's great but I would take it 1 step further. I think she should hold each kids when they are muddy or dirty. I wish she could see the joy on her kids' faces when they have painted or used clay or played hard and are really sweaty and dirty. I wish she would then spontaneously scoop one up and hold him or her tight and say "I'm so proud of you" "Didn't we have FUN!!"

Or..hold one of them tight when they are sick and dirty with vomit and say "I love you and I hope you feel better"!!!

girliegirl said...

PLAY with your children. Playing with them while they are young fosters imagination and creativity, as well as a bonding experience between mother and child. Get on the floor Kate, and PLAY!!!! And please ... please... stop standing over your kids doing your little hand holding pose, being snarky about what's going on while looking at the crew.

Anonymous said...

Sharla, yes this would be nice. It's not going to happen unless Kate has an epiphany (probably through a tragedy or adversity). Even then, probably not because sociopaths cannot learn form past experiences.

Chris said...

I'd ask her to change her mind about continuing on with this show. I'd ask her to please end this obvious exploitation every week and let these kids try to grasp what they can of their childhoods and privacy. Lord knows the world is going to be tough enough for them, let them be for now and just.be.children without the world watching.

Deidra said...

After watching last nights episode of them on the beach. I would tell her 'Kate childhood is all about having FUN!! Being in the sand. Rolling around in the sand. Running in the water with Dad. TRUSTING your Dad with your life in the water.' Plus when I let my kids do projects that make messes I don't stand over them and say 'Look at Mommy aren't you proud I am letting you make messes since I hate them so much?' I say 'Good job!! I am so excited for the pictures I get to hang in the house' As a teacher I would love to have them in my class to nuture and develop their little minds...

ThreeFarmers said...

I would ask Kate to learn to take things in stride. She makes everything into some dramatic scene and that makes life harder on everyone, including herself. Bumping into a fly strip isn't reason enough to scream. Gum on a bear isn't a reason to berate a beloved caregiver and frighten a child. Constantly overreacting to minor events makes her look like she's trying to make herself the center of attention.

Kristee said...

I would ask Kate to give her children their childhoods back. There will be plenty of time for them to have to earn a living for themselves, a four year old shouldn't have to worry about it now.

Kate, the only jobs your kids should have now is having a fun and emotionally secure childhood.

MrsRef said...

I would ask her to just chill out and enjoy her kids. Get down and dirty with them. Be the fun parent. Eat stuff they make you even if it not the most appetizing and stop acting like they are dirty and disgusting. They are your children for goodness sake!!!!!!!!

Ann said...

My simple request for Kate is for her to just shut-up and go away.

Anonymous said...

I would ask that she treats the kids and Jon with respect. I think if that happened, the love would come through.

Carla said...

I would ask her to get into therapy immediately and not quit when they say something she disagrees with.

Nat said...

I would ask her to go see a qualified therapist on a regular basis. IMO I seriously think she may have borderline personality dissorder.

aly,benji n siennas mom said...

ENJOY YOUR BEAUTIFUL KIDS!!!! Play with them, hug them, kiss them, laugh with them, and read to them. Show them respect so that they learn it! Show them love so that can grow up to be loving human beings. Children are only children ONCE you could never get it back so LET them be KIDS. And be a kid with them. The best thing about being a parent is the chance to go back to that particular age and reminisce about your own childhood and how fun it was and how exciting it is to see it now through your child’s eyes. And if your childhood wasn’t pleasant now you have the blessing to recreate it with your kids give them the childhood they deserve. Show them that they are not a unit but individuals and you love them just the way God made them. The world is harsh but now they are kids and it is your job to create a loving reality for them full of markers, crayons, grass stains, fun projects, family trips, Dr. Seuss books and last but not least a life WITHOUT CAMERAS!

Anonymous said...

I would ask her to be honest and take a good look at herself and how she treats her husband and children and others around her. I would ask her to recognize her situation and do something about it. Then ask her to share, since she is already so generous about sharing every private thing about her and her family, to share her findings, revelations, progress with her viewers. I'd ask her to trust God and relax

MsDee

Anonymous said...

There is a program available out there for troubled teens... They are required to live in the wilderness, taught before hand how to survive. Staying alone in the woods and providing for yourself really teaches one to APPRECIATE what they have.
I would ask Kate to go to one of these camps, stay a few weeks... learn to provide for herself (for realz), be okay with being dirty, and spend enough time away from her family to MISS them and realize how much she NEEDS them. Those kids already know all these things... they know how to provide, they know how to enjoy being dirty, and they know how to LOVE and MISS their family. It's Kate's turn to learn these lessons. Maybe she could keep a journal...to always remind her of her experience, then read it to the kids so they hear "I miss my children today, I love them so much. I miss the way Alexis smiles, I miss the way Collin is always so willing to help, I miss the way Aaden makes animal sounds..." etc.

Maybe while Mom's away the kids can enjoy being KIDS...they'd miss her, but they'd all be happier in the long run.

Anonymous said...

I am on board with honestly 99% of the things on this blog - love it. But, seriously, how do you know she doesn't sit down with each child and snuggle for 5 minutes a day? That's a little bit ridiculous to imply you know she doesn't.

Ravello said...

Please try to treat your boys with the save love and attention you shower on Hannah and the girls.
Enjoy your beautiful boys, appreciate them. Stop dissing everything about them. Stop ridiculing Joel.
These lovely boys are healthy, bright and have so much potential. They will flourish if they have their mother's love and support.

Anonymous said...

SInce she is not going to take anyone's advice, nor is she going to change her personality....I'd ask her to close up shop on that weekly show.
We've seen ENOUGH.

pokie said...

I'd ask Kate to sincerely bring family and friends back into their lives; don't use them, don't discard them. It may be too late for some, they may not be willing to forgive Jon & Kate, but if Kate is willing to change, I believe most will eventually come around.

Anonymous said...

If I could change one thing about Kate, it would be that she no longer views her children as revenue generators and out of respect for their privacy and dignity, stops the filming of this show.

Anonymous said...

I'd ask Kate to please forgive the person(s) whose obviously, hurt her in her life. Once she forgives, she'll be able to truly enjoy her family and life in general. She'll be happy and not freak out over the small things that at the end of the day, don't really matter. Kids are smart, she'll regret what she's doing to them.

Steph said...

Love your sons. Joel might need a little extra love, because he is more sensitive than his brothers.

I would also tell her that Joel will wear a "teasing target" on his back for his entire childhood if she and Jon don't stop berating him. You know what happens to some "teasing targets"? Hint: Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold. Or, if that doesn't shake you out of it, google Kip Kinkel. I am DEAD serious.

JellyBelly said...

Anonymous said...
I am on board with honestly 99% of the things on this blog - love it. But, seriously, how do you know she doesn't sit down with each child and snuggle for 5 minutes a day? That's a little bit ridiculous to imply you know she doesn't.
When she states with her own mouth that she can't remember if she interacted with each child in a day's time then I would imagine that she doesn't snuggle with them because that would be something you'd remember.

I too would like Kate to get into therapy, individual, couple, family and also to work with her pastor in repairing the ties with her and Jon's parents and siblings. Get off the TV go to therapy and then have a catch up with the Gosselin's special family reunion and there will be all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, and they'd be also inviting all the people in PA that assisted them in their time of "need" by inviting them too.

Anonymous said...

I totally empathized with poor little Joel. When I was his age, I wouldn't go near the water. And then one summer, I was probably about 6 or 7 (we were attending a day camp) I saw one of the counselors take another kid and put him in the water - man, was he howling. After all these years, I still remember it like it was yesterday.

Children don't forget - they may not talk about it, but they don't forget.

Anonymous said...

In one episode, I think it was the jousekeeper hunt, Kate was actually downstairs enjoying the kids. They were putting together a large puuzzle on the floor, and she actually looked like she was enjoying it. I wish we would see more of thoe moments. Like reading a storybook to the kids.

Sue said...

Re: It's ridiculous to assume Kate doesn't snuggle her kids.:

If she does snuggle them alot and it is never shown on the show then shame on TLC for setting Kate up for ridicule. Sure, they show her playing with her kids but it is always a planned activity that seems like a setup. She seems so completely stressed when she has to do an activity with them. I wish she could relax.

I love the roughing it in the woods idea. Maybe she could cancel the show and just go on Survivor. That way she can make some money and miss/appreciate her family all at once.

Anonymous said...

Someone above commented that she should eat what her kids make for her. I agree. Didnt Kon say they have a rule never to eat what a child makes. Honestly, I think that's really sad.

One morning my son got up and was VERY excited because he thought up a breakfast sandwich all by himself and wanted to make it for me.

He made me a: hummus, peanut butter, mustard, cream cheese sandwich with Cherrio's on top. While I cant admit that I ate the whole thing, I ate a good deal of it...with a smile on my face. It gave my son such joy to watch me eat his special sandwich and I ate it because my son was creative and it made him happy. It makes me sad that these kids are so judged and spoken to with such annoyance by her. I enjoyed the show for a while, but I'm pretty much done listening to her whine, nag, judge, correct, order around and make fun of everyone around her, including her own precious children.

ThreeFarmers said...

A young chef once made me a peanut butter, onion, and Miracle Whip sandwich and, ya know, it wasn't nearly as bad as I expected it to be. When kids make you something like that, they do it for one reason only. The want you to approve of their efforts to make you happy. I can't imagine what it would feel like to have a parent reject that sort of effort. My father always ate the crap I made for him.

tmc said...

As a woman who does not have her own children and longs to feel the love a child, I would tell Kate... Don't take them for granted, enjoy them, love them, relax and have fun with them. Don't try to mold them into something YOU want them to be, let them grow to be what THEY want to be -- Loving human beings.

Jennifer said...

I would ask her to take suggestions from her husband, and other mothers (even some of us here at GWoP, strangers though we may be) with an open mind and heart. This includes listening, really listening, when Jon speaks, especially when he encourages her to allow the kids to be kids. That is one thing I love about Jon. Also, I would love it if Kate really examined her actions, words, and mothering style HONESTLY, and that includes everything from playing favorites with the kids to lying to the general public about their financial situation. Honesty and introspection- that is what I would love to really see from Katie Irene.

Grammier said...

Kate needs to take some time each day to enjoy each child, either separately or in a group of two. Sit with a child or two on her lap, and read a story. Take the time to play a board game with the twins. Tuck every single child into bed with a kiss and a "sleep tight" every night. Kids don't remember every trip or planned experience, but they remember a mom who read them a story and tucked them in at night.

Anonymous said...

To get up, pack her bags and leave Jon and the kids and not return.

Anonymous said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gGf1WZmOhMk&feature=related



an interesting parody on all the things kate should change--and out of the mouths of babes no less!

Carolina said...

Please, Kate, watch how you act around towards Jon around your kids. They're picking up and responding to that behavior with each other. If you don't respect yourself, your husband, your marriage, or your kids, what the hell kind of example is that for eight innocent children?

Anonymous said...

I would ask Kate to watch the episode taking the kids to The Chocolate Factory, and realize how she has changed. That epi was so charming and seemingly innocent, Kate was fairly normal and Carla was in it. Nice to see a familiar face and a well meaning friend, not a hired hand. Kate should evaluate herself from then to now. The change is shocking, and not for the positive. It's terribly sad Kon likely will not realize it until it is too late to change it. Very sad.

Anonymous said...

to STOP using the gender stereotypes! The negitive affect it can have on her children can be far reaching and dangerous, by calling your son a girl as an insult, you have just sent a negitive comment to your five daughters as well, teaching them that they are less than their brothers. Real good life lesson, good enough to cause some serious therapy later on. It could affect frienships/ relationships/career choices in the future, because as a child they grew up hearing that girls and boys are unable to do the same thing, that showing fear/emotion is "girlish" and that trucks and cars are things only boys like, and heaven forbid you step outside your genderbox, that is just WRONG and you deserve to be mocked mercilessly on national tv if you try.

merryway said...

I would have to ask her: Why were you able to go all the way to CA for hair plugs for Jon but there in your own hometown did not accompany any of the boys for their special day? She made it for all the girls. I just can't get this one out of my head. To me, it is proof that's something's not right there with her and the boys. It's hard for me to grasp this behavior. It was supposed to be a day for both parents to spend time with each child individually and all by themselves. I wouldn't have missed it for the world.

merryway said...

Oh and one more...Why oh why do you pull and rush your children on the outings. The Thomas show and Fourth of July come to mind immediately. It bothers me so much to see her stressing the kids in this way. She stresses them out like this and then doesn't understand their meltdowns.


Also, I just have to give kudos to some of the posters who have described the things they have eaten that their children made. My stomach curled when I read it, but I was picturing little happy proud faces. I could nibble and pretend, but I don't think I could choke down some of the things that were described. As much as I love them, it doesn't change my taste buds or my stomach's reaction. Cheers to you ones that can do that. Their creative food made me smile and I'm sure that your children were so pleased and proud of themselves.

Anonymous said...

Remember that one of your main jobs as a parent (besides caring for them and keeping them safe...there is no doubt you do that well) is to be a role model for your children. A ROLE MODEL! Because of this, stop those many behaviors that future spouses and society at large do NOT want to witness in your children when they become adults. Standing on the sidelines with your hands on your hips and yelling at the top of your lungs springs to mind instantly.

Sue said...

The previously mentioned youtube video is a riot!! Watch it! I hope Kate watches it too. These kids do a dead-on impression of Jon and Kate!

ThreeFarmers said...

I would ask Kate to watch the episode taking the kids to The Chocolate Factory, and realize how she has changed. That epi was so charming and seemingly innocent, Kate was fairly normal and Carla was in it. Nice to see a familiar face and a well meaning friend, not a hired hand. Kate should evaluate herself from then to now. The change is shocking, and not for the positive. It's terribly sad Kon likely will not realize it until it is too late to change it. Very sad.

I saw that yesterday, as well, except Kate did say that they could only afford Carla a couple days a week. So, Carla was definitely paid help.

Anonymous said...

Yes, the survivor camp in the wilderness would be good for Kate. Learn to appreciate how good you have it by not having it all handed to you for a while. Learn that dirt won't, in fact, kill you or your kids. Learn that screeching at your fellow survivors to "heeellloooo" help me won't get you anywhere so you might as well shut up and do it yourself. I think that is a tremendous idea. I also think there is about as much chance of that as me being the next prime minister. Too bad on both counts.

FIONA said...

I would plead with her to seek the advice of someone in mental health.

I go back and forth on weather or not Kate knows that things could be better for her.

It is a sad situation when someone is suffering and you know that there is help out there for them. I am not a doctor. I do have common sense and have had family members who suffer with chemical imbalances of the brain, depression and anxiety.

Kate, you can get better if you want to. I hope someone in your family still loves you enough, including Jon to help you get the help you need.

This in turn would make you a better mommy, a better wife, and a better person.

With that said, I think you and Jon would hopefully make better decsions with your beautiful children.

No one is happy when Mama's not happy.

Peace to you Kate.

FIONA said...

Anonymous said...
In one episode, I think it was the jousekeeper hunt, Kate was actually downstairs enjoying the kids. They were putting together a large puuzzle on the floor, and she actually looked like she was enjoying it. I wish we would see more of thoe moments. Like reading a storybook to the kids.

8/19/2008 5:12 PM

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I remember that epi., and I disagree. She looked like a fish out of water...like she had never seen or done that puzzle before. She made a comment to the kid about her knowing where the piece went, Kate acted like she didn't. That is my perspective of that situation.

cardamom said...

If I could ask Kate to change one thing it would be:
Please let your kids be kids!
That includes getting messy sometimes and not having to work for a living (such as having cameras in their faces 3-4 days a week and being dragged hither, tither and yon for the sake of a TV show).

Anonymous said...

I would tell her to continue the show, but to be mindful of her children's need for privacy (no more of the implied or actual nudity scenes, respect Mady's need to NOT be on camera, etc.).

Why would I tell her to continue the show? In the hope that even if she is faking it for the purpose of damage control, she is actually making an effort to be with the children.

Kate's general fear of life and all things in it has been challenged more since she started the show than in all her other years combined. Does she rise to the challenge? Sometimes, sometimes not. But, think about it, if the show had never happened, do you think those children would EVER have been allowed to play in the sand? It would have been too easy for Kate to say "No, we're never going to the beach, it's messy/dirty/etc."...and that would have been the end of it.

At least with the show the kids can experience a life less sheltered.

Anonymous said...

Personally, I have no questions to ask of Kate. I wouldnt believe one word out of that newly whitened teeth mouth of hers. I have no desire to hear her reasoning behind or her justification of exploiting her children for monetary gain. I have no questions for her, just three words. SHAME ON YOU!

axiom said...

I have been reading your blog lately and have found it extremely informative. I stumbled across when I started having serious doubts and questions about the Gosselins and the way their financial situation and family life were being portrayed on the TLC show.

I remembered that on a previous season's episode, the Brown quintuplets were featured as friends of the family. I ran a basic Google search on the family to see if they were in the same class as the Gosselins. It seems they are not. Here is the article I found and wanted to share:

http://readingeagle.com/article.aspx?id=57224

I am not on a witch-hunt, nor do I feel inclined to probe any further into the lives of either family. Upon reading the article, there seemed be certain disparities that jumped right out at me. This family is from Berks County, PA.

For one, the children have been placed in a regular school setting, and have seperated into two groups. I was impressed with this because there seemed to be the foresight that they needed to reach outside their collective sibling unit in order to start assimilating with other children their age.

The other detail I noticed was that the mother plans on returning to school and to work.

Why do I mention this? There has been much speculation on the GWOP blog regarding whether the tups will be home-schooled or placed in traditional school setting (ie. public or private school). It seems to me that the speculation is mostly due to how that will affect the filming of the show and their mother, Kate Gosselin.

It would be nice if the Gosselins could take a cue from the Browns and place their children in a traditional school setting where they can expand their social skills and make friends.

I also think it would it be phenomenal if Kate Gosselin returned to nursing on a part-time basis so that she can set a good example to her growing children about strong work ethics, financial responsibility, hard work and independance.

Anonymous said...

I would ask Kate why she didnt go with Jon and the boys on their special days. That has always bothered me as to why Kate didnt go with. Jon went on all the girls' outings.

tpk said...

I would say - Hug your children. Kiss them. Hold them and let them know how much they are loved and valued. Valued for who they ARE.

Anonymous said...

Quit belittling Jon and treating him like a slave and quit yelling "Hellooooooooooooooooooo" to Jon when he doesn't jump when you say jump

Mimi said...

I would ask Kate to learn to love children and not just babies. It's true that babies just sit around and don't do too much and children are everywhere and into everything. But to parent a child (not just a baby) is so rewarding.

Anonymous said...

I would ask her to not get grossed out when they want to play in the sand at the beach (their latest vacation) and not dread that she has to hose them all off when the day ends. Just enjoy that they are feeling sad between their toes and fingers and playing and have a good time. My husband and I can't wait to get down and dirty with them in the sand and even do "sand angels". we know it can be washed off in the ocean and so why not let them just have fun and not comment on it. I don't care if she has 8 to hose off, she has a babysitter to help her and free clothes to change into.

Anonymous said...

I would ask Kate to sit down and watch the "Kids by the Dozen" program about the Gonya family of Massachusetts. They have 12 kids. I just saw it on TLC. It showed them getting ready for Dad's 40th birthday party, and also the sadness that the oldest is leaving for college. He made a video for Mom to cheer her up, and had all of the younger ones tell why they love her. The eight year old said that he loved her because she is "always kind to me...even when I'm fresh." She DID have to give everyone jobs and everyone scampered around getting ready for the birthday. After all, they were hosting a guest list of about 150-200 people for the party. They did this themselves. All pitched in. Yes, they are older than the Gosselin kids; but it was great to watch them interact with one another. The Dad even mentioned that people sometimes think it must be stressful with so many in the family; but he described it as being peaceful and a lot of love in that house. What a great family. No...the Mom didn't look like she was a model...she looked like a well-worn loving and thankful Mom. They both expressed that they were blessed to have the other one as a spouse and how thankful they are for their kids. It looked like the kind of family that you'd just love to be a part of. They were just real people, good natured, and they all seem to "roll with the punches". It was so refreshing. I would have Kate watch that program and take it to heart how they interact and how they live with simple pleasures and lots of fun on their property.

Anonymous said...

I'm not sure if those link was posted already, but way back in 2005, when the tups were just 1 yr old, folks in PA were complaining about the "ungrateful" Gosselins:

http://internetservices.readingeagle.com/blog/mother/archives/2005/05/here_we_go_agai.html

Just wait till they get to NC!

Anonymous said...

The children are going to preschool. Why does everyone keep saying that they are not?

Anonymous said...

I would like Kate to realize how great she has it, take their annual 2 week trip to NC and have that be the only time the kids are filmed all year, like the Dilley annual updates. Stay in PA, mend fences with your families so that the kids grow up with cousins, aunts and uncles. Get real jobs when the little kids start school -I'd even be cool with them waiting until they hit first grade - just get a job, any job!

keithstalker said...

When my kids were that age we had FUN! I made sure of it. I was home all day with them while my hubby worked. I was able to get my chores done and food on the table in time. Most of the time I would combine my chores into play. I would include all my kids and have them help and make it fun for them. Same goes for cooking - I would involve them so they were able to help and have fun at the same time. I did not care if things did not get done around the house. The important thing for me was to be attentive to my kids, get down and dirty and play with them, teach them, take them places and make sure they were in a good place and felt good about it. I can't tell you how many times I'd be up til after midnight doing laundry etc. BUT, even today I wouldn't change it for the world!! She's going to be very sorry one of these days when her kids are independant of her. I bet she'll be wishing she had done many things differently.

Barbara said...

I would suggest to Kate that she stop portraying herself as a Christian while showing not one iota of Christian behavior toward anyone. She and those like her hurt the name of Christianity more than they could imagine.

ThreeFarmers said...

I would suggest to Kate that she stop portraying herself as a Christian while showing not one iota of Christian behavior toward anyone. She and those like her hurt the name of Christianity more than they could imagine.

In the name of the Farmer, the Farmer, and the other Farmer.

Amen.

Staff said...

I noticed that in one episode, Kate remarked that at the end of some days, it has been so hectic, she or they don't even know if they've given certin children a hug that day. That SCREAMS of their busy-ness with other things. No, I am not referring to the physical labor of keeping up with a house and family, because she has help with that stuff. Most of us never had a husband home all day and hired nannies, cleaning help, etc....I mean that she is not making her family/kids her whole world. I think she ought to do that while they are so little.
Also, just to let everyone relax about the boys...They DO read this stuff--therefore in the upcoming episodes, you will see damage control on that, too. Suddenly, they will be lavishing attention on the boys. It will all be staged, but at the time, the boys will get at least some little benefit.

Anonymous said...

Hey. People we don't write the articles. Make sure you have all the facts before you comment. Also do you believe everything you read in the newpaper or see on television. Do you believe everything on the internet? Also the Pittsburgh article is from a columnist not a journalist big difference. Until you walked in our shoes don't tell us anyhting about your life. You must compare apples and apples. The State made us promises and then took them away. How would you feel if you depended on something and it was taken from you? At the last minute. No planning. I think people should realize what is happening. Most people stand idly by and watch and never ask. So don't sterotype us. That's just plain ignorant. The media will make us out to who they want us to be. Lets remember the care is for my six kids not for the twins or my wife and I. Let me tell you its a scary thing putting privacy out there. You can't hide someone will always find you. You have to weigh the whole situation. Finally, I will do everything and anything for my family especially my kids.

Posted by: Jonathan at May 20, 2005 01:34 PM
Well, according to this newspaper column, they considered it "scary" putting their privacy out there. Guess they got over that.

Anonymous said...

I wish Kate would stop talking to the cameras, narrating what it happening while it is happening or making snarky comments about her kids. Just get in there, be normal, ignore the cameras and have fun with your kids!

Moons in Leo said...

Please, woman, stop chewing your cud!
Stop chewing gum! Certainly after "Gumgate" it is even less attractive, and that's saying something.
Stop being condescending to people who are just being nice; i.e. the conductor at the Strasburg Train Museum.
The world owes you NOTHING. You are not special because you had a litter of children.

Anonymous said...

"Also, just to let everyone relax about the boys...They DO read this stuff--therefore in the upcoming episodes, you will see damage control on that, too. Suddenly, they will be lavishing attention on the boys. It will all be staged, but at the time, the boys will get at least some little benefit."

I find no reassurance or comfort in knowing that in upcoming episodes we will be seeing a staged effort on the part of J & K in giving more 'love' and attention toward the boys. The fact that it requires them (J&K) reading a blog and 'damage control' to convince viewers that the boys are given equal affection and attention is rather disturbing in and of itself. Viewers have already been witness to the fact, attempts by way of 'damage control' and staged efforts will only result in viewers becoming more critical and questioning their TRUE intentions.

Anonymous said...

I would tell Kate to take a trip to a small village in central Africa, or to the ghettos of NYC and see how true hardship effects children every day.

There are young girls and boys who would cry tears of joy just to have a pair of shoes to wear, or clean clothes, or feminine products. I don't think their parents would turn items down because they didn't match or were not new.

To whom much is given, much is expected. Think about that, Kate!

Anonymous said...

I would make Jon and Kate volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter for a few hours a week every week, as a condition of getting paid by TLC. They should see how others live. All the Gosselins do is take and take and take. I would like to see them give back. They already spend all of their time with their children. Most parents of large families don't get to spend time with their children because they're always working.

Anonymous said...

I think the ultimate damage control (Figure 8 are you listening?) would be to have an episode devoted entirely to KON donating stuff to a local church or orphanage. The episode would start off with Kate going on and on about how they've wanted to do this for the longest time, but that they have just been so busy. This would be followed by an inordinate amount of time sifting through items to be donated, with Kate fussing about making sure everything is immaculately clean. And then they would load the items into the van (of course the kids would help). After all items are delivered, we see Kate in the van wiping her brow saying how "good she felt" helping others, and turning around to the kids and saying "now this is how we help others." To top off the episode, Kate is shown bringing boxes of homemade cookies to a local senior citizen's home, interspersed with shots of her preparing the cookies and placing them in the oven. Now that would be damage control!

Anonymous said...

With regard to the comment about the ultimate damage control - one scene would show Katey G. holding an overloaded box of goodies for the orphanage, calling Jon "H E L L O O O O O. I need some help here!!!" Fade to black.

sabrinasmom said...

I think the ultimate damage control (Figure 8 are you listening?) would be to have an episode devoted entirely to KON donating stuff to a local church or orphanage. The episode would start off with Kate going on and on about how they've wanted to do this for the longest time, but that they have just been so busy. This would be followed by an inordinate amount of time sifting through items to be donated, with Kate fussing about making sure everything is immaculately clean. And then they would load the items into the van (of course the kids would help). After all items are delivered, we see Kate in the van wiping her brow saying how "good she felt" helping others, and turning around to the kids and saying "now this is how we help others." To top off the episode, Kate is shown bringing boxes of homemade cookies to a local senior citizen's home, interspersed with shots of her preparing the cookies and placing them in the oven. Now that would be damage control!

It would be damage control, but it would all be fake.

I don't know what's worse, the contrived show as is or trying to portray them as caring.

I would like them to air an episode that showed a real day in their lives - all the nannies, assistants, chefs, etc. The sad thing is I think all the people who defend Jon and Kate would still find no problem with any of it.

Anonymous said...

Kate, I would just say that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. It's still not too late.

Anonymous said...

What Jon and Kate should to is spend an hour a week every week serving the poor at a soup kitchen... and they should spend two hours a week every week visiting those who live in nursing homes. And of course they should show the viewing audience Jon and Kate's servants.

Anonymous said...

For Heavens sake quit bitching and enjoy your Vacations!! I am watching the Utah trip and all she has done is complain and say that she enjoys staying in and doing laundry. Here is an idea... next TLC sponsored trip you come do my laundry in my house and I go enjoy a trip, spa, etc. Oh- now at the end she is saying how gratefull she is - blah blah. Too little lip service too late.

4girlsoneboy said...

I am sorry if this is posted in the wrong section - but, to be honest, I just didn't know where else to put it. Anyway, I was wondering how many watched last night's rerun of the Gonya Family as they prepared for their Dad's surprise 40th birthday party. I just love that family - the love they all display for one another was awe inspiring. I kept thinking that I hoped Jon and Kate might have watched to see how real people live their day to day lives. The mother is so hard working. Can you imagine Kate up painting a building? The kids' thoughts on the video the oldest boy made for his mom was outstanding. It just made me think of what "could have been" with the Gosselins.

Travis said...

I would ask Kate to dismount her high horse. Everybody is tired of the "society" attitude without anything to back it up (grammar and manners). You may have money but I've never seen a hearse pulling a U-Haul. Get your priorities straight now!!

Anonymous said...

GO RIGHT NOW and call your sister-in-law, Jodi and your "bestest friend", Beth and humbly appologize to them.
Ask their forgiveness. Make amends.
Turn your life around now and they will forgive you.

Anonymous said...

I thought that Kate should volunteer to train service dogs for the disabled. I was riding the local train and I saw a woman with a service dog. I asked her if she was training the dog and she said, "Yes." I then asked her how much it costs to train a service dog, and she said that she volunteered. I thought that Kate should do that to give back. The woman then said that she volunteered to train dogs because she loves dogs. I then thought that Kate couldn't volunteer to train service dogs because Kate only loves Kate.

Judy said...

My suggestion to Kate would be to go someplace alone for a weekend with her bible. Pray, meditate, clear your mind! Read the sermon on the mount. Is your life in line with Christ's teachings? If you call yourself a Christian, then walk the walk. Right now, my sister, you're not.

Hollie22 said...

If I could ask Kate to change one thing what would it be...........
TO START CALLING A DONATION BY IT'S NAME AND NOT CALL IT A BLESSING!!!! For the kind people who send money and gifts, this as a slap in their face. On Oprah she stated that buying paper towels was a hardship and one day a miracle occcured- there was paper towel left on the porch for them. Kate- someone dug deep into their pocket to pay for them and you call it a miracle, totally removing yourself from the fact that someone else deserves credit. God does not go to target and buy your children clothes and mail them to you, real actual human beings do. I would never say that the will of another is a blessing from God. It's another way to not feel like they are accepting charity. I could go on but this subject burns me the most, I'm sure the people sending money and gifts are not always affluent like the Gosselins have become and I hate to see someones hard earned cash go to an ungrateful cause. I'm sure they appreciate it in some form but only if it's brand new and matching.