The show has been cute, but...

Know I'm real big into not judging, especially since when you're dealing with TV ("reality" or not), the footage you are seeing is edited.

However, editing cannot insert the negative condescending words and troubled glances given by the stars of the TLC hit Jon & Kate Plus 8 that I see every single episode. I watch the show for the kids (they're entertaining and adorable) and so I worry for them, mostly since viewing the latest episodes and learning that there will be at least 50 new episodes in the future.

Like many I have heard, I usually record the show and watch the the kids in their antics and am delighted by how they've grown (I skip the parts with Jon and Kate arguing), and it's like in a way visiting a cousin. Then lately I was thinking about those kids and even though I love the show, I love the kids even more (not in the creepy way that some viewers my love them... which brings me to one of my points).

My point is that in the childrens' best interest the show should not be continued. The show has been cute, but now you are seeing the ill effects of having your family plastered all over the TV screen. Not only is a dangerous amount of information available to creepy stalkers or even pedophiles, but to make it worse seemingly innocent footage of the 'tups using the toilet or taking a bath are available to these people. This puts these kids in more danger than most kids.

Also as they get older the issue of having your personal life plastered where any kid at school can see it can be very damaging. When the twins go to school have you ever considered that the reason Mady comes home so cranky may be because the kids at school can watch her have a tantrum and go through her "issues" as well as hear her parents discuss her? That cannot be healthy. You can already tell that Cara is not a fan of the camera and tries to avoid it, but the little ones are so used to it, they actually don't even know what a normal life is. They'll start school soon and they'll have to go through the embarrassment too.

I just feel for the Gosselin kids and want the best for them as I hope their parents do. Maybe they're too overwhelmed with the fame and money that the show is bringing them and do not see the damage they could potentially be doing to the kids? Maybe they don't care. I think we need to allow ourselves to try to get our opinions and concerns for the children voiced without it being overwhelmed by some bitterness and meanness towards the Gosselins. After all, it is about those precious kids, right?

Submitted for publication by Wendy.

33 comments:

NS said...

see, Wendy, that's all anybody's sayin'.

sugarjay said...

I always wonder how J & K are not more worried about freaks and weirdos. On the Christmas episode, Kate said she accepts gifts for the kids from fans. I definately wouldn't be encouraging people who might be stalkerish or obsessive if I was her. To me, it's kind of bizarre to Christmas shop for people you only know because of their television show.

But the thing that really got my attention is that they actually tell people where Alexis is alone sleeping every night. IMO, that's totally crossing a line and whoever was in charge of that tidbit making it onto television is a as big a freaking moron as J & K. These are people who go through the trouble of covering up the kids names on their backpacks (when anyone who watches the show can tell which tup is who anyway) and then they go on national television and tell the world their four year old kid sleeps alone in the basement every night. Guess that's just a little more "twisted" Gosselin thinking.

I do think the show exploits the kids and is not a healthy situation for children to be in but my concerns about the safety of the kids is the main reason I think the show should be cancelled.

FIONA said...

What a wonderful post. Thanks for saying what most of us on this blog feel.

We honestly do care about the children. We feel their pain, embarassment and frustrations. We are just hoping that Jon and Kate could have as much empathy for their own children.

Anonymous said...

Unless something really horrible happens, TLC ain't ending this show. No channel would end a ratings winner like J&K. Not even for the well being of eight little kids. As far as J&K is concerned, they are probably stuck till their current contract is up.

The Truth Will Set You Free said...

I agree completely. That's another reason members of the family are upset about Jodi being replaced as the caregiver. She was a voice for the children. She actually approached those involved with filming/producing and questioned them about things she was concerned about involving the children. Jon and Kate are too busy striking the next deal to even notice. Jodi made sure that the camera time in her home was limited, so the children could relax and have a break. Her only motive in being involved with the show was to be an advocate for the children. She was the voice of reason. Her home was a calm getaway for the kids.She is a loving, nurturing, caring person, and above all, she is their FAMILY. Now the kids will be watched by a stranger in their own home, with no escape from the filming. No place to go to take a break.

Maybe Jodi did question some things, and I'm sure Kate didn't appreciate any other opinions. It seems like Kate has cut out everyone from their lives who would have a "right" to voice their opinions--people who actually saw all of the off camera things that go on. Maybe she doesn't want to be held accountable to anyone? I know another caregiver had questioned some things/voiced an opinion about concerns for the children-same fate. There is NO ONE left to stand up for what's best for these children. The only people they have to get advice from are people who are making money off of them. Their "hired" people don't care about the kids as much as they care about making money. If many people think what they see on camera is bad, imagine what it's like when the cameras are off. I'm just heartbroken that the kids have now lost one of the most important people in their lives. Someone who has always put their needs about her own. That is the main reason that I feel compelled to speak out. IMO, keeping quiet will cause more harm than coming forward and bringing these issues to light.

katja said...

Word to that, Truth. Thank you for enlightening us on the reality of this reality show. Just confirms what we see on the screen. Jon and Kate are too busy striking while the iron is hot to amass as much notoriety and bucks as they can to attend to the needs and issues of their children. They are building their empire on the backs of their children, oblivious at best, or uncaring at worst, to any negative effects to them.

Anonymous said...

"The Truth Will Set You Free", how does Jodi feel about you commenting publicly on the situation? Does she support you in doing so?

Anonymous said...

I agree completly,i used to be a huge fan but after watching a few more episodes and doing some reading online i feel like this woman is just in it for free stuff.Did she not read the open letter the quints who were born in the 30's sent Time magazine?

The Truth Will Set You Free said...

Jodi and Kevin are in full support of my blog. Other members of the family have also contacted them and are in support. I also know that Jon is aware of my blog and actually said that he doesn't care what I'm saying. J&K know that I'm not a hateful person, and I won't cross any lines. I'm sure what I am talking about is the least of their worries in getting out. I'm not trying to "bring them down", and I'm being very selective in what I discuss.

uppityredhead said...

sugarjay made an excellent point about broadcasting where Alexis sleeps alone every night. Can you say 'Elizabeth Smart?'

Anonymous said...

Alexis is not sharing the basement by herself. I think that Jon is also sleeping down there with her. The marriage is strained and I think that Jon may be residing on the futon.

Anonymous said...

Kate has no problem making unkind comments about her own husband and children on national TV, week after week. But, hey, it's OK because that's just the way she is. Perhaps Kate and Jon should consider using their dynamic personalities to make their own show, one that doesn't involve their children. They will have to think of a way to keep the money coming in after interest in the current show wears thin or the kids get old enough to refuse to participate in this nonsense anymore. J&K can't really think their children are their permanent meal ticket, can they? These two nitwits make me ill.

Anonymous said...

On one of the episodes with the pop up "extra info" it was said that some random person recognizes the kids when they go out like every two minutes or some ridiculous timeframe like that. What parent would think that is an appropriate situation? The kids are basically being given the choice of being cooped up in the house all day (for safety) or out where tons of strangers know their names. Not an optimal situation by any means.

Special Needs Parent said...

Ok. Serious medical questions about the kids that I have been wondering for a while. They never address any of the kids' issues or medical needs.

Are the kids still on breathing treatments? I remember seeing them with the neublizers when they were younger. I was just curious if their resperatory issues have resolved or not. I know that asthma can be common in preemies.

I remember in one of their documentaries that one of the twins was dropped off by a smaller school bus that is typically used for special needs kids. Was one of them in a special needs preschool program of some sort? I see in one of the twins (sorry, there are so many names that I do not want to mess them all up) that there are some autistic/sensory disorder characteristics. Her meltodwns are typical for a child on the spectrum and familiar. Is she getting help and support for her meltdowns and behavior issues? I read she is now going to a private school. Does the school have support for her? It breaks my heart to see her like that and her parents do not seem to address it or do anything to help her. I am sure you can figure out which twin I am talking about.

Also, with some of the "tups", I see some speech delays and some autism spectrum/sensory issues (especially in one of the boys). Are the parents doing anything as far as Early Intervention or therapies or services through the school to address this? Have they been evaluated developmentally at all? It just seems like they never address that part that seems so glaringly in need of being looked into.

I am sorry but I do not buy that they have no issues. I teach special needs pre-school and have a child who is on the spectrum and a child with ADHD. I see some glaring red flags in the twins and the "tups". I just hope that if and when learning delays at school come up that they deal with it appropriately instead of just yelling at the kids. It seems like Kate would be the type who would yell at them instead of figuring out the root of the issue.

Anonymous said...

Several people have mentioned that they believe Kate has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and how people with that NPD rarely seek treatment. It seems that Kate is isolating herself more and more from those who love them. With so many family members aware of the problems, I wonder if something like an "intervention" might work, similar to those used with people who have a drug or alcohol addiction. Betty Ford is one person who benefitted greatly from this approach, and went on to help many others. If done with love, it can be a powerful tool.

Anonymous said...

further to Sugarjay's point - what about the fact that Truth has noted that strangers have found Jodi's house and approached her. What is to stop them from finding the Gosselin's house - whose children frequently play in front on the driveway and in the open garage. Is that not worrisome that they could be potentially approached by 'fans' that want to take their picture or talk to them - in front of their own home??

Anonymous said...

I wonder what, if any, ramifications will ultimately result over the course of time on to J & K and TLC/Figure 8. Obviously, what we see and hear today about this family currently is a far cry from the concept and image that we saw when this show originally aired. How will the obvious ego and money driven persona we see in J & K today affect their future ventures ie. speaking engagements, DVD sales, and book sales not to mention the longevity of their 'reality show'. As episodes progressed J & K have become less and less relatable to the typical American family with the in your face freebies, vanity procedures, and luxery vacations. Even the appeal and focus of the children have fallen to the way side due to the intrusion of advertising and product placement that is apparant in every episode. The show is no longer about a day in the life of J & K + 8 but episode after episode of 'infomercial' promoting everything from hair transplant surgery , teeth whitening procedures, to local businesses and restaurants. IMO, J & K have sold their souls to the devil for the sake of the all mighty $$ and no longer remotely represent anything appealing or relatable to their viewing audience. Quite the contrary as they are fastly becoming the epitome of what so many detest about American culture and society.

FIONA said...

TRUTH,

So basically there is no one left on the "inside" to look out for the kids best interests??? This is terrible. What are your suggestions or ideas as to how a group of people can help?

I don't buy that Jon doesn't care about this blog. I would bet my last dollar he reads it several times a day...right JON???

What will it take?

Caitlin said...

I for one have stopped watching the show. It's gotten to the point where I can absolutely not stand it anymore. I think the last time I watched was when they got that free trip to Colorado. But I must admit I caught the first ten minutes of "Girl's Day Out" and remembered exactly why I no longer watch. It's a shame what has happened to this family and how awful the parents have become because of it. I just wonder how long this contract is...atleast another year? The ratings have to be dipping because this show is no longer about what we "fell in love with" and is just about Jon and Kate sitting in that chair, making faces at eachother, complaining, nagging, etc. as they talk about what happened in this episode. Sooooo much fun! I really do hope they saved up all the money they have made from this show along with the money they're making from that ridiculous schedule they have of going from church to church for more money. These people are awful and it truly angers me that TLC is continuing this chirade, not to mention creating this "evil monster" to begin with.

FIONA said...

TRUTH,

Would you sat Kate has changed and cracked under the pressure, or would you say she just hid it better in the early shows?

Do you think Kate did in fact want another set of multiples?

Anonymous said...

Before I ever found this blog, I was beginning to be uncomfortable with this show. One episode in particular really got me and I think the discomfort it caused is very nicely discussed by Wendy.

When an episode happened where I saw Mady have an absolute meltdown, it just gripped my heart. And my problem wasn't so much that Kate or Jon were ugly to her or spoke harshly or said mean things, because none of that happened that I saw. What bothered me most was just the mere fact that I was observing this little girl lose it in front of millions of viewers. I thought to myself "how is this little girl going to feel when she grows up and all of her 'bad' moments are documented on tape?" I wouldn't be happy, were it me.

I mean, let's face it, we all have less than stellar moments. But usually we can try to learn from them and move on with some modicum of dignity. Most of us aren't destined to carry those bad moments around with us like an albatross around our necks for the rest of our lives. But not these kids - oh no.

I just wonder how they can possibly grow up and relate to people on an equal footing? You know what I mean - when two people start out a friendship - it is a learning process as we each learn about the other person. How hard is it to form a relationship when one party already knows the other party's dirty laundry?

I think even if K&J were perfect parents who gave out perfect discipline, encouragement, nurturing, etc., these children are still going to grow up resentful that their every emotion has been pimped out for others' entertainment. That is just wrong.

So anyway - it got me to looking around the web, somehow I stumbled on your blog, and now I really get it.

moi said...

On one of the episodes with the pop up "extra info" it was said that some random person recognizes the kids when they go out like every two minutes or some ridiculous timeframe like that. What parent would think that is an appropriate situation?
The kind of parent who gets off on the attention multiples bring to the parent. It's! All! About! Them! (clap loudly in-between each word)

Sadie said...

These kids don't have a chance of normalcy. I can't help but question, like plenty of people do, if she (they) decided to even have the six kids on purpose. I'm sure they weren't aiming for such a high number - but look at how it's played out for them. J&K are hungry for money and until this show ends, which I'm hoping - for the sake of these kids - is soon, they really don't have a chance. I remember one of the episodes where Kate was complaining about one of the twin's friends calling the girls. She said something like "six year olds shouldn't be talking on the phone, I think that's ridiculous"...something to that extent and just thinking "what!?" J&K honestly have let this all go to their heads and I the ones who are hurting are their children. It's just sad that they can't even recognize that.

Anonymous said...

The kind of parent that in one episode we see using tape to block out the names of her children for 'security purposes' and in other episodes dressing her children idential with the name 'Gosselin' in bold letters on the backs of each T shirt. The same said parent that YELLS loudly to her husband in a public arena drawing undue attention to herself and her family. The same said parent parades her children in matching outfits down a city street announcing to the public, 'dont mind us'. The same said parent(s) that line up potty chairs on the driveway and see nothing wrong with having their children filmed while using the bathroom outside in public view. These are the same said parent(s) that profess to always put the welfare and best interest of their children FIRST!

Anonymous said...

Broadcasting that Alexis sleeps alone in the basement! Did those idiots (J and K) ever think of JonBenet Ramsey and that little baby Sabrina down in Florida? They are NOT normal people - NOT a normal family. They are sick. It makes me want to throw up it's so disturbing.

Anonymous said...

Dear TLC: I continued to be appalled by the exploitation of the young children on the program Jon & Kate Plus Eight. I am astonished that such public use of young children to make money for the parents, the producers, and the sponsors is allowed to continue. The house, with its omnipresent cameras and industrial lighting, is not the private safe-haven that every child should have. The children are filmed in their most private moments. Publicity puts these children in danger from intrusion by strangers. The problems escalate as each season of taping goes on. TLC should exercise its corporate responsibility since Jon and Kate Gosselin appear unwilling to put the needs of their minor children above their own interests. TLC should realize that this family is not functioning in a healthy and normal manner. The continuing broadcast of this program disturbs me and leaves me with a negative view of TLC and the sponsors, companies with which I no longer do business. Reality television is fun when the subjects are adults who understand the demands of celebrity. The Gosselin children are not in this category. TLC has many interesting programs and has a fine reputation; I believe that TLC is sensitive to the views of its viewers and will take these issues into consideration when making programming decisions. I appreciate your sharing my concerns about the situation of the Gosselin children. Sincerely, XXXXXX

This is a copy of the email I posted to TLC on their website. They have my name and email. I felt it was important to make my voice heard directly.

Anonymous said...

The sponsors that so lovingly gush money over to these horrible people for product placement, where could I find them? - that way, I know which companies to stay away from.

Serena said...

The sponsors that so lovingly gush money over to these horrible people for product placement, where could I find them? - that way, I know which companies to stay away from.

We are in the process of compiling a comprehensive. If anyone would like to add to the list any sponsors or donors they've noticed on the shows, please email them to me at serenaleighbell@yahoo.com. There have been 58 episodes produced so far, so that's a lot of companies.

Renee said...

The only people they have to get advice from are people who are making money off of them. Their "hired" people don't care about the kids as much as they care about making money. If many people think what they see on camera is bad, imagine what it's like when the cameras are off.

At least they're eligible to file for emancipation at age 15.

NewMom08 said...

TRUTH:
What you had to say again struck a chord with me. The fact that J+K don't care about your blog and what you have to say is the "least of their worries" about what info is getting out there...WOW that is really scary. Any "normal" parent/person would be MORTIFIED if their child was being shown in compromising positions like the tups, and if someone was saying such (true) things about them online. The fact that the horrible behaviors that you have brought to light are the "LEAST" of their worries...YIKES. Like I said, anyone with a conciense or "godly" bone in their body would be HORRIFIED. But then again, would anyone with a conciense or a compassionate heart do these things in the first place?
Probably not.
I too think Jon, if not Jon and Kate watch these blogs religiously. That is when they are not feigning religion at a church somewhere...and that it the true sickness. The fact that they know enough to know what they "should" be doing and how they should be acting; just shows their choice NOT TO.
How truly sad for these children.
Hopefully others will continue to get it.

Anonymous said...

I too was curious about random people finding the Gosselins. I wondered how easy it would be to find their address on the internet. It took me all of maybe 10 minutes. And, yes, the first part of my search was searching for Jodi & Kevin's house since on the show they state they are right around the corner. So I found out the address, got satellite pictures, got info on how much they paid for the house, how much tax is accessed...etc... Now please note I am way far from them and even if I was nearby, I am sane enough to NOT drive by and try to see them. However as others have pointed out there are tons of weirdos who would drive by or come up to them (if I saw them out somewhere public I might say hello to Jon {wink, wink}lol). Now I am a fan of the show but I do see both sides- I am not here to defend or anything. But if anyone here actually knows Jodi/Kevin (or Jon) perhaps (Truth set you free?) getting a message to them about how easy it was to get that info on the internet would be helpful- maybe they can get it off the internet to some degree.

Anonymous said...

What would make anyone think that Kevin and the Jon, the IT Analysis were unaware of how easy it is to find their residence?

Anonymous said...

But if anyone here actually knows Jodi/Kevin (or Jon) perhaps (Truth set you free?) getting a message to them about how easy it was to get that info on the internet would be helpful- maybe they can get it off the internet to some degree.

It is impossible to get this information off of the internet. It's a matter of public record. I'm hoping that that is why they aren't talking at all anymore about moving or where they are relocating.