Cooking with Children

A parent’s job is to teach their children. I only have one child, but I have been a Girl Scout leader to a troop of Brownies… so I’ve done the cooking with a “bunch of little kids” thing. No matter what their age, every day is about teaching a child a new skill. When I do stuff with my daughter, I take that time to teach and reinforce the basic rules of food preparation. So when Kate complained about the little kids making cupcakes – she was way out of line.


Cooking and other fun activities you do with your child is to TEACH them - if you teach them to first clean their hands, put their hair up, not lick their fingers while making food (and of course not pick their nose, ears, etc.) then you are TEACHING them social skills. You are TEACHING what is acceptable and is not and how to have PRIDE in what you make for yourself and your family. They already had hats and aprons on. Teach the next step and then let them experiment, have fun, make mistakes, get messy a bit and learn.


Plus -- there is one word for all of this - SANITIZER. A quick squirt in their hand and they can work on any project involving food. The fondant was completely safe for them to touch on the table in my opinion. And if any of the kids were seen unhygienic, then stop them for a moment and have them either wash their hands or use some sanitizer. (Quick caveat about sanitizer – it should only be used 4-5 times in a row, then wash hands again, of course if lots of nasty bodily fluids are involved, wash up with soap and water!)


The whole Cupcake Torture, J&K never explained ahead of time (on camera) that the kids all needed to eat some dinner to get the durn cupcakes - obviously skewed to favor the girls. It broke my heart to watch my guys getting hurt like that – especially after all the excitement and fun they had being at the bakery.


Speaking of fun activities, the reason the girls didn’t paint as well at the ceramics shop is because Kate won’t let them do FUN and MESSY stuff. They don’t know how to hold a paint brush or any of that. (Plus anything my child makes is fine with me, I still have a Sculpey piece of pizza she sculpted for me when she was 5. I cherish her creations as I cherish her existence in my life.)


Kate needs to see a shrink, I don't care if it is Dr. Phil the Shill, she is harming these kids with her negativity, attitude and passive-aggressive anger - she wanted the cameras, but she acts out for them: picking on Jon and now the kids with increasing venom. Denigrating the children, verbally abusing her spouse as well. They will see these "home movies" later... and it will hurt them in so many many ways.


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35 comments:

Jen said...

I agree with you that these kids are behind in skills that most 4 year olds can handle because Kate has prevented them from doing anything potentially messy. She at least admitted it a bit in the Korean dinner episode when she said that the kids aren't very good at using scissors because she wouldn't let them use them for so long.

When I was a kid, my mom was sane enogh to realize that kids make messes and just took as many precautions as she could: an old shirt of my dad's as a smock, an apron...whatever. It wasn't like we were playing with hydrochloric acid or something! I mean, flour, frosting, washable paints, etc are all easily cleaned up. My son makes messes all the time and I actually laugh at them because I know that a photo or video of it will make a great memory! :) She is so twisted in her thinking that she is missing out (and her kids are missing out) on the real memories of life.

laurie said...

I'm glad you brought up the "home movies" thing. Kate is always talking about how the reason they did the show in the beginning ("it wasn't for money" ...um puleeze), that it was so they would have the home movies and "special moments" with the family.

Wow.

These aren't the home movies WE have. We don't have children screaming half the time, knit-pick fighting between the parents, nor do we have a pouty mother in the videos all the time. nope.

Our videos are silly, loving and they show how much fun we have with each other.

Do we really think the twins and tups will LOVE these "home videos" when they're older? I doubt it. Although it might help them understand why they turned out how they did.

minxie said...

We have many pictures of our kids messy and getting into things they shouldn't, and they are among my favorites. One picture shows my (then)two-year old daughter in her high chair--chocolate pudding smeared all over her high chairtray, her face, her blond hair. My daughter's triumphant 1000-watt smile is priceless. We liked the picture so much I got it enlarged, matted and framed, and I'm looking at it right now--in its place of honor on our bookcase.

When Kate took the girls to paint pottery she denigrated their "imperfect" efforts--if I recall, didn't she call something ugly? I'm also looking at two self-portraits that my kids did in second grade. I framed each one and they hang next to each other--and even my now 16-year-old son doesn't cringe at them, because they are among our most cherished wall hangings.

Anonymous said...

While I agree these "home movies" are very scripted and also a lot of screaming...maybe the videos the Gosselin's have are the unedited version. There may be more unscripted and cute moments in them? Just a thought.

renee said...

Do we really think the twins and tups will LOVE these "home videos" when they're older? I doubt it. Although it might help them understand why they turned out how they did.

Well knowing that is half the battle in therapy so if it makes the process easier at least they have that, like you said. I'm fucked up and I was never on a tv show- I've noticed a lot of people here have felt injustices inflicted on them by their parents. I think of course this is on a much large/more public scale but also that the Gosselin kids aren't unique in having an effed up childhood. I'm watching the first special now and it seems like they like the methodic way in which you can take care of babies and they don't talk back... It's like they like the idea of the children but balk at actually interacting with now that they have personalities and opinions. Well, Kate at least.

renee said...

I also wanted to say that I have many awesome, wonderful memories from my childhood. It was almost idyllic, but my parents were kind of clueless like J&K sometimes.

FIONA said...

Great post!

I for one am afraid that Kate will use the fact that the tups are a little bit behind, to keep them out of pre school in the fall. I just do not see that happening!!!

Or, she will hire some teacher/care giver to come in and teach what the tups should have been taught long ago by Mother or Father.

Since school start in most places the 3-4 week in August, it won't be long until we know the tups fate.

LET THEM EAT CAKE AND LET THEM GO TO SCHOOL

iluveeyore said...

The only time I remember worrying about a child of mine getting dirty was when one was a 3-year-old flower girl. However, the dress was put on at the church... and once the ceremony was over, I didn't care what she did. The reception was at a "farm" and I remember taking her out to see all the animals and her chasing ducks.

Other than that, my kids did tons of activities -- and I didn't even use coverings or aprons. Clothing is washable, as are kids! I really don't remember worrying about stained clothes. It is worn by a child. Children often get stains. Sometimes they wash off, sometimes they don't. Big deal.

Fidelia said...

It's my opinion that the producers, the Gosselin parents and most of all TLC have missed the boat entirely with this series.

We have been lead to believe that the ratings are excellent (who knows what will shake down post-Enquirer) but viewers seem to be drawn to the watching the Gosselin children.

But where is the LEARN in The Leaning Channel. I can only speak for myself but I am learning NOTHING from this series about the development of children - specifically sextuplets - and there have been numerous opportunities for that just as Sarah Snow did with the cooking segment.

All I have learned is that the Gosselin parents *may* be dysfunctional parents.

Lauren

Anonymous said...

I keep thinking of poor little Joel (I believe it was) worrying about getting dirty playing golf. Thankfully, Jon told him it was o.k. to get dirty. Of course, that thought was probably only retained until Kate saw his clothes.

Anyone ever notice that when Jon screws up it's the end of the world (in Kate's opinion) and yet when Kate screws up (far more often than Jon) then all she does is laugh, like it's no big deal (which it probably isn't, to her).

Anonymous said...

The stressing out about stains from what I've been reading is that she sells the clothes through consignment.

It's too bad she can't donate the clothes and other accessories to local charities. They proclaim themselves to be Christians, but they sure don't act very Christian to me. Going to church to feed your "guilty" doesn't cut it. Preaching about it at speaking engagements doesn't cut it either. Living life true to one's faith is what MEANS something and giving back to a community would be amazing. I have two children and passing on their clothes and toys to abused women who have children has been an amazing experience for both myself and my children. They know that when they've outgrown their clothes and toys, to pack them up and we will take a trip to our local women's shelter. Let me tell you, the children we help are truly in need. One bag of toys that my kids hadn't used in months was gone through by the young residents of the shelter within minutes of giving it to them and by the time we left, the kids were playing with them. What an amazing joy we all felt watching them play with delight. Why can't J & K do the same thing?

It's too bad they have gotten caught up with money and greed. The children are the one's losing out on so much.

How sad.

minxie said...

Kate shows how classy she is when she tries to keep FREE kids' clothes spotless so that she can sell them--making 100 per cent profit. I agree with Anon 11:50 -- show the family giving things away to charity or doing something worthwhile for a change instead of indulging in ski and spa trips. The tups aren't too young to grasp the concept of giving and doing for those less fortunate.

Of course the producers would have to coax Kate to agree to such an unheard-of concept.

georgeslymaniv said...

I'm sorry, but I think hand sanitizer is gross. It's mostly alcohol.

Anonymous said...

I live in the community that the tups were born in. When they so publicly begged for items in the beginning, they said they would donate everything after they were done using it. 2 years later a lot of things that were not sold at yard sales and 2nd hand stores, showed up on their website as being for sale. For instance, that stroller for 6 that was donated to them was one item listed.
I hate the show but continue to watch. I relate it to watching a train wreck. You hate to see what is happening but you just can not look away cause you just can not believe what is happening!

Anonymous said...

Have you noticed how they had to go 75 miles from home to find a bakery who was willing to service then for free while they closed the store to the public. I believe their surrounding community really does hate them.

FIONA said...

I too agree that TLC missed the boat big time on this show. I have learned that this network doesn't care about children that is for sure. It is about money, all away around.

I have 100% given up on Kate. She will never change. Jon's only shot at normal, it to get the hell out, and fight for custody of his kids. With all the crazy shit that is on tape, what judge would gie her custody. I am being totally serious. It would be in the kids best interests, and I hope Jon is looking into getting the kids away from Kate.

Anonymous said...

Has anyone seen or read the article in the National Enquirer?

Anonymous said...

No matter how spotless, used clothing is worth almost nothing.

Anonymous said...

J & K claim that it is the TLC producers that made the decision to not include much of their 'christian life' in the reality show. However, that being said, you dont have to be a christian to do 'good deeds' and 'give back' to those less fortunate. J & K could very well present themselves with in their reality show 'doing good deeds' and 'giving back' to those less fortunate without even mentioning the word christian. They could do it just because its the RIGHT thing to do or because it is part of their own family mission statement. I have a feeling that damage control will be in full speed in the upcoming new episodes complete with J & K + 8 'giving back'. Not necessarily because they want to, but because they HAVE to.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 12:51pm said...
No matter how spotless, used clothing is worth almost nothing.

It's worth a lot to those who are in need.

Anonymous said...

"I'm sorry, but I think hand sanitizer is gross. It's mostly alcohol."

I agree. What grosses me out is that the kids use it instead of washing their hands after going potty.

Anonymous said...

I ahte to tell you but the brand name clothing and botique clothing these kids are wearing has a huge resale value. Just check Ebay!

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 12:51 I think you just gave us a vision into future episodes. Between the G's new focus on damage control and the need to come up with 40 to 50 episodes I can just see it now.....Kate and the kids serving Thanksgiving dinner to the homeless in a soup kitchen, the Gosselins spreading holiday cheer to local seniors...etc. etc. And I can even hear the "couch confessional" now...."Since the little kids are getting older we can now participate in charitable activities ....it is something we ALWAYS have done and ALWAYS will do" :)

Anonymous said...

The episode where she shops and uses coupons makes me laugh. Like she really only spends $150.00 a week on groceries! First of all... the "organic woman" that she is, uses $150.00 in paper plates a month. That irks me every time I see it!
2nd.. What about all of that "organic" meat they bought? Do we not add that into our budget?
3rd.... Is she counting her WIC checks as coupons?
and last.... I love how she states she only buys milk when it is on sale. Well, here in PA, there is a state minimum on milk and no one can sell it any lower than that price. We do not have a sale on milk... EVER! I really think that was a plea for a local dairy to give the free milk! Really, milk is something we all buy no matter what the price because or kids need it!
UGH... this family disturbs me!

Anonymous said...

'No matter how spotless, used clothing is worth almost nothing.

July 18, 2008 12:51'

Ahh...but to Kate's point of view they are celebrities thus their castoffs are in demand and have worth. Talk about inflated egos...

Anonymous said...

Has anyone actually seen their stuff in a shop, on ebay or anywhere else? Where is it selling and is it marked Jon and Kate's?

Anna said...

Kate said in an episode that they had to go to drop things off at consignment.

Carrie said...

First, I'm not sure why J&K were worried about eating what the kids made. I thought the ideas was for the kids to decorate and EAT their own cupcakes! While I can understand that it would be very difficult for Kate to cook with all six kids, she could switch off. One day, she and the girls could make a snack or meal for everyone and then another day she and the boys could do the same thing. Of course, boys are icky, so who'd want to do anything with them? [/sarcasm]

Anonymous said...

Some big items were on their website at one time.

Anonymous said...

I just want to say that I work with children in a food prep environment (the same place the Gosselins toookt the twins for cooking classes, just in a different state.) and I will NEVER eat after those kids even if I put sanitizer on them. So many times I have watched kids sneeze, cough, wipe their faces and then continue cooking.

Fidelia said...

HAVE MERCY.

I was just at the site of the couple who just had the new sextups (gorgeous couple, BTW) at
http://tinyurl.com/6qtx8d.

The article deteriorates at the bottom of the page with negative comment after negative comment about the Gosselins.

There is just no place to hide.

On a funny note, a sheeple chastized "Anon" when she/he said something to the effect that "you seem to show up every place on these blogs..." LOL! Don't they know how and why the word "anon" is used??

The Gosselin may find themselves very alone and in emotional pain very soon if not right now all because of their nationally known dysfunctional behavior.

Fidelia

dizzy_squishling_and_bean said...

Anonymous 12:51pm said...
No matter how spotless, used clothing is worth almost nothing.

I took a small box of Carter's not an expensive brand to the resale shop and got about 60 dollars for the clothes...times that by 8. Consider she didnt put any money out on those clothes in the first place....yeah you do the math.

I wouldn't eat anything stranger children prepared but my own..of course I would.

Anonymous said...

7:33PM well, I would my own kids but not some one elses. That is also true of buffetts.folk are sneezing, coughing, leaning over the food with their hair dangeling and dropping the tongs in the food after handeling them. UGH

Ben said...

I used to sell new with tags brand name kids clothing on eBay. I was lucky to get half the retail price. That's on NEW clothing.

Gymboree and Gap are WAY oversold on eBay. Last season's NEW clothing are struggling to get 40% of sticker price.

I would imagine that Kate is getting about 10% of the retail price, if that, for gently used kids Gymboree and Gap clothing at consignment. It would feel much better donating it than getting $2 or $3...or just letting the kids have fun.

Manda said...

Speaking of fun activities, the reason the girls didn’t paint as well at the ceramics shop is because Kate won’t let them do FUN and MESSY stuff. They don’t know how to hold a paint brush or any of that. (Plus anything my child makes is fine with me, I still have a Sculpey piece of pizza she sculpted for me when she was 5. I cherish her creations as I cherish her existence in my life.)

My son made this ceramic 'snowflake' in 4K or 5K. The colors on it, oh my - brown, black, orange, blue - all swirled and moshed around.

It goes on my tree every year.