... beautiful for the innocence it represents...

Louis Pasteur said, "When I approach a child, he inspires in me two sentiments; tenderness for what he is, and respect for what he may become.".

I don't think Kate Gosselin gets it; I think the poster who wrote this does:

I truly do not get Kate and the pottery.

I framed a few pictures children in my life have painted for me. It's precious to me how childlike they are, with the wobbly lines and the distorted figures and drippy paint. That's innocent, darling, something to treasure. By the time they are old enough to paint nice proportioned characters like Kate apparently wants, they will no longer be little children. An art project from a four year old is something to treasure forever, it is beautiful for the innocence that it represents, and shame on Kate uttering one negative comment about her children's work.

Shame on her for covering up a four year old's work of art because she wanted it just so. Shame on her for tricking a child into thinking that she actually cared about what that child was painting. Shame on her for being worried about pottery not being covered "completely" so it would be "perfect," when she should have been enjoying and treasuring the time with her little ones. Shame.

Reprinted with permission from Virga.

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree with this sentiment, actually. I do think Kate truly enjoyed the day for its harmony and fun but I was a little taken aback by two things: her inability to deal with mess screams obsessive compulsive to me. Life is messy, esp when you have 8 children! I think she may give herself an ulcer well before her time, if she doesn't learn to lighten up a bit. She makes ME anxious just watching her have to shield her eyes from the "mess."

Secondly, I was a little sad that her favorite project - Alexis's - turned out to be something she manipulated. I understand Alexis may have bitten off more than she could chew with that bowl but if you notice, she started to put her own handprints on it when Kate then covered it up. I was hoping it would turn out that Kate loved the bowl because Alexis did something innovative and unique - not because Kate made it into something "presentable." Is it so humiliating to showcase your children's artwork if less than perfect?

Serena said...

Life is messy, esp when you have 8 children! I think she may give herself an ulcer well before her time, if she doesn't learn to lighten up a bit.

Not to mention give her kids neuroses out the yin yang.

Anonymous said...

I loved how Kate called Mady's jewelry "hideous".

Mama Kate said...

I completely, totally agree. The joy of little children doing crafts is that they DON'T do it "right". They don't do it according to any rules or guidelines or preconceived notions. Apparently Kate just doesn't get it. Instead, she has the kids make objects for her, for her kitchen, and if those objects go in her kitchen, they HAVE to be perfect. It is sad, really.

And when she said to Mady "Oh my goodness, it looks like REAL artwork!" As opposed to what, Kate? FAKE artwork? Your children aren't artists because they don't create something that looks like it came from Pottery Barn? This chick totally lost the point amidst her won selfish desire for perfection. I give her a TINY bit of credit for now freaking the hell out on her kids for getting dirty, but something tells me that had more to do with her taking her meds that day.

Serena said...

And when she said to Mady "Oh my goodness, it looks like REAL artwork!" As opposed to what, Kate? FAKE artwork?

I honestly think Kate meant that as a compliment but my oh my it was revealing. She was imposing an adult criterion on a child -- to an adult, it would be a compliment to say something like, "Oh, that's so good it looks like it belongs in a museum!"., because by the time we're adults we tend to think the value of something comes from how it stacks up against something else.

But to a child, that means nothing -- to a child, the value of their artwork comes from the sheer joy they took in creating it.

Anonymous said...

A couple of things: The real artwork comment came from a good place and I bet was well taken. There was no indication that Cara (the one she said it to) took it as anything but. As viewers we see things through our lense and then project it, and I think this is one of those points. The phrasing may be inartful, but I really doubt Cara was upset because Kate didn't say "it should be in a museum" instead of "it looks like real artwork." I think it was just a mother commending a child on a job well done, and I would lay dollars to donuts that Cara was proud because her mom said that.

The only thing Kate changed was the bowl, partially because she said it would never get finished by the time they had to leave, partially because she was going to be using it and she said she wanted people to not be frightened to use it. I honestly didn't see anything wrong with it, and if she was really as terrible as you seem to think, she would have painted the inside too. She did say, by the by, that even though the "projects" weren't perfect she would want to keep them and display them because they made them. I have many a drawing that I have no clue what it is, they are downright ugly--and I love them and will keep them always. Again, putting their comments and reactions through our lense. It would be

Everyone gets on her for flipping out about messes, and when she works on that people still find ways to criticize (by saying "oh she isn't better she just took meds," etc.) I have panic disorder and OCD (actually diagnosed) and I do very similar things. It is horrible, and believe me you would control it if you could. I think Kate can't control it, but she is at least trying to work on it. She did very well yesterday and she appeared to have a nice, calm, fun day with her girls.

But then Kate can't win for losing; even when she tries she gets called a horrible person.

Anonymous said...

partially because she was going to be using it and she said she wanted people to not be frightened to use it

Odd ... Jon & Kate have 8 children, and six are under the age of 4. The majority of people that come to their house are more than familiar with these children so anyone who is "scared" by a bowl with some random yet typical 4-year old painting all over it probably isn't too bright to begin with ...and I call BS on that argument. Who is going to think the bowl is unusable, esp when they knew Alexis painted it? The crew? Aunt Jodi? Please.

FIONA said...

I don't buy the OCD complaint Kate uses when it is convienant.

I DO think she has a psychological disorder. But I also think she is a manipulative and lazy individual.

Really, I don't see her do much for the kids. I think Jon does most of the work.

She almost seems incapable at times. Drivng into the "city"...good grief, we aren't talking about LA traffic. How to operate the rear air conditioner in the van. She does not seem to want to be independant. I worry about how secure the kids feel when it is just Kate around.

All they know is Mom is exhausted and stressed. What does that feel like to a child?

I too was mortified by her comment about Mady's jewelry, which leads me to believe this woman will never learn. MADY-YOUR JEWELRY WAS AWESOME KIDDO!!!!

NS said...

But then Kate can't win for losing; even when she tries she gets called a horrible person.

I'll admit it, you're probably right. There's very little she can do to redeem herself at this point. We've seen too much previously that shows her true colors and now it is just insincere damage control for the sake of holding the reigns of the gravy train.

Maggie said...

Who is there to be frightened by the bowl? They have run off all of their friends and family, the only people who come to the house are the babysitters and camera crew,

Anonymous said...

She said they would be frightened to eat out of it. I don't know that anyone would, I was just giving her reason for it.

sherp said...

Fiona - I don't buy the OCD complaint either. Jeff on "Flippin Out" is classic OCD. Kate's house is a mess. The open potty business would not occur with an OCD person. I do see her as anxiety ridden but I think she is really just a mean controll person.

Anonymous said...

"I don't buy the OCD complaint either. Jeff on "Flippin Out" is classic OCD. Kate's house is a mess. The open potty business would not occur with an OCD person. I do see her as anxiety ridden but I think she is really just a mean controll person."

This statement is a misunderstanding of OCD. Just because one of her obsessions is
germs/dirt doesn't mean she is disturbed by open potties. Obsessions can be very specific (e.g., afraid of contamination from raw meat) or more general (e.g., afraid of a variety of germs, contaminants, etc.), so you shouldn't assume she doesn't have OCD. She shows MANY classic symptoms of OCD and would greatly benefit from professional help.

Anonymous said...

First time poster - love this blog!

My DH and I went to paint your own pottery. We did 2 tiny pieces, and painted for 3 hours. Cost us 60$.

We were watching in awe as the 6 of them painted "the entire store", as I paraphrase what Kate said.

In real life that would have cost hundreds of dollars...

I assume this was a freebie as well????

Anonymous said...

Kate's OCD is self-assessed as far as we know. By putting a medical label on her behavior, she can rationalize that it's out of her control. However, OCD or not, she needs to get her manipulative, controlling tendencies treated because her family will suffer if she doesn't. I hope she doesn't think that she shouldn't change because it will lessen her TV drama value.

Anonymous said...

I noticed that as well that even thought she was painting and making a mess with the kids, she said she didn't want to see them painting or making a mess and made the people/workers do all the dirty work to clean them up. It's so strange. she is turning them into OCD children. I also noticed that she was making a face when one of her daughters wanted to paint the whole thing orange or purple, who cares? It's their interpretation of art and she should be happy they are being creative and not care if it won't match her house or look perfect.

Tiffany Donahue said...

It really bothered me when Kate made a comment about the color one of the girls was painting her piece of pottery, I think it was a horse. In the wonderful imagination of a four year-old, why shouldn't a horse be purple? Kids remember how parents react to these things, good or bad. I'm 27 and I can still remember my mom saying things like "Wow, how pretty!" My parents have even managed to keep most of the "art" my sister and I made as children. It means a lot to us to know how appreciated our little creations were.

Anonymous said...

Why is anyone still watching this show? After the hair transplant episode and teeth cleaning episodes i and my children stopped watching this show. I was expecting them to get colonoscopies next. After they stopped using Aunt Jodi and their friends on the show it was terrible boring. I also can't stand watching Kate anymore.